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One of my favorite people in all the world is Louise Hay, the mother of positive thinking thought consciousness and publishing powerhouse.
I had what I thought would be a thought provoking post. I was even going to go more into depth regarding my mother’s late stage cancer almost 5 years ago, her being diagnosed and then asking me, as if I was the mother, if she was going to die. My mother is cancer free now. And so I thought I’d write about some of the things we did to compliment her radiation and chemotherapy. Things like meditation, prayer, visualization, talking (as much as a parent could with their kid and vice versa) about all the things that may have led up to her illness, and the belief that with God’s help and medical intervention-her body would be healed. But then I went to one of Louise Hay’s twitter messages a few moments ago and it read:
Don’t run around and try 2 heal [everyone]. Do your own work & heal yourself. This will do more good for those around you.
And in a strange way it took my mother’s illness for me to finally understand that the mind and the body are intergrated. Mainstream science is just starting to embrace the impact of thought and emotions on the overall body. And so if depression has adverse affects on the brain (pictured below)
what would a habitual negative thought or unresolved feeling(s) do to the body overall? I don’t believe that people wake up and say: “today I’m going to suffer from something that has the potential to kill me”. Or today I’m going to catch a cold, suffer a job loss, or some other traumatizing event. But I truly believe that most illnesses and other losses have the ability to teach us valuable lessons about stresses, love, right action, forgiveness, letting go of old hurts and old jobs and PEOPLE that no longer serve, etc.
So what am I fixing/healing now? Well, It is my aim for the rest of 2009 and beyond to move more toward joyous and purposeful work and to make bold and couragous moves.
Someone emailed me recently about why this blog isn’t relationship focused anymore. Well I believe that when you’re actively and HONESTLY working on bettering yourself, good relationships sort of magically fall into place. Its almost like the same dumb shi!t and people you seem to have once attracted or was attracted to, doesn’t even see you and vice versa.
Morning, y’all.
@cbg: Good post. Thanks for sharing some of the things that helped you & your mom deal with the illness & work with the treatments.
“Don’t run around and try 2 heal [everyone]. Do your own work & heal yourself. This will do more good for those around you.”
I really like this quote that was tweeted. I am finding this to be very applicable to me while dealing with my sister’s cancer. I want to be as strong, emotionally & spiritually healthy as possible for her. I truly believe that the strength & optimism of those around you during difficult times have healing properties.
“I truly believe that the strength & optimism of those around you during difficult times have healing properties.
”
@ Shawnta..if I don’t know one thing…I know THIS to be true. When I get back from starbucks I’m gonna email you some stuff.
Hey Treehouse!!!
I think you can’t expect to help another if you haven’t helped yourself. If your state of mind isn’t right, how can you expect to be there for another person????
Morning guys, how was everyones weekend?
I am learning everyone else’s problems aren’t mine. I can offer encouragement and keep it moving.
Weekend was AWESOME, but it went by too fast… I sleep too much. lol
That’s exactly right Mikki..making everyone’ problem your own reminds me of the sister on The Secret Life of the Bees… it wore her down.
@cbg: Thanks. I appreciate it. I’ve been researching things about how to handle/accept when family members don’t want to accept help/support. This is one of the biggest issues we’re facing with my sister. We think it’s because she’s scared and still processing it but as of now, she is rejecting all support. I’m learning to accept this & make peace with it and trust the situation in God’s hands but it’s hard because what she’s dealing with is hard enough alone without also having to bicker with family about things she honestly doesn’t HAVE to share with us.
@Nicki: Agreed.
@Mik: I see you survived the kiddies & had a great time. Good for you! Our weekend was really good and it was exactly what we needed…a break from everything too heavy to just relax and hang out. We had dinner out with friends each night Fri-Sun & we saw Law Abiding Citizen and really enjoyed it.
Nic what did you do?
“That’s exactly right Mikki..making everyone’ problem your own reminds me of the sister on The Secret Life of the Bees… it wore her down.”
@Mik & @Nicki: It is exhausting and definitely enough to wear & tear you down when you take on everyone else’s problems & make their well being and happiness a priority and ignore your own. It catches up with you eventually. We aren’t meant to resolve everyone’s issues.
@Mik: Friday, I fell asleep, what else is new? lol
Saturday we went grocery shopping and I started my meal for the week.. baked chicken, greens, macaroni and cheese, cornbread muffins.
I wooped J in SPADES.. WOOOPED HIM. lol
Sunday, church, then we went shopping to find me a dress for my friend’s weddding this weekend and went to my granny’s to eat. We went to bed kinda early and just talked.. I love that. lol
What about u?
@Mik: Meant to add…we also went to the Columbus Marathon to support and cheer on a close friend of ours who ran her third 1/2 marathon. She set a new personal record and completed the 1/2 marathon in 2 hours 6 minutes. It was cold out & I feel like I’m getting sick now but it was definitely worth it. She inspires/motivates me.
“It catches up with you eventually. We aren’t meant to resolve everyone’s issues.”
@Shawnie: That’s for sure…
Glad to see you in here this morning.. how was the date night?
But I truly believe that most illnesses and other losses have the ability to teach us valuable lessons about stresses, love, right action, forgiveness, letting go of old hurts and old jobs that no longer serve, etc.
I completely agree with this. there is nothing better for you on this planet than a healthy, hopeful, and optimistic mind. the saying goes that prayer changes things. I believe that part of the power in prayer is that it changes YOUR mind, and the result is that your circumstances change. Of course I believe in God and that His hand is in it, but if our relationship with Him is personal, then it’s the change in us that affects our situation, not a magic touch from the heavens.
“Glad to see you in here this morning.. how was the date night?”
@Nicki: It was good. We double dated with friends on Fri. night & went to Cheesecake Factory & saw a movie, we triple dated with friends on Sat. night & went to BJ’s, we triple dated yesterday for brunch at Mimi’s and then we triple dated last night and went to Johnny Buccelli’s…and I want to know where were my Treehouse sisters to hold me accountable for this weight loss I claim to want…LOL!
Just kidding…although I didn’t cook ONE thing this weekend, it was good, fun and I didn’t overdo it.
Hey ForNot!
@Shawnie: It’s always a good time going out with friends!!!! We have BJs here too.. girl, have you had a pizookie?
Weight loss: GET BACK ON THE BALL! I’m reclaiming it this week too. Although I didn’t get out of control with eating, I was sick last week so I wasn’t going to the gym.
wow shawnta thats wonderful, I can’t even run up the stairs lol, thats great you went out to support your friend.
Nic can i come over every day this week for dinner?
my weekend was exhausting, I had 4 kids (one 7months old) from friday til sunday, took them to this western festival on saturday and church on sunday all of them finally gone by 5pm lol.
It was cool tho i got a lot of nice messages from there parents thanking me and loving me for keeping them all. I became a pretend auntie and the coolest person ever per one of the kids all in one weekend.
and the ex spent the night
U shole can Mikki!
Aw lawd on 4 kids- lol. I am sure the parents loved you for it. And the kids did too.. I love being a pseudo auntie
How did it go with the ex?
*sigh*
I sooooooo want to send this post to my friend. It’s mentally draining to deal with someone who refuses to change their way of thinking when dealing with an illness.
She called me the other day, after an “episode” wanting sympathy. I could NOT give it to her. I pretty much told her that she had to make changes to her line of thinking and that there are potential lifestyle changes (i.e. her work schedule) that she may need to make. I’m like you don’t see the connection to your mental state and when these “episodes” happen. She refused to listen to a word I said. Her basic response was the doctors don’t know what’s wrong and they’re specialist. I’m like f*ck the doctors. No one knows you better than you. They’re caring for hundreds of other people, no one can care about YOU the way YOU do. And you’re a nurse. GTFOOHWTBS
I wanted to smack the shyt out of her. I seriuosly love this girl, but there are times I don’t like her. This is one of the times. I can’t take it serious and care more than you do.
Be sure to check J out.
http://martinandgina.wordpress.com/2009/10/19/you-your-and-i-vs-we-us-and-ours/#comment-156
and the ex spent the night .
Ummmmmmm……was this the ex you claimed you didn’t even want to meet for dinner? LOL. My how things go from not wanting to see ‘em to spending the night. ::palin wink::
@V: I have relationships with that with friends sometimes.. and it’s exhausting for them to call over and over about the SAME THING.
At what point is it okay to say, “I don’t want to hear it anymore.”
lol V yea thats him, can’t a girl get lonely?? lol
it was about 11:30 when he finally got there. He messed around on my computer trying to fix it for a minute and then we went to bed n just cuddling. That part was cool but nothing happen outside of that. But would I do it again?? prolly not, I think im still a bit bitter from the break up. So unless he does something ultra nice my heart is on ice. And i think he has some kinda idea that he gets to crash at my house while working everyday (just started a new GOOD job) today. WHICH IS not gonna happen.
im mad about the job part cuz he will be making nice money but im not driven by money and its a DARN SHAME!!!
Nic the kids parents were great, they both gave me food and money for the kids and one kept calling to check on me and make sure i needed stuff. If I told her i needed something she brought it.
it makes a world of a diff when they parents don’t just leave you hanging.
@mik: “it makes a world of a diff when they parents don’t just leave you hanging.”
It really does!!!!! And the fact that they gave you money is something I have never experienced. LOL. I need your kid’s parents to have a talk with my kids parents
@ Nicki – I can’t go to the link. They’ve blocked ish again
I want them to make up their minds. I’m sick of this one week it’s unblocked the next week it’s blocked. I should complain to somebody. LOL.
WHICH IS not gonna happen. .
@ Mik – We shall see. lol
@Mik: why are you so angry over it?
@Nik: Dang they suck!!!! lol.
lol Nic hear?? girl I learned my lesson from the last times I have baby sat, Kids can be expensive. I asked for money because I know I can NOT afford to feed them AND take them places. I love to do lil activities n go places and not just be up in the house all day but ish aint free!! They parents had no problem giving them money and food and whatever else. They must know that if they want a future baby sitter they gotta act right lol
they treated me so well, i’d watch the kids anytime.
lol V don’t jinks me, im so serious right now.
Nic I guess I can’t say bitter 100%, he just did some things that didn’t make me feel all mushy inside which brought back not good memories. I don’t want him in my ora if he gone act funky lol.
Good morning y’all…
You have to take care of self first!!!! This is a must. I can be guilty of this where I sometimes overwhelm myself by trying to be there…. But I’m learning how to not take on other people’s problems… I can’t do something about EVERYTHING.
Hey 80’s how was your party??
“They parents had no problem giving them money and food and whatever else. They must know that if they want a future baby sitter they gotta act right lol”
@Mik: That’s for sure. lol.
Re: the ex. Have yaw talked about the way he acted up?
@80s: I saw the FB pictures… the party looked really nice!
What up 80s?!?! You put up pics? I’ma have to check them out
from my phonelater. LOLNot yet nic, if it comes up I will address it. Other than that im just gonna keep it lite n breezy
Hey 80’s how was your party??
@Mik…. It went GREAT!!!!!!! And I was so proud of my two down @zz chica’s…. We got that stuff crackin’ in no time as far as food and setting up…. By time people were coming our food was ready and the presentation was set…. My momma would have been so proud of my presentation… (I buy all kind of crap and I was finally able to put it all to use) A lot of my friends were like you are in your element ie entertaining….
It was a lot of fun….. It ended up being about 40 people that came through….
But how come ummmm majority of them were male… It was only 10 girls total… lol@Mik: As long as yaw r on the same page…. how does he act? Are things light and breezy to him?
I saw the FB pictures… the party looked really nice!
@Nick…. Thanks
You put up pics? I’ma have to check them out from my phone later.
@V… I sure did… And it was a couple of pics where I said shouts out to my accessory ie my butt pad…. So check that out too… Ha!! One of my friends was trying to call me out….It’s this lil guy who is like our lil brother… So she telling him feel this (her butt) and then feel that (my padded butt)…. This negro couldn’t even tell I had on butt pad until I told him… He said he just thought I had a hard butt due to squats or something… LMAO
I saw that accessory” caption on the pic and I was gonna write LMBO… but then I thought that would be corny. lol
I saw that accessory” caption on the pic and I was gonna write LMBO… but then I thought that would be corny. lol
@Nick…. LOL I figured y’all would get it…. I know people been wanting to see pics of the “accessory” in action…. LOL
“Nick…. LOL I figured y’all would get it…. I know people been wanting to see pics of the “accessory” in action…. LOL”
I thought it looked convincing.. it’s looks normal.. not Lastaya-ish at all.
It was a lot of fun….. It ended up being about 40 people that came through…. But how come ummmm majority of them were male… It was only 10 girls total… lol .
Whenever we used to throw parties, there were always way more guys than chicks. The guys used to say it was a sausage party…..but I bet they always stayed. Lol.
I thought it looked convincing.. it’s looks normal.. not Lastaya-ish at all.
@Nicki….. I don’t even know why a guy would trip if he found out about the pad because it’s just a lil extra… It wouldn’t be a scenario where it was like what happened to that fatty..lol…… In a couple of close up pics it looked fake… But I think that was because my jeans were too freaking tight. It didn’t have a round to it…. lol
@80s: A guy would trip if your a&& is the reason he asked you out and in that case, his shallow a** should kick rocks.
Whenever we used to throw parties, there were always way more guys than chicks. The guys used to say it was a sausage party…..but I bet they always stayed. Lol.
@V….. Exactly….But thing is I really didn’t tell too many people because I didn’t want my apt to be overwhelmed… It was a couple of randoms who still popped up though…
But that’s the only good thing about still being in my town around Homecoming because people
dudeskept coming over… On Friday night we had company until 5:30 in the morning…. I went to sleep on them though… lolOkay from what I can see on my phone, the butt pad looks convincing. I am still so weak at you though.
I see what your Halloween costume is too. LOL
We went to a Halloween store in the mall yesterday and seriously, the costume were not made for regular sized women.
I see what your Halloween costume is too. LOL
@V… That’s one of the possibilities…
@Nick…. Yeah Halloween costumes sizes are stupid.
“Nick…. Yeah Halloween costumes sizes are stupid.”
They either had porno star size or 1X.
>>>>I am not either.
Powerful post CBG!
Good Morning Ladies! What are we talking about?
Hey Hol… just shooting the breeze.
How was your weekend?
♪♪ Holly Berry Holly Berry ♪♪
Hey V and Nick!
It was good! How was you guys??
I saw Good Hair… talk about a GOOD MOVIE!!!!!!!!!!
It was pretty good Hol…. relaxing but I’m still yawning. lol
I wanna go see that!!!!
LOL it seem like it was over too fast!
Nick the movie made you think about what you do to your hair and how it may be brought on from your self esteem.
“Nick the movie made you think about what you do to your hair and how it may be brought on from your self esteem.”
@Hol: I heard it was pretty powerful… was it packed in the theatre?
AMEN AMEN on this one:
“Don’t run around and try 2 heal [everyone]. Do your own work & heal yourself. This will do more good for those around you.
“I wooped J in SPADES.. WOOOPED HIM. lol”
How did I know you would come on here blasting me about that lol. That’s okay more games will be played and I shall have no mercy on you.
I want to see Good Hair, but like 80s said, it doesn’t open here until this Friday. BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
How did I know you would come on here blasting me about that lol. That’s okay more games will be played and I shall have no mercy on you. .
It’s something about whooping a person in spades that feels oh so good! lol
“How did I know you would come on here blasting me about that lol. That’s okay more games will be played and I shall have no mercy on you.”
I know you ain’t trying to say you won bc u had mercy on me. I re-nigged and STILL WON suckaman
“It’s something about whooping a person in spades that feels oh so good! lol”
@V: Because that is the unofficial game of black people. lol
Plus J is always beating me in everything else.
Hey Jol!
Great post CBG….
I’m trying to keep up with all the other assignments right now first, but yes good post.
I hope everyone had a good and warm weekend
Hey Jolie!! Count down to Gimlets in DC!
@Nick- it wasnt but it was a lot of truth in that movie… like they talked about the Indian Remi hair… and the hair is taken from the Indian temple… the Indians are givign the hair as a sacrifice to God not know it’s ending up here on someone’s head!
“the Indians are givign the hair as a sacrifice to God not know it’s ending up here on someone’s head!”
@Hol: OH EM GEE.. that makes me feel like I messed with something spiritual by purchasing it!
@ Sunny
“If your state of mind isn’t right, how can you expect to be there for another person????
”
This is SOOO true. I believe this too.
“I can offer encouragement and keep it moving.
”
@ Mik..Healthy detachment. I agree with this as well. Everyone has their own personal journey. But I do believe that if you have information or even an inspiring word, you should be compelled to share. BUT to your point, I do believe that people can get sick off of other’s people’s stuff-if they themselves haven’t or arent doing the work. It takes a certain amount strength to go about helping others. I believe that transference of energy, if not protected, can cause one person’s life to dump on anothers.
I re-nigged
@Nick… I am making a mental note of this… You can NEVER be my partner if you out here renigging…. Aww naw… LOL
“Of course I believe in God and that His hand is in it, but if our relationship with Him is personal, then it’s the change in us that affects our situation, not a magic touch from the heavens.
”
Totally, Nottie. We are all a creative life force made in God’s image and likeness. Im not sure I totally believe in predetermination because free will is the gift we’ve all been given. I also believe that some people are just ready to transition on to their next phase in life. And that physical death is a passage for a new form or existance.
“No one knows you better than you. They’re caring for hundreds of other people, no one can care about YOU the way YOU do. And you’re a nurse. GTFOOHWTBS
”
@ Vroom..You were HOT LOL..but i think Mik has a point to. Sometimes all you can do is offer the information and when they’re ready, they’ll get it. Its hard though to have a healthy detachment on close friends and family.
@CBG-I used to be guilty of taking my friend’s burdens trying to be a “good friend” then I realized that I was stressing more than they did so I put a stop to it.
I’m undecided on positive thinking and the relationship to health. I think that it is a factor but then again if the person never recovers from illness then is it construed as “you just didn’t think enough good thoughts?”
Barbara Ehrenreich who wrote “Nickel And Dimed” has a new book on the subject of positivity. She wrote about the subject after being diagnosed with breast cancer. Interesting link about the book below:
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2009/10/19/DD211A4O4C.DTL
I will say this though sometimes you don’t want to hear the positivity police on your mental scanner. Not comparing my joblessness to illness but if I hear one more “Something big is coming for you. God will provide, Just keep being positive,etc. ” I WILL SCREAM!! Don’t get me wrong because at least I have people who care about my well-being but when you have friends that have only known you after a layoff, grad school and more unemployment (5 years) the nice sayings start to sound tired.
I have a friend who has HIV. When he told me I said “That’s f–d up but u better take ur meds or ima beat yo a–z because if you start looking like death ima tell ya”. He laughed out loud because he said that I was the first person who didn’t lay the “it will get better, it will teach u something, etc..”speech.
I was supposed to leave today but it seems like it will be tomorrow. Spoke with someone in SC about a possible job opportunity in January.
Got a question for yall? Why is it when people need to say something that they might be uncomfortable with, they send a text message? I got one about moving out after Thanksgiving which I have no problem with because I only have money for one more month if I can’t secure a job plus I want to be in my own space and she deserves her own space back. Heck I will just come home to SC ;( and continue the grind. I think i was just irritated that I got that in a text.
@V-”GTFOOHWTBS” It is sad that I automatically knew what this meant.
@Shawnta-let ur sister be mad for awhile and release it
@Nikki-maybe I can stop in ohio or kentucky to see you or V tomorrow but if not I will call you. Concerning friends with the drama like I told Jada, they have a 1 hour maximum per week to bytch after that conversation is switched to another topic.
@Holly-congrats on the job
@Mikki-Hey girl. That was nice of u too babysit. I’m assuming that the ex situation is totally over from what u said.
@80s-Hey how are you?
“ie my butt pad”
@80s..logging on to FB RIGHT NOW TO LOOK AT YOUR BOOTY CUSHION..lol
“Nick… I am making a mental note of this… You can NEVER be my partner if you out here renigging…. Aww naw… LOL”
LMAO.. 80s, I don’t know waht go into me.. I was like half paying attention. .we were playing and watching pineapple express. lol. Swear this is my first. lol
“I’m undecided on positive thinking and the relationship to health.”
@ B Money..I HONESTLY believe there’s nothing to be undecided about. ITS SCIENTIFIC.
Last night I was looking for this pbs special I watched a few years back with Momma Comeback on a diseased brain suffering from a LONG bout with depression. It was similiar to the PET scan above in this post, but it was an actual picture. It literally had started to corrode.
Sometime this week I’ll also touch on more of Dr. Bruce Lipton researcher at Stanford School of Med, who spent 20-30 years measuring how thought patterns and belief affect the cellular structure in parts of the physical body.
“Don’t get me wrong because at least I have people who care about my well-being but when you have friends that have only known you after a layoff, grad school and more unemployment (5 years) the nice sayings start to sound tired. ”
See I don’t think that positivity is airy fairy. Like I wrote above its SCIENTIFIC. Its spiritual. I honestly believe that when you change “change the way you look at things..the things you look at change” Wayne D.
So what looked to have been a closed door…you see an opening through the back. Sometimes (ALL THE TIME) unemployment is a blessing..you get closer to the work you were meant to do, if you listen long enough.
I always say the proof is in the pudding. I look at people who live very negative lives and compare those who look at things positively and EVERY time..the positive people have better relationships, more money, more time, healthier levels of weight..etc. etc.
Im not sure I totally believe in predetermination because free will is the gift we’ve all been given.
I agree. I think there is an optimal path for our life, but that there are a million paths to get to the same end spot. And abillion wrong paths to take. But in the end, it’s our choice. It’s like those choose your own adventure books from back in the day. LOL
Good grief V, A frgging text??? That makes that b-s sound so more impersonable. Am I your friend or a client? COME ON NOW. Not that there should be an excuse, but I think she did that because it was awkward.
I think people (at least I do) tend to get on the positivity police bandwagon because we don’t know what else to say… what do you say to a person who has cancer? Who lost their job? You want to help but you don’t know how to.
Re: Stopping.. okay cool. Let me know. I have class tonight until 7:15 pm. but tomorrow I get off work at 3:30 and will be done for the day (if you don’t count my POLICING test I have to do online. lol)
“Powerful post CBG!”
@ HollyBerry..thanks
Why is it when people need to say something that they might be uncomfortable with, they send a text message? .
Electronic courage.
Awwwww, Comeback, how I heart thee this morning.
The beau left yesterday, and strangely enough, I haven’t been as devastated as I thought I would be or as I usually am. It actually startled me a bit. By reading you, I realize that I have been doing a lot of conscious efforts to think positively and appreciate the moments, the blessings when they happen… I am also honestly looking forward doing my Vision Board. All of these simple/small things have made me take a happy outlook to my otherwise annoying situation.
Thanks for the daily reminder that life should be lived as a whole and not in compartments like I sometimes tend to do.
Good morning Treehouse!
“By reading you, I realize that I have been doing a lot of conscious efforts to think positively and appreciate the moments, the blessings when they happen… I am also honestly looking forward doing my Vision Board. All of these simple/small things have made me take a happy outlook to my otherwise annoying situation.”
That’s great Lovely!!!
“The beau left yesterday, and strangely enough, I haven’t been as devastated as I thought I would be or as I usually am. ”
@ LP..i missed the 411..how was his visit..when will you see him again?
Got a question for yall? Why is it when people need to say something that they might be uncomfortable with, they send a text message?
@BGrits.. It’s a cop out….
I’m doing great……..In need of some recuperation from my weekend. Other than that… No complaints whatsoever
Have you ate at Zaxby’s yet????
man Nick it had me thinking! like how would you feeling knowing your pastor took ur tithe and bought a bentley!!??
I am also honestly looking forward doing my Vision Board .
Me too!! This weekend I picked up a couple poster boards. And I went to Half Price books and picked up a variety of magazines.
I never got around to doing the board, but Im one step closer to doing it SOON!!!
I bought a journal too, just in case I decide I wanna write some ish down. LOL
Why ya’ll doing vision boards??? I’m lost!
:man Nick it had me thinking! like how would you feeling knowing your pastor took ur tithe and bought a bentley!!??”
@Hol: I would have to quit going!!!!! lol
I am also honestly looking forward doing my Vision Board .
Me too!! This weekend I picked up a couple poster boards. And I went to Half Price books and picked up a variety of magazines.
@V & LP… Me three…. I have like a 2 or 3 year collection of Essence Magazines that are just chillin in my hallway…. I’m not throwing them away until I do my Vision Board… I hope to have that completed by this week.
Why ya’ll doing vision boards??? I’m lost!
@Holly…Comeback been giving us homework assignments…. lol
See I don’t think that positivity is airy fairy. Like I wrote above its SCIENTIFIC. Its spiritual. I honestly believe that when you change “change the way you look at things..the things you look at change”
Definitely agree with this. It takes a WHOLE lot of thought process changes to get to a point where the spiritual/scientific link between our life and its challenges becomes obvious. I would say Awareness of those things (listening to everything and being so in tune with what’s going on that we don’t miss a beat) is the first step.
I think it’s often difficult for people to get in that mode because it removes the possibility of NOT taking responsibility. When someone thinks that way, they can no longer only blame external forces for their challenges; They HAVE TO take ownership for the stuff that happens to them…
I believe taking ownership of a difficult situation one might be in and realizing how one’s hand might have contributed to it is the most powerful feeling in the world.
@V & LP… Me three…. I have like a 2 or 3 year collection of Essence Magazines that are just chillin in my hallway…. I’m not throwing them away until I do my Vision Board… I hope to have that completed by this week. .
I was on this chick’s blog http://christinekane.com/blog/how-to-make-a-vision-board/ and decided I want my board to be The “Opening and Allowing” Vision Board. lol
@Nicki,
Thanks darling!
@Cbg,
@ LP..i missed the 411..how was his visit..when will you see him again?
The visit was fantastic…
. When are we seeing again? Not sure. Probably around the holidays if I can wrangle some time. Hopefully sooner than later. 
I think it’s often difficult for people to get in that mode because it removes the possibility of NOT taking responsibility. When someones thinks that way, theycan no longer only blame external forces for their challenges; They HAVE TO take ownership for the stuff that happens to them… ..
I agree!
I was on this chick’s blog http://christinekane.com/blog/how-to-make-a-vision-board/ and decided I want my board to be The “Opening and Allowing” Vision Board. lol
@V… I just went and looked…. I like that one too…. It seems like it’s powerful in an unknowing kind of way
I wanna do my vision board this weekend….I am going to run over and look at that site real quick.
Does anyone else have VoIP phone service? Everytime I am on a call it keeps cutting out and this last one was BUSINESS.
Uggh.
“I think it’s often difficult for people to get in that mode because it removes the possibility of NOT taking responsibility”
@ LP…i agree. But I think sometimes its TOO much or not enough. Sometimes people mask failure with OVERPLANNING. And doing all the wrong uninspired things.
I honestly don’t think life is THAT hard. If something isn’t working for like 3 years. Maybe that THING isn’t for you. Try something else.
“I was on this chick’s blog http://christinekane.com/blog/how-to-make-a-vision-board/ and decided I want my board to be The “Opening and Allowing” Vision Board. lol”
Vroom..you got me listening to her youtubes LOL..right now.
OK….
I am going to do two vision boards one for “Opening and Allowing” and the other one that was about rebirth or cycles. The O&A will be long term-ish while the other one will be just for 2010.
The next thing I want to do …is more Bible Study and Meditation. I have two books from Iyanla Vanzant that I want to get into because I feel like I’m off my center…likely because I do too much running about.
“likely because I do too much running about.”
@ Action Jackson. YES..sometimes when you describe your day it makes me tired. Like this chile don’t REST for a minute.
Vroom..you got me listening to her youtubes LOL..right now.
Yep, I am on her site perusing… Lol!
I knew there was a reason I kept all those magazines.
I just have to buy the latest ESPN and my Vision Board would be complete! Ha!
“likely because I do too much running about.”
@ Action Jackson. YES..sometimes when you describe your day it makes me tired. Like this chile don’t REST for a minute.
@CBG
Absolutely. A new person that I met said the same thing. He was like you never ever rest. I need you to do a post about sleep and some ways to get there and stay that way. I don’t get up or anything or I toss and turn ALL NIGHT…and I have no idea why…I also cannot take naps…not one
“Absolutely. A new person that I met said the same thing. He was like you never ever rest. I need you to do a post about sleep and some ways to get there and stay that way.”
FB……………that post would be very dangerous. I LOVE MY PILLOW TOP..if i could conduct business there I would. LOL..i read or heard somewhere that Vera Wang does this..not sure if she has clients over in her bedroom. But if I could conduct my life out of my bed for 4 days a week I would be HAPPY.
SLEEP IS MY FAVORITE.
lol
@V-speaking on vision boards..i’ve been collecting images and I’m starting to paste them up but in my case I’m doing a vision book instead of a board since I’m space challenged at the moment. How about yo collect your images and you keep losing them? maybe I need an organization board..lol. I will check out that link.
@CBG-Don’t get me wrong about the power of positive thinking because I do believe that it works sometimes but imho it isn’t the ‘be all to end all’. I think about the Terry Schiavo case when her parents and other people said that she was better than she actually was and that she could hear and feel. It seemed that they didn’t want to face reality but then the autopsy proved them wrong.
@Nikki-if I am able to stop it will be early so no worries
“Nikki-if I am able to stop it will be early so no worries”
Fabulous!!!!! Hey can you email me your phone number so I can save you in???? msnickisunshine@gmail.com. My yahoo is good too, but I didn’t want to put the email all on the blog. lol
@Nicki
You know I know your favorite thing and have known it since forever.
@CBG
I used to conduct business from my bed. I would hold meetings & stuff there LOL…at first people would be like umm Jac no…then they were like wait it’s very comfortable here. I believe in good sheets, a cool room and a nice bed…I just can’t get comfy…maybe it’s the pillows.
“I used to conduct business from my bed.”
UMM..what KIND of business were you conducting praytell.
Again, I’m perusing Ms. Kane’s blog and I feel like I want a “I know exactly what I want” vision board… but at the same time I feel like I would be limiting myself if I do that. What are y’all thoughts on this?
I used to conduct business from my bed. I would hold meetings & stuff there LOL…
I didn’t know you had a home-based business at some point… Maybe, I should ask what you do because I always assumed you were right out of college.
I used to conduct business from my bed. I would hold meetings & stuff there LOL…at first people would be like umm Jac no… .
I would be one of the ones that said ummmm no. Lol. But then again, I don’t believe in letting just anybody in my room. He.l.l. I don’t even like letting random people in my house. I seriously think I can count on 2 hands the number of people that have been in my place. Maybe 1 if I don’t include family. LOL
“You know I know your favorite thing and have known it since forever.
”
LOL
“vision board… but at the same time I feel like I would be limiting myself if I do that. What are y’all thoughts on this?”
@LP: I would say wish for exactly what you want but be ready to except more than that… that meaning, put up what you want but don’t focus on for instance, “I want a house with 4 bedrooms…” God may give you an energy efficient home with 7 bedrooms.
Again, I’m perusing Ms. Kane’s blog and I feel like I want a “I know exactly what I want” vision board… but at the same time I feel like I would be limiting myself if I do that. What are y’all thoughts on this? .
Hmmmmm. Maybe you can start off with an I know exactly what I want, and see where it leads you. I know she said she had a friend that started off one way and once she got into it, it took on a life of its own.
@Nicki,
@LP: I would say wish for exactly what you want but be ready to except more than that… that meaning, put up what you want but don’t focus on for instance, “I want a house with 4 bedrooms…” God may give you an energy efficient home with 7 bedrooms.
Thanks ma’am. Wise advice. The images are so very clear in my head though… I will do one for the things I am certain about (my ultimate project/ purpose in life) and an “Opening and Allowing” one for the others…
I like the idea of theme vision board as well.
..if i could conduct business there I would. .
@ CBG/Jacki – I don’t know if I want to conduct business in my bed. Well I want/like to conduct THAT ONE business there. But others, not so much. I feel like my body may get confused like are we about to make Powerpoint presentations or go to sleep.
On second thought, who am I kidding. I can go to sleep ANYWHERE. In college I used to get in the sleeping bag and go to sleep on our living room floor. Full out get togethers would occur and I would have no idea. I used to take naps at my desk…at work. LOL. I had it down pact. One hand on my mouse, upright in the chair but KNOCKED OUT. I messed around and napped for a good hour and 15 minutes one day. That’s when I said I had to stop before I got caught.
“Thanks ma’am. Wise advice. The images are so very clear in my head though… I will do one for the things I am certain about (my ultimate project/ purpose in life) and an “Opening and Allowing” one for the others…
I like the idea of theme vision board as well.”
@LP: I’m glad you understood that. lol. Looking at it now, I did leave out a word or two, but you got it….
Say what you want, but don’t focus too hard or rely too much on it.
I like the theme vision board!!!!!
I like the theme vision board!!!!! .
Me too. Like would it be wrong to do one, with the theme being, “What should my New Year’s Eve” outfit be???? Lol, but I’m so sincere.
I wouldn’t want to conduct business in my bed… I forget what/ where I was reading it but your room should be reserved for sex and sleeping.. you shouldn’t even study in your room…
That is what help your body realize that once you go to bed, it’s time to go to sleep.
@CBG, LP
When I was working for the office that controlled student activities…people never had the same schedules…eventually I would be like bump this me sitting here waiting to meet you at 8pm and you call and say 10pm…meet me at my place.
They always figured they’d get nothing done. It always worked…we’ll plan this event from my bed. First thing, I’ll get everything in order and you’ll have a confirm by noon.
It was definitely a WINNER.
@V
Hell naw…they weren’t total strangers and ish…I could’ve found them should something have been missing etc.
And it won’t work for everything!
@Nicki
I’ve read that too. I don’t do a whole lot in there anymore. In fact, I don’t even take my laptop in there anymore. As a matter of fact, I am about to start making my BB either phone only or it can’t come in. I seriously cannot take the all-night e-mails, BBM and everything else (even though I love my friends)
They always figured they’d get nothing done. It always worked…we’ll plan this event from my bed. First thing, I’ll get everything in order and you’ll have a confirm by noon. .
Lol. Yeah I wouldn’t have been going to the ♪♪ Meetings in your bedroom ♪♪. LMAO. I would have been weirded out like is there a common/living room this can be handled in? Were you actually in the bed, under the covers, while everyone sat around you? I’m trying to visualize this and the image I keep coming up with is strange….like you in a long pink satin long sleeve nightgown, laid up in the bed, with everyone gingerly sitting around the edge of the bed. ROTFLMAO
I seriously cannot take the all-night e-mails, BBM and everything else .
Like forreal. I toyed with the idea of taking the FB app off of my phone. Hearing the phone vibrate in the middle of the night, with notification that such n such commented on the picture you commented on, is not the business. I think I just need to work with the settings so it doesn’t vibrate with notifications.
“I am about to start making my BB either phone only or it can’t come in. I seriously cannot take the all-night e-mails, BBM and everything else (even though I love my friends)
”
@FB: I definitely think you should limit yourself to communication… rememer how long it took you to get me to get onto FB? lol… and now I let my myspace go… it’s one of the reasons it’s not on my phone, I have no twit account, etc.
I think you start to lose your alone time when there is so much communication.
Perhaps I saw the bedroom thing here:
http://www.everydayhealth.com/photogallery/8-use-your-bedroom-for-sleep-and-sex-12-tips-for-a-good-nights-sleep.aspx
I seriously don’t even have a tv in my bedroom.
@ Nicki – I refuse to do twitter. Whenever it crosses my mind, I immediately nix the thought.
@V
Nope. I would sit like in the center of it or in Indian style. And I don’t own any long satin night gowns….I own lots of lounge wear though, but even still it’s not uncommon to find me in jeans or a skirt etc.
In fact, people liked it so much that my actual friends would come over and hop right in…I’d go get something to drink and be like the hel!l!? You two are in my damned bed…They would be like yep…cause it’s so comfy…it always looked comfy we wanted to try it…iDied…but I never stopped making it comfy.
In fact, after I stopped needing to have meetings I replaced EVERYTHING w/ some more expensive stuff…IT WORKED for me…
Esp always being on call (which I didn’t find out until someone called and said it)
“Nicki – I refuse to do twitter. Whenever it crosses my mind, I immediately nix the thought.”
@V: Exactly!!!! it’s just too much 24/7.
@V
I remember our BB on FB convo…I was dying laughing at you when I got off the phone…I don’t have FB on my phone downloaded. I go there if somebody tell me to and I’m not at home.
@Nick
You know me and MySpace haven’t been friends in years.
As for me now…I have replaced FB with Twitter…and I don’t mind that so much because I don’t have to constantly be on it. And those notifications don’t go off at all…I changed all that. I just get e-mails…from ONE ACCOUNT. But there’s a setting that allows me to only be notified if the phone rings. That’s where I’m headed.
Nope. I would sit like in the center of it or in Indian style. And I don’t own any long satin night gowns…. .
I’m sticking with the long satin night gown image. It’s funnier than jeans/skirts
@FB: I just closed down the myspace a few weeks ago. lol.
“But there’s a setting that allows me to only be notified if the phone rings. That’s where I’m headed.”
That’s a good idea.
I wish there was a setting on FB that would allow me to only get emails when someone responds to a ocmment that I POSTED. lol
ok iz back whatz wez talmboutz
@Mike: Working in the bedroom (not sexually)
I wish there was a setting on FB that would allow me to only get emails when someone responds to a ocmment that I POSTED. lol .
Email them and tell them.
I think it was CBG that made a comment that FB is a tracking device. IT IS!!!!
People can say, I thought you were at home. I am. Well why are you sending updates/inboxing from your phone. *sigh*
The emails you get when someone responds or makes a comment. Even if you delete it, there’s still proof of it.
I thought you said you were sleep….how come I saw at 12:45 pm, you commented on such and such’s photo.
Or you said you didn’t want to go out, why did I see a pic of you tagged on somebodys page. And the picture had the time stamp. And I know that’s what you wore to work.
It’s just too many tracking scenarios. LOL
@V
I be damned. I made a comment on my besties page last night…and I had to pray over it…I’m bout to delete it and all comments with it…lest I end up tracked.
“Mike: Working in the bedroom (not sexually)”
wha?
@V: Telling them is a dayum good idea.. I’m doing it!
when Comeback said a tracking thing, I didn’t get it at first.. I was thinking of aliens putting tracking devices in your belly dramatic. lol
But I do get what you are saying.. it’s true… and shat like that can ruin a relationship if people get too sucked in.
G: “baby I called you at 12:45, what were you doing?”
B: “I’m sorry- I was asleep.”
G: “you weren’t to asleep to comment on Felicia’s status.” LMAO
“I think it was CBG that made a comment that FB is a tracking device. IT IS!!!! ”
Absoulutely Vroom. I read that in INC or Fortune?? basically they can aggregate data on age, race, education and do all kinds of statistical trends and probability. And even predict taste, buying habits and the like.
the only down side is they can’t figure out how to fyckin monetize LOL..outside of ads and whatnot.
G: “baby I called you at 12:45, what were you doing?”
B: “I’m sorry- I was asleep.”
G: “you weren’t to asleep to comment on Felicia’s status.” .
LMAO. Yup yup.
I be damned. I made a comment on my besties page last night…and I had to pray over it…I’m bout to delete it and all comments with it…lest I end up tracked. .
You can delete all you want. She has the emails with your comments. LOL
basically they can aggregate data on age, race, education and do all kinds of statistical trends and probability. And even predict taste, buying habits and the like. .
Do they sell this information to companies??
“You can delete all you want. She has the emails with your comments. LOL”
Exactly- they get emailed. lol
“Do they sell this information to companies??”
According to one of my friends a while ago, they do sell the info.. and they sell your info for spamming purposes.
@V
That’s okay…I’m not hiding from her LOL…and she prolly deleted them but they’re prolly still in the trash. LOL…
And thankfully the Mr doesn’t do social networking (*ahem* that I know of)
And yes, I think they do sell it no matter wtf they say.
And now I’ve popped back in. Imma have to read comments to figure out whats going on!
if yaw have time, go to SSSO and weigh in on the topic as well as whether kids are born bad.
stankyouverymuch!!!
Will do!
Thanks Hol
@ Nicki – I will. Give me a second.
Since I can’t get to the site on my computer, I type up a response, send it to my email account that’s linked to the BB, and then copy and paste the comment using my phone. LOL
LMAO.. V, You really don’t have to go through all of that. lol. I appreciate your offering it though.
So they (the man) just asked if I wanted to go to our annual shareholders meeting tomorrow. Jesus be a mouthguard for me. LOL
Bless they hearts.
LMAO.. Shareholder’s meeting? So you get to meet with the big wigs?
LMAO.. Shareholder’s meeting? So you get to meet with the big wigs? .
Or something. I see the big wigs on a daily basis. 2 of their offices are like 25 feet from me. Which is why I find it funny that they asked me to go. LOL
Hopefully I’m still half sleep, or if they see my hand raised, they don’t call on me. ha!
“Or something. I see the big wigs on a daily basis. 2 of their offices are like 25 feet from me. Which is why I find it funny that they asked me to go. LOL”
Do they know you? Perhaps they wanted your opinion on some things
I’m looking at my friends wedidng registry online and I can’t find nothing. lol
I will prolly just do a giftcard.
Do they know you? Perhaps they wanted your opinion on some things .
He.l.l. yeah they know me. I talk to them daily. LOL
I will prolly just do a giftcard. .
I always do giftcards……..it’s what I would want. Ha!
Registries suck because half the time people don’t tell the cashier that it’s from a registry, so the recepient ends up with the same item multiple times.
@nick, v
One of the girls I went to college with had a registry that was OUT OF CONTROL…
$300 sheets and stuff…bytch your peers just graduated college there’s no way in hell you expect this to be on the gift table
@Nick… I usually do gift cards too for pretty much everything… When is the wedding????
“He.l.l. yeah they know me. I talk to them daily. LOL”
@V: LOL.. they they know you are off the chain.
“Registries suck because half the time people don’t tell the cashier that it’s from a registry, so the recepient ends up with the same item multiple times.”
That is true.
@V and 80s and FB: Plus some of this shat is ridiculous.. I can’t pay $70 for ONE POT if I won’t pay that for myself.
@80s: It’s this weekend… and if the weather permits it’s gonna be outside.
Ummmm can we talk about ol girl in the fishnets doing a handstand. She tried to get extra secksy with it. LMAO
@ 80s – If ol girls in the picture can do the Single Ladies video, I think you can too!!!
@Nicki
RIGHT! I’m out here buying better stuff for you than I have by myself.
Has anyone every seen Supernanny?
I’m watching right now and this lady says to her husband “WHO PAYS THE MORTGAGE HERE?!” I’m like whoa…is this really how women act?
What girl in fishnets???? Where?
Plus some of this shat is ridiculous.. I can’t pay $70 for ONE POT if I won’t pay that for myself.
@Nick… I feel ya…
So what about the people who have it setup where people can donate financially on their honeymoon???? I kind of feel like it may be a lil tacky but thenI feel like it’s possibly a good idea….. Considering a lot of times people don’t need majority of them household gifts.
Would y’all do that????
If ol girls in the picture can do the Single Ladies video, I think you can too!!!
@V… And how about I just now found my lil bodysuit…. When I was working in my closet I seen it and instantly thought about you since you was hating on it so…..
It’s still a possibility I just need to see what this body is gonna look like in a freakin leotard…
What girl in fishnets???? Where? .
In the picture at the top of the post.
So what about the people who have it setup where people can donate financially on their honeymoon???? I kind of feel like it may be a lil tacky but thenI feel like it’s possibly a good idea .
Tacky.
What girl in fishnets???? Where?
@Nick… The pic at the beginning of the post.
“kind of feel like it may be a lil tacky but thenI feel like it’s possibly a good idea….. Considering a lot of times people don’t need majority of them household gifts.”
@80s: I agree with everything you said.. it could come off tacky but it’s a good idea.
I would be scared to do it becaue I wouldn’t know how to do it classily…
And what about monetary gifts??? I would prefer for people to give those but how do u say it?
@V… And how about I just now found my lil bodysuit…. When I was working in my closet I seen it and instantly thought about you since you was hating on it so….. .
I wasn’t hating. I was just making note of the fact, that it’s pretty random for you to just have a one piece bodysuit. And act like it was okay/normal. Imjustsaying. lol
@80s: dang I am slow catching on. lol. She was rocking them. I don’t knwo about to yoga though.
@Nick… I’ve seen where the link to the site was in the invitation and i thought that was tacky… But then I’ve also seen the link on a wedding website and I didn’t think that was too bad……. That money could definitely be put to use but it’s still how can you go about it classy….
@Nick… I’ve seen where people asked for monetary gifts only… I’ve also seen where people specifically asked for gift cards.
I wasn’t hating. I was just making note of the fact, that it’s pretty random for you to just have a one piece bodysuit. And act like it was okay/normal. Imjustsaying. lol
@V…I’m just saying it just seemed like a regular fitted v neck shirt… Until I went to the bathroom..Then I had to be in there unsnapping and snapping back….lol
“I’ve seen where people asked for monetary gifts only… I’ve also seen where people specifically asked for gift cards”
@80s: that would work for me in LIFE.. lol. I have gotten some crappy gifts from my cousin. I remember this gold lame’ (read LAME) purse that looks like it came with her free gift purchase of avon or something. I was pissed.
I’m peacing out. bye gals.
that would work for me in LIFE.. lol. I have gotten some crappy gifts from my cousin. I remember this gold lame’ (read LAME) purse that looks like it came with her free gift purchase of avon or something. I was pissed.
Bye Nick
@Nick… I agree….I’m the type of person who wouldn’t even want a gift because I’d rather have NOTHING then something I’ll never use and I’ll feel obligated to keep it.
I’ve heard/read people say that including a registry in any type of invitation is tacky. That the primary reason of a baby shower/wedding/other gathering is not about the gifts you receive. That if people really wanted to know where you were registered, they would specifically ask you.
@80s
i know your auntie does hair…so i’m thinking you might know the answer…what’s too often to wash hair?
I’ve heard/read people say that including a registry in any type of invitation is tacky. That the primary reason of a baby shower/wedding/other gathering is not about the gifts you receive. That if people really wanted to know where you were registered, they would specifically ask you.
@V.. I’ve heard that too…. But especially with the wedding invitation there should be no registry included…. If anything it should be in the bridal shower invitation and that’s it…..
i know your auntie does hair…so i’m thinking you might know the answer…what’s too often to wash hair?
@FB… I’m going out on a limb here since I have no beauty license… However, with our hair we want to keep our natural oils in as opposed to stripping them constantly by washing a hair… You can probably get away with once a week… But again I’m no expert and I wouldn’t suggest every other day.
“So what about the people who have it setup where people can donate financially on their honeymoon???? I kind of feel like it may be a lil tacky but then I feel like it’s possibly a good idea….. Considering a lot of times people don’t need majority of them household gifts.
Would y’all do that????”
@80s-H–L NAW!! I’m sorry but weddings aren’t fundraisers or telethons. If someone wants to give money fine but the bride/groom shouldn’t ask for it. If you can’t afford your honeymoon then it shouldn’t be the guests’ priority to finance it. People should just do what they can afford.
If you don’t need the household gifts then register for something else. My girlfriend did that shat when she got married in Jamaica using an excuse that people wouldn’t want to bring gifts to Jamaica. I saw a side of her that I didn’t like plus it seemed that it was her husband that was pushing for money instead of gifts.
@B you are a mess. I completely stand by this LOL…btw-the tricks are late …I got completely TWISTED!
@80s
Thanks…I’ve been doing twice a week using heat. My hair was so dry. So this week I washed it but pulled it back using no heat til I get right…but all the moisturizing makes it feel dirty.
@V- my hardcore bourgie mama doesn’t like the registry card in the invitation either but I know people do it anyway. I can let that slide but that asking for money really bothers me.
@80s-concerning hair washing I was told once a week and if you work out constantly you might just want to do a conditioning rinse where you wash the sweat out and add a little conditioner. It worked for me. I also learned that you should wash your hair several days before you get a relaxer and not drink caffeine the day before the service. I was told caffeine opens up your pores and by getting the dirt out of your hair, the relaxer can penetrate plus you won’t be scratching your head. This works for me too. I just got a relaxer and washed my hair two days prior then applied some Carols Daughter Healthy Hair Butter to my scalp.
I also learned that you should wash your hair several days before you get a relaxer and not drink caffeine the day before the service. I was told caffeine opens up your pores and by getting the dirt out of your hair, the relaxer can penetrate plus you won’t be scratching your head. This works for me too. I just got a relaxer and washed my hair two days prior then applied some Carols Daughter Healthy Hair Butter to my scalp.
I am going to remember this caffeine thing. I haven’t had a relaxer since beginning of September. I am planning to get one in two weeks. That’s a good point about the washing your hair and oiling your scalp thing. If everything is clean it should work better. But now…you’re saying you washed TWO days before the relaxer? I might try that, but I thought it was bad
BGrits… I need to figure out some kind of routine because my scalp burns soooooo bad when I get a relaxer… No matter what I do.. As soon as she start my head is on fire!!!!!!
So there looks to be a second job offer on the horizon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Who gon help me write my kiss my grits letter??
Thanks…I’ve been doing twice a week using heat. My hair was so dry. So this week I washed it but pulled it back using no heat til I get right…but all the moisturizing makes it feel dirty. .
What kind of oil/moisturizer do you use??
@80s
Have you been to the dermatologist? I was like that…and I found out I had eczema.
@V
Palmer’s Coconut or Olive Oil.
So there looks to be a second job offer on the horizon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Holly…. U GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!CONGRATS… Which one you gonna take???????????
Have you been to the dermatologist? I was like that…and I found out I had eczema.
@Jac… I know I have eczema in other places but never thought about having it in my head….
“H–L NAW!! I’m sorry but weddings aren’t fundraisers or telethons”
This made me laugh out loud LIKE REALLY..I agree.
So there looks to be a second job offer on the horizon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Holly…. U GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!CONGRATS… Which one you gonna take??????????? .
Go HOLLY it’s your birthday! Go Holly!!
“So there looks to be a second job offer on the horizon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
Awesome..you are on a roll..they’ll probably be a third once its all said and done.
WHOO HOO!!!
I want the one that contacted me today!
@Holly…Before I forget I’m gonna be in ATL next weekend for Halloween so I’ll treat you to a gimlet in honor of new opportunities….
@Holly…Before I forget I’m gonna be in ATL next weekend for Halloween so I’ll treat you to a gimlet in honor of new opportunities…. .
Awwww how sweet. I take back the mean things I said about you. LOL
YAY!!! 80’s are you going to any Halloween parties!!!
CBG- dont say a 3rd one!!! but i do have an offer on the table from the place I interviewed with on Friday!
V- that’s hilarious!!!
YAY!!! 80’s are you going to any Halloween parties!!!
@Holly… Yes we are and I’m so excited…
Before I forget I’m gonna be in ATL next weekend for Halloween
Halloween is next week-end? I am so out of it! I need a costume STAT.
Kudos to me… I just got a raise and didn’t even know it was coming… I also should be expecting a bonus in an upcoming check…. I tell ya everytime I spend a decent amount of money it comes right on back to me…. Thank ya Jesus for the unexpected things.
L.P. in Vision Board mode.
@LP… I just seen your user name……. I hear ya….. All of us our in vision board mode…. and get on that costume.. ASAP… LOL
@80s
Yup. That’s how I found out I had it…I could not take the relaxer AT ALL. Take it out immediately were my words.
@Holly
Congrats! Are these both in ATL?
HALLELUJAH!!!! GO 80’s!!!!!!!! Imma make u try a Gimlet on me!;-)
What parties ya’ll going to? I wanna come:-(
The treehouse is getting BLESSED!
@FB- yea they are!
What parties ya’ll going to? I wanna come:-(
@Holly…. I’m not even for sure… I think last year my sister could have went to one at Dolce… I think.. She’s thinking we’ll do one Friday and Saturday if we can find some since Halloween is on a Saturday this year…. I’m bringing about 5 of my friends with me and then she has her people so we gonna be deep… .But come on and join in on the fun….
@Holly
That’s great. The Lord always provides…Is this one the from the site you gave us?
I’m out y’all… Have a good one!!!!
@80’s- I know of a couple actually!! Last year I went to Dolce and had a ball!!
@FB- Yes it is and you are right!
Bye 80s
@Hol
I tried checking the site out …I think I applied for something…can i just post my resume for people to look at?
I don’t think so
I was almost pissed off at one of my users… but then I remembered to be in a state of gratitude always…. Hmph!
@Cbg,
I just got a WSJ alert. Your
and my beau’sboy Steve Jobs is a textbook case of How to step out in faith and believe in what you are selling. Apple revenues jumped 47% in a recession year. Tremendous!I was almost pissed off at one of my users .
One of your users?!?!? Let me find out, you’re out here selling that sh*t…….
One of your users?!?!? Let me find out, you’re out here selling that sh*t…….
I be the pusher(wo)man…. selling that good, good stuff… Lol!
Well, when you look at it, they really behave like this thing is crack and it can’t have any glitch or else they go into a frenzy and be calling up the Godfathers and sh*t.
Well, when you look at it, they really behave like this thing is crack and it can’t have any glitch or else they go into a frenzy and be calling up the Godfathers and sh*t. .
LMAO.
You aren’t fooling me. I knew you were over here selling that crizack. If you let me in on the profits, I won’t tell. It can just be a secret between me, you, the Treehouse, and the rest of the blog world.
@Holly That is great and could you please pass those job offer vibes my way, thank you very much
@FB- yeah I washed it two days before the relaxer but usually I try to do it 3-4 days before but granted I have extremely thick hair. Old fashioned grease is a good base for my scalp before I go to the salon or the carols daughter.
It can just be a secret between me, you, the Treehouse, and the rest of the blog world.
Some secret this one is! Lol!
By the way, I forgot about this story. So yesterday as I am driving back from the airport all sad and stuff, I get a text message from a number I don’t know. I figure I just changed phones so I’ll nicely apologize and the person will tell me who they are. The person replies with a name I don’t recognize and a story that’s even more far fetched. I have a pretty good memory so I’m skeptical the person is telling the truth. According to him, we met while he was in houston at some lounge… we hung out/talked a lot and danced a little… that he’s coming back to houston so we can “reconnect”…
It looks like someone’s having a little fun with me, and I hope they are amused… because I know I’m not.
I didn’t insist but I’m still kind of thinking “who the heck is this?”
I have a pretty good memory so I’m skeptical the person is telling the truth. According to him, we met while he was in houston at some lounge… we hung out/talked a lot and danced a little… that he’s coming back to houston so we can “reconnect”… .
What was the area code?
Maybe you had too much to drink and can’t remember. LMAO.
It happens to the best of us. Ha!