- Vintage Girl Scouts circa 1940s
Assuming you haven’t been having A.D.D attacks while reading this blog, you know that I, The Comeback Girl, love having the treehouse agree to pacts and oaths. I love having treehouse meetings. I love sugar cookies. I love the associated handbooks and codes of conduct on this blog. Please note that “codes of conduct” is tongue and cheek. As much as I love having “meetings” and treehouse preambles. I LOATH RULES, especially ones that kill candor.
If this blog is about anything – its about honesty. I’ve drafted some codes of conduct for myself.
1. Its ok to like who I like (and love who I love) and have a reason for it, or even none at all: Yesterday evening a poster left a comment that found my “not wanting to date Nigerians” “disheartening”. I’m fascinated by those who are only compelled to leave comments when they are “calling you out” or telling you they won’t be reading ever again. But this blog will have opinions. People all over this great world, love who they love and date who they date for a reason. My “new found love” of parts of Africa has nothing to do with my preference to rule out a particular country when it comes to my gentlemen callers/dates and lovers. It’s my right. And if a person tells you they don’t have a preference or EVEN A PREDJUDICE when it comes to dating someone, they are lying (birth home included).
2. No More Bullsh!t Posts: That’s right. No more musings. Meanderings. If I don’t have anything compelling to write about that strikes my fancy and excites me, I shall not post. Its becoming a waste of creative energy and space.
3. It’s Time To Get MORE Personal: If I may toot my own horn (beep…beep), I think over the last two years or so, I have gotten extremely revealing. Particularly in the beginning. Pulled back. And added more. Blogging is THE BEST form of therapy known to man. Whoever said it wasn’t lacked tons of depth and selfawareness. As I’ve written many times before, blogging is where honest people speak to and through their work, while dealing with their own personal shyt. It’s great. I never said I was perfect, but my a!ss is growing and changing.
Clearly, I need to read back through the comments from yesterday. I think your opinion on dating Nigerian men was at best in jest. I think we all say we wont date “yada yada” because of “yada yada” and then we meet a YoYo who toots our horn .. nigerian or otherwise and all that “yada yada” flies right out the window cause the heart wants what the heart wants.
I think you should get a lil personal at least one day a week. Shed a lil light into the big full life of the comeback girl. Everyone can get something from your journey more so than musings!
Happy Tuesday girly
Can anyone tell me how much they would spend on a wedding if money was no object?
Morning, y’all.
@cbg: I love the photo of Lena Horne. Great post.
I don’t blog but I’ve considered it but I’m not sure I’d have the time to maintain it & I’d hate to let it fall by the wayside. So, we’ll see. In the meantime, I keep a journal (and have since middle school where it started out as a school assignment) and write almost every day…even if just for a few minutes.
I love reading blogs & think that bloggers are on to something…it really is a good way to examine & develop yourself and it’s therapeutic; all writing is.
You’re so right about everyone having their likes, dislikes and preferences when it comes to who they are initially attracted to. I admit I had mine when I was dating.
“And if a person tells you they don’t have a preference or EVEN A PREDJUDICE when it comes to dating someone, they are lying (birth home included).”
AMEN!
“It’s Time To Get MORE Personal”
And hanclaps!!!!
Um, ma’am, when u decide not to post, I’mma need u to let the Treehouse know so we don’t think you’ve dropped off the face of the earth!!!!!
@Mikki: I can’t really say how much I’d spend bc I have no clue how much those things cost except that they are really expensive.
I’d still want to go away on the beach, but instead of just my groom, I’d pay for all of my people to come.
@Mikki: My husband & I always say that if we had it to do all over again, we would just elope. I think that even if money was no object, I’d still want to elope. Although it isn’t popular, I think there’s something very romantic about eloping…not to mention, I just wouldn’t want to deal with all of the craziness again that can come with a wedding & the planning of a wedding.
How much would you spend if money was no object?
“I just wouldn’t want to deal with all of the craziness again that can come with a wedding & the planning of a wedding”
This is exactly my thoughts… I really dont’ want to plan a wedding bc I cannot handle stress really well.
Everyone has preferences as far as who or the type of person they would like to date. And ain’t nothing wrong with that.
@ Mik
I’d spend whatever it took for someone else to plan and put together the whole thing. But I’d still want a smaller more intimate type wedding.
Shawnta`
ok thanks girl, i have this figure in my head to the tune of 40k because i want to invite my family and closest friends to a small vacation at disney, also disney has actual wedding packages and i like the idea of just letting others take care of it for me but ONLY if i had that type of money, I wouldn’t dare go into debt or anything like that it would be paid for in full.
my friend said i was crazy and that i should feed starving kids in africa.
“my friend said i was crazy and that i should feed starving kids in africa.”
@Mik: No one should be able to influence your spending for your wedding, it’s YOUR day so go with your idea… just be prepared for the costs and if you can handle stress (bc it’ll be pretty big), then go for it!
@ Mik
You should tell her the same the next time she want the latest bag or pair of shoes.
I love how self-righteous people get with OTHER PEOPLE’S MONEY.
“You should tell her the same the next time she want the latest bag or pair of shoes”
thank you Jada and Nic, i thought i was way off base but i was offended like how you gone tell me what to do with MY money?? then she went further to say she thinks she should stop taking financial advice from me because i would be willing to spend and amount that she thought was redic? but then a 10k ring to her is “reasonable” u want a 10k ring but small wedding?? what they effy is the diff!!!
i was mad lol
@ Mik
You need to tell her to go join the ‘Sitchoazzdown and STFU’ club.
“then she went further to say she thinks she should stop taking financial advice from me because i would be willing to spend and amount that she thought was redic? but then a 10k ring to her is “reasonable” u want a 10k ring but small wedding”
I’m going with Jada on this.. She is doing theee most. Come on now, stop taking financial advice? SHADDUP.
lol ok guys thanks!!!
i was having issues last night because this the same person that is helping me strenthen my walk in Christ and its like she is imposing ALL of her views about how I should be going about my life. She was like you shouldn’t be putting any thought into wedding or anything about men because i said i wanted to focus on my relationship with Christ. So im not suppose to think, talk to or deal with anything about relationships cuz it will make things “Worse” so she says.
i need to tell her in a nice way, YOU ARE TRIPPIN.
“So im not suppose to think, talk to or deal with anything about relationships cuz it will make things “Worse” so she says.”
That’s a major issue with some “Christians.” They aren’t realistic.
Good Morning Treehouse…
I wrote a note on my Facebook recently about authenticity, honesty and openess in blogging. Whether it’s something you have written or a comment in this forum, I believe that we all have the right to be honest. We can’t expect to agree with one another all the time (’cause i know i don’t…lol) and not have our feather ruffled at some point in time. One thing I know for sure is that people will also take offense at something…but they need to decide what to do with it and move on. I do not suggest that you change the manner in which you blog…a lot of times I’m like what the heck is Comeback on?…but I like it.:)
I’m looking at loft property… I would rather by a loft than a house… I hope my PH is on the same path. lol
“Clearly, I need to read back through the comments from yesterday. I think your opinion on dating Nigerian men was at best in jest”
McFoly…YES!! I do push the envelope in thinking and opinions.
Was me NEVER wanting to date a Nigerian jest?? a little. Will I ever date a Nigerian again ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Would I date and have I dated African guys from other countries ABSOLUTELY..
See I guess yall are really starting to know me in a way…because here at the treehouse, we all should feel comfortable to say what we dam1n well please without the moral guard patrol.
who only comments at night…and when you’ve said something you don’t like.
If i could spend any amount on a wedding it would prolly be about 60k. I would want a lot of flowers and I know that would be the bulk of the cost. I wouldnt spend all of it on food because I’d rather do heavy passed appetizers because do people really eat all the food on their plate. I would definitely have an open premium bar and I would have lovely gifts for everyone in my wedding party..etc.
“Can anyone tell me how much they would spend on a wedding if money was no object?”
@ Mikki…are you getting married. Even if I had 100 million dollars money would be an object. There has to be a cutoff point or it could get totally out of control.
I would say $65k if I was balling and shot calling like I would like and 300k if I hit some kind of lottery.
@ Mik
I would be wary of guidance from someone who thinks they know all the answers. You take the information you need from her and leave the rest. If it doesn’t sound right to you…it most likely is not right for you.
@ CoCo
I agree.
@ Nick
PH?
“Will I ever date a Nigerian again ABSOLUTELY NOT.”
@Comeback: U are right, everyone has a preference. I’m kinda a snob when it comes to dating foreign PERIOD. Or maybe it’s just the ones in my city. I see gorgeous ones on tv but the ones here have never gotten a chance from me.
“PH?”
Prospective husband. lol. Someone made up that term on here. Maybe it was Jolster?
“You’re so right about everyone having their likes, dislikes and preferences when it comes to who they are initially attracted to. I admit I had mine when I was dating.”
@ Shawnta…YES!! and they aren’t always politically correct.
Right Nic, and she is also kinda struggling with “taking it slow” with her bf even though he is straight up PH, she was like i don’t want to think about weddings cuz if it doesn’t work out i will be hurt, im like THATS LIFE and what the effy does that gotta do with me day dreaming about MY future wedding lol.
stop rainin on what lil parade i got left lol.
Jada I agree 100% but its almost like if i don’t agree with her i should “go to God n pray about it”
im like God told me it was coo lol.
comeback im not getting married, i was just having a convo about marriage and weddings that got me all mad.
“Um, ma’am, when u decide not to post, I’mma need u to let the Treehouse know so we don’t think you’ve dropped off the face of the earth!!!!!”
@ Sunny…I may still say something with a pic or a video. but it will be sparse LOL..and you will know that that day I aint got nothing really to say.
“Everyone has preferences as far as who or the type of person they would like to date. And ain’t nothing wrong with that. ”
Thank you Zsa Zsa.
she was like its just ONE DAY!!
im like but its my ONE DAY GET A LIFE LOL.
“she was like i don’t want to think about weddings cuz if it doesn’t work out i will be hurt, im like THATS LIFE and what the effy does that gotta do with me day dreaming about MY future wedding lol.”
@Mik: And she needs to let that dang on fear go- for that is not of GOD. Hell, u can sabotage a perfectly good relationship by holding back and preparing for the what if, when u have a good man.
LOL. And u are right. she is trying to impose her belief on you. Her fear has nothing to do with u.
“@ Sunny…I may still say something with a pic or a video. but it will be sparse LOL..and you will know that that day I aint got nothing really to say.”
That’ll work bc I worry!!!
Ohhhhh…ok gotcha
PH .. WORK CITE .. ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“i need to tell her in a nice way, YOU ARE TRIPPIN.”
I think so. I mean I understand and respect what you all are doing…And your focus should be on his word.
BUT…I also would think that you have to SEE it to believe it. Visualization, acceptance etc that the right man is on his way. In order to believe that you must THINK about it at some point.
“a lot of times I’m like what the heck is Comeback on?…but I like it.:)
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@ CoCo…WOW!!! so you think Im smoking something ??? OK ..COOL lol.
@ comeback — i’m just joking with you.
“@ comeback — i’m just joking with you.
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I know!!!
Right Nic, and she is also kinda struggling with “taking it slow” with her bf even though he is straight up PH, she was like i don’t want to think about weddings cuz if it doesn’t work out i will be hurt, im like THATS LIFE and what the effy does that gotta do with me day dreaming about MY future wedding lol.
Alright Mik, I’mma say this and get off my soapbox. I think a BIG part of where I messed up (and find myself a lil jaded now) in my spiritual walk was in taking and heeding advice from people in an area that they had not yest mastered themselves. If she is trying to help you along and give you advice about the Lord and relationships, yet is struggling in her own…then SHE IS NOT THE PERSON TO BE GIVING YOU SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!
Find someone who has already had that battle and came through successfully. Like a woman who decided to be celibate and held out for marriage. I’m sure there is someone in your church that fit this criteria. When taking advice from people, we must first look at the FRUITS of that person. Are their fruits blossoming beautifully, or is it rotten?
I was accepting advice about relationships and husband/bf’s from a woman whose marriage had been on the rocks for YEARS and YEARS! I realize what a mistake I made in doing that NOW. I would hate for you to go through the same thing. I would suggest both of you seek mentorship from somebody who has already been there and done that, and come through successfully. I’m sure their journey would not have been w/o struggle…but at least they persevered.
@ mik – i think what she’s trying to tell you is that if you are trying to focus on God and less on “fulfilling the lusts of the flesh” then you should not place less attention on men, romantic relationships, marriage, etc….you want whatever it is you invest your time is. sometimes i put a plug on romantic music…love songs make me wish i was in a relationship…but that’s me.
a lot of christians are very extreme…which is fine for them but they must be careful when they place the same expectations on someone else. BALANCE is very important. So for now, I would smile and nod…and like you said consult God…ain’t nothing wrong with that. But what your friend is saying isn’t all bad.
oops…then you should place less attention…
Amen Jay Boogie.
BUT…I also would think that you have to SEE it to believe it. Visualization, acceptance etc that the right man is on his way. In order to believe that you must THINK about it at some point.
i co sign this 100%
Jada I agree with you 100%, she has a mentor that she goes to but I don’t so im guessin i need to get one so her words won’t be the only thing that I hear because she is making me resent her right now.
coco, yes thats a very good point and it sounds exactly like what she was trying to say. She associated my “watching bridal shows” and talking about weddings with my being “disconnected” and disinterested about her “happy relationship” im like im happy for you yes, does it make me sad that im single right now? YES and im entitled to that and sometimes i don’t wanna hear about your HAPPY days with your bf, i can be supportive but don’t tell me when im suppose to act like im interested ALL DAY EVERYDAY. she was like well u are watching these shows thats why u don’t wanna listen to my rant lol.
im like ummm no i just need u to shaddup about ur BF all day lol, i still love u just give me a break sometimes.
I just happen to be watching bridezilla all day and it was fun to watch but after that i turned it off and it was all good, i dont walk around sulking woe is me im single? and i know im not an extremist when it comes to that but she couldn’t get that through her head, im like girl im not like YOU SO stop it!
@ mik and to be honest, there is NOTHING wrong with those shows! girl needs to get a grip.
I really have to stop following comments. I’ve stumbled upon yet another enlightening blog. (…now I’m off to read this post about why you won’t date a Nigerian…)
lol coco Ok!!!
“say yes to the dress” is SOOOO funny!!! and i love when they show the pictures of the bride in the dress at the wedding, they are so pretty! i always tear up lol.
I was also addicted to Bridezilla at a time. lol
Good Morning Treehouse!!!!!
* I don’t want a wedding. Unless it was all planned out for me and all I had to do was show up. And when I say all planned out, I mean I am not involved whatsoever. But it would have to be like the wedding in Rachel Getting Married.
Truthfully I envision myself eloping.
Hey Yolanda!!
@ Mik
I love Say Yes to the Dress. And the new season of Bridezilla’s starts this weekend I believe. And it should be a doozy. I keep seeing the commercial of the lady smashing her hand into the cake. Them heffas get rediculous.
Welcome to the Treehouse Yolanda!
I like Bridezilla. That show cracks me up. But sometimes (as with all reality shows) I think they get over dramatic to the point it’s not believeable.
Hey V,
Welome Yolanda!
lol Nic girl that show is hilar!! I was sick in bed and they was having a marathon so i just watched it all day lol.
it was this one lady on there, and NOBODY was really helping her, she was like im so sad i don’t even wanna go to jamaca! she was cryin, i was like awww she had no friends. Her budget was like 11,000 im like wow that don’t buy much lol.
lol Jada I WANT MY CHOCOLATE CAKE!!!
V yea they can be to over the top.
@ V
I agree. Sometimes I feel it’s scripted. Did you see the episode where ole dude stood her up at the alter. Then the next day talkin bout I’m sorry let’s fly to vegas and get married! I was too through! Especially since the heffa married him despite him humiliating her the way he did.
“I don’t want a wedding. Unless it was all planned out for me and all I had to do was show up. And when I say all planned out, I mean I am not involved whatsoever”
ditto!!! I just wanna pick my hair, dress n makeup
“Did you see the episode where ole dude stood her up at the alter. Then the next day talkin bout I’m sorry let’s fly to vegas and get married! ”
ARE YOU KIDDING??!! That is so humiliating! I would not be flying anywhere the next day to marry nobody.
“Did you see the episode where ole dude stood her up at the alter. Then the next day talkin bout I’m sorry let’s fly to vegas and get married”
wha?? i didn’t see that one!
i was watching john and kate last night too, it was so sad, john is just like whateva im here for my kids
“it was this one lady on there, and NOBODY was really helping her, she was like im so sad i don’t even wanna go to jamaca! she was cryin, i was like awww she had no friends. Her budget was like 11,000 im like wow that don’t buy much lol.”
I think I saw her before… is she the one that even had to clean up the wedding by herself????
NOTHING has topped the show were the man left her at the alter and didn’t show up; and he took the rental car. LOL . they ended up eloping some weeks later though.
Ha! Me and CoCO are talking about the same one. That goes down in history books
yo,
im glad i’m a guy, and all I have to do is show up to the wedding lol….
I wonder how much guys have to plan for a wedding? I personally dont care…I just want my fine beautiful smart wife.
LOL @ Why
How’ve you been hon?
i was talking to a friend yesterday. and she just broke up with her unofficial fiance the day after valentine’s day. anyway, he wanted to get married in boise and she wanted to get married in her hometown in montana. he said, well i guess i can be unhappy for one day. RUDE.
other reasons she broke it off was he was a ridiculously EXTREME christian…didn’t like that she listened to country music (he was a no secular music kind of guy). he didn’t like her watching 24…thought it was waste of time. didn’t think it was wise for them to ride in the same car together.
he was ridonkulous!
@jada…
i’ve been very good thanks a very much. And you?
Comeback, these are some good rules. We ultimately have one person to answer to, ourselves. Well, and God, but He’s not a person…lol.
chea!
@Yolanda: Welcome.
@coco…
LMAO. Yo, I gotta question for both of them. WHAT ARE THEY DOING IN BOISE AND MONTANA!?!?!
aint nothin in boise OR montana! Except potatoes and buffalo.
lol….naw. But dude is a nut. Good thing they found out it wouldn’t work before the wedding.
Glad to hear it. You’ve been incognegroe so I was just checking.
I’m doing great.
@ CoCo
WOW @ ole dude. That is extreme!
“I wonder how much guys have to plan for a wedding? I personally dont care…I just want my fine beautiful smart wife.”
@whyso: LOL. I’onn know but I need my fiance to help out!!!!!
“he was a ridiculously EXTREME christian…didn’t like that she listened to country music (he was a no secular music kind of guy). he didn’t like her watching 24…thought it was waste of time.”
CRIKEY. Coco, I’m glad she found all of this out beforehand!
@ whyso
“lol….naw. But dude is a nut. Good thing they found out it wouldn’t work before the wedding.”
she called him and told him i don’t think i’m the woman you thought i was or want me to me to be. and he said “you’re right. you’re not.” RUDE! lol.
“WHAT ARE THEY DOING IN BOISE AND MONTANA!?!?!”
they are white and that’s where they are from respectively.:)
“she called him and told him i don’t think i’m the woman you thought i was or want me to me to be. and he said “you’re right. you’re not.” RUDE! lol.”
OHHHHH em gee.
“CRIKEY. Coco, I’m glad she found all of this out beforehand!”
@ nic – can you imagine what life would have been like had she married him?? i told her that wasn’t even him showing the extent of his true colors. i just couldn’t imagine…
he was ridonkulous!
i LOVE THIS WORD lol!!
yes Nic that was the one she was cleaning up by herself lol, it was so pitiful and they kept showing her drunk brother dancing, i was laughin but sayin awww at the same time lol.
@coco…
that guy must be clint eastwood. emotionless…
@nik
What parts of the planning should the guy help out on? Reason being is that I know women are enthusiastic about the design respect. I would like to help out, but I wouldn’t be good at it…
“Did you see the episode where ole dude stood her up at the alter. Then the next day talkin bout I’m sorry let’s fly to vegas and get married! ”.
Was this Sex & the City the movie? or Bridezilla?
Ha!
“@ nic – can you imagine what life would have been like had she married him?? i told her that wasn’t even him showing the extent of his true colors. i just couldn’t imagine…”
@Coco: Hear???? They definitely would have been arguing… a lot. Bc it sounds like he wants someone that is a lil more easier to control and mold.
@mik: I was laughing.. she was completely NASTY.. the only time I felt bad was when the lady got jilted at the alter… she looked so pitiful. I can’t believe they went on and had the reception anyway and she is up there making announcement, talmbout, “he ain’t coming.”
I can’t stand Big from SATC! He’s not even goodlooking.
“I can’t believe they went on and had the reception anyway and she is up there making announcement, talmbout, “he ain’t coming.””
LOL!! i’m laughing just thinking about it. it’s not funny…but i would NOT be at the reception. i would be on a plane on my way to my honeymood…by myself….i would not want to see anyone.
“What parts of the planning should the guy help out on? Reason being is that I know women are enthusiastic about the design respect. I would like to help out, but I wouldn’t be good at it…”
@whyso: I need him on all of it… A lot of women already have it in their heads how they want the wedding and so the man doesn’t have to be very involved… but not me. LOL. I have no clue where to start and to finish, so I will need him to help with all of that. Plus I’m kinda indecisive.
I can’t believe they went on and had the reception anyway and she is up there making announcement, talmbout, “he ain’t coming. .
I would go ahead and have the reception. Sounds a lot better than sitting around crying my make up off in a corner in my dress. Id rather drown my sorrows in liquor and 2 step.
@ Coco- I had a love/hate relationship with Mr. Big. I liked him because Carrie loved him. But he played her MANY times…so i hated him for that.
“…but i would NOT be at the reception. i would be on a plane on my way to my honeymood”
Girl, HEAR????? Part of me thinks she did it bc she wanted her family to feel bad… bc after all, he left because of them (allegedly).
“Id rather drown my sorrows in liquor and 2 step.”
Dead.
@V: My pride would get me… I’d want to avoid everyone’s pitying glances and pats on the back!
I wanted to kick Mr. Big’s a&& like i was Carrie’s big sister.
And then I would go on the honeymoon….hungover/continuing drinking. I don’t like to fly sober anyway.
“Id rather drown my sorrows in liquor and 2 step.”
haha open bar will NOT be going to waste!
“What parts of the planning should the guy help out on? Reason being is that I know women are enthusiastic about the design respect. I would like to help out, but I wouldn’t be good at it…”
@ whyso – i want my wedding day to be a culmination of both of our tastes. so yes, i want him to show up…BUT i would love it if he contributed his input on colors, flowers, music, invitations, lighting, pictures, cake, etc….plus i think it would be fun to plan together. but i know a lot of guys aren’t super into the details so i kind of expect to do most of it.
“but i know a lot of guys aren’t super into the details so i kind of expect to do most of it.”
I believe that also, which is why I am trying to convince J to go on a beach somewhere!!! I don’t want to be stuck planning all by myself.
haha open bar will NOT be going to waste! .
Exactly!!
I loved Mr. Big….I didn’t love how he always treated Carrie. But he was such a BIG character, very 3 dimensional and realistic. And I thought he was great after him and Carrie finally came to their own weird relationship/understanding.
I remember that model that Mr. Big had fell down the stairs and lost her teeth.
@ Nick
That was his wife Natasha.
@jada: they were married??? Shut up!!!
Yes…and he was cheating on her with Carrie. Carrie was trying to leave their house w/o being caught by her (she came home early from the Hamptons), and as she was chasing after Carrie she tripped down the stairs and busted her mouth.
“Yes…and he was cheating on her with Carrie. Carrie was trying to leave their house w/o being caught by her (she came home early from the Hamptons), and as she was chasing after Carrie she tripped down the stairs and busted her mouth.”
I remember that part… but I had no clue that they were married… it was bad form for Carrie to be cheating with him. I don’t remember when they got married… what did Carrie do?
can someone tell me when the new episodes of the kardashians come on?
The seasons over Mik. That’s what it says on Kim’s site.
@ Nick
I believe she helped the girlto the hospital. Once Big showed up she finally told him she was done cheating with him and that he needed to leave her alone.
@comeback: I’m glad you’re gonna get more personal. I think you know it will work. Just be guard about what you hold most dear.
And if you gotta take a day off, do just that. Ain’t nobody going nowhere …
you mean they not coming back at all nic?
“I believe she helped the girlto the hospital. Once Big showed up she finally told him she was done cheating with him and that he needed to leave her alone.”
Oh no, not that part.. I meant when he got married.
@mik: It’s over just for the season I think
BTW I saw Drag Me to Hell this weekend.. nastiest. movie. ever
@ nic – what is that? nasty in what way?
@Coco: Not s3xually but just GROSS…. like it it will make u puke if you have a soft stomach… and it really never shows blood. but the other stuff, like a woman removing her teeth and them showing every detail and her coughing up stuff.
Oh em gee, I must stop.
@ Jada- I do think they (Carrie and Big) were made for each other. to be honest, Carrie was slightly crazy. In a good/her own way. Mr. Big accepted that about her.
She met him outside of his engagement party, told him his girl was lovely and asked why it wasn’t her. This clip says it all. And contains one of my all time favorite SATC quotes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj4iEOcUfjA
@ Nicki – I hate scray movies/gross movies. I refuse to watch them. I used to act like I liked them when I was younger.
Let someone put on a scary movie now, I’m doing 1 of 2 things: 1) turning it off 2) going to sleep instantly.
I don’t fool around with them. And I have a SUPER weak stomach. Which is probably part of the reason, I hate the word “bleed”.
She met him outside of his engagement party, told him his girl was lovely and asked why it wasn’t her. This clip says it all. And contains one of my all time favorite SATC quotes. .
I loved that whole scene too.
And then later there was an announcement in the paper about him marrying ol girl. And charlotte read the article outloud to Carrie. And she cried. It was sad. hehe
@ Jada- I do think they (Carrie and Big) were made for each other. to be honest, Carrie was slightly crazy. In a good/her own way. Mr. Big accepted that about her.
Me too V! I think what they chose to refer to him as (BIG) said it all from the very beginning. They were already letting you know that this man was to be a BIG part of her life, good, bad, and ugly. They are perfect for each other.
@ V
Scary movies used to make me laugh back in the day. Now they are just dumb and silly.
@jada: Thanks girl. I now have a craving for the show. Maybe I need to look for an all season boxed set on e bay!!!!
@V: I love watching them but they scare the crap out of me and my heart feels like leaping out of my chest most of the time (go figure!)
I think what they chose to refer to him as (BIG) said it all from the very beginning. They were already letting you know that this man was to be a BIG part of her life, good, bad, and ugly. .
I like that. I never even thought about why they referred to him as Big. But that makes so much sense.
@ Nick
That was my show girl! And I do have all the seasons. You can prolly get them for much cheaper than what they were going for a few years ago.
You gonna make me go home and pop in the dvds.
I think all this talk of weddings and SATC scared the mens’ away.
@Jada: I believe ya. I need to go holla at my on call bootlegger. lol
So Nick….when is the wedding? I’ve been wanting to get to the beach for a minute now.
Mikki: “She was like you shouldn’t be putting any thought into wedding or anything about men because i said i wanted to focus on my relationship with Christ.”
What is she talking about?
Genesis 2:18, 22: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
It’s funny that at the end of each “day”, God looked at what He created and said it is good. But when He saw man was alone, it was the only time He said it is not good. I guess she knows more than God.
@ Jada- I have all the seasons too. Over the years I started mysteriously losing like 1 or two discs from a season. Then after the holidays, I caught the seasons on sale at Target for 9 bucks, so I replaced the seasons with missing discs. I watch the shows all the time. Nothin on tv, pop in SATC.
Genesis 2:18, 22: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
It’s funny that at the end of each “day”, God looked at what He created and said it is good. But when He saw man was alone, it was the only time He said it is not good. I guess she knows more than God.
aww snap hugh coming in with the scripture!! thank ya bruh, im learning about what the word says but i couldn’t be work siting n stuff lol.
i think she is scared i will become an extremest and get carried away with the “thought” and try to act on it by any means
Jay Boogie: I need a rang and a proposal first. lol.
I’on know.. I ain’t putting no pressure on him though. We haven’t been together that long. But if he ain’t did it after a year????? Prollems.
@ Jada- I have all the seasons too. Over the years I started mysteriously losing like 1 or two discs from a season. Then after the holidays, I caught the seasons on sale at Target for 9 bucks, so I replaced the seasons with missing discs. I watch the shows all the time. Nothin on tv, pop in SATC.
And that my dear is why you’re the bomb! I do the same thing! SATC will never get old to me. It’s a classic like Cosby and the Golden Girls.
@jada: That’s one of the best scenes. I’m excited for the sequel. It must be a SATC kind of day because that’s the topic on TMCY as well.
@VRenee: I hear you about watching SATC when nothing else is on…can’t go wrong.
@ Nick
Keep an e-twin posted! I can already feel the slight breeze from the ocean.
@ Nicki – I will be writing my letter to you about this wedding too for my invite. I am envisioning it as I type and it’s beautiful.
Hey Guys! Good Post and Code of Conducts Comeback! I clearly need to read yesterdays post!
I’on know.. I ain’t putting no pressure on him though. We haven’t been together that long. But if he ain’t did it after a year????? Prollems.
@Nicki: So funny you said this because last night we went to dinner with one of our couples friends that we’ve known forever…before any of us were married. Somehow over dinner we got on the topic of dating length & engagment length. The wife said that she asked the husband after two years how long he planned to date before proposing and he said 7 years. She said her reaction was “Fool, are you crazy!!?!?!?!” I’m not sticking around for 7 years on the off chance that you might propose. He said he chose 7 years because that’s how long his brother & his wife dated and that was the only example he had. She said she told him 3 years was her limit. He proposed 6 months later at the 2.5 year mark. She said that if they had waited 7 years like he wanted to they would just now be getting married and they’re about to celebrate their 5th or 6th wedding anniversary in July.
@ Shawnta’ – they talking bout SATC over at TMCY. Awwww sh*t, Im bout to head over and take a peek.
The only part of the wedding I want input on is the music. Other than that, she can pretty much do what she wants, and tell me the date a week ahead of time so I don’t make plans.
I think I need to read the previous posts to get caught up
@ mik & jazzy – of course single folks are gonna be thinking of marriage…but if we’re going to bring the Word up in it…we have to take other scriptures into consideration too. like, He who finds a wife finds a good thing (prov 18:22) so mik, let him find you. Secondly, 1 Cor 7:32 says, “He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. ”
again…balance in everything…i’m not trying to be overspiritual…just thought i’d add more Word to the mix.:)
Just remembered how the topic of dating & engagement length came up…my husband was sharing how his cousin just proposed to his long time girlfriend and got engaged. This has been a long time coming, they live together, they have kids together and my husband was saying how family members were like “it’s about time” or “I thought y’all were already married” instead of saying “congratulations or best wishes”…sad. Isn’t that awful?
tell me the date a week ahead of time so I don’t make plans.
@Hugh: Funny.
When she tells you the date a week in advance be sure to include the following week to two weeks in the “no making other plans” phase for the honeymoon.
You may be surprised at how much you want to be involved and included in the planning & decision making…especially, if y’all are paying for it yourselves.
“Keep an e-twin posted! I can already feel the slight breeze from the ocean.”
@Jay Boogie: U know I got you.
“@ Nicki – I will be writing my letter to you about this wedding too for my invite. I am envisioning it as I type and it’s beautiful.”
@V: Oh-k!!!! I can’t wait to read.
@Shawnta: CRIKEY!!!! Seven years???? aw naw. lol. With us, I am not gonna be able to wait bc of the distance. Neither one of us believe in shacking so we won’t even consider living together without being married
This has been a long time coming, they live together, they have kids together and my husband was saying how family members were like “it’s about time” or “I thought y’all were already married” instead of saying “congratulations or best wishes”…sad. Isn’t that awful? .
That’s because people have their own timelines that they think you should follow. Never mind if they follow these timeslines in their own life.
@ nic – is CRIKEY your word of the day?? lol.
@Nicki: Hilarious. My husband and I dated for seven years before getting engaged but that was mainly because I didn’t want a super long engagement (ended up being just over a year) and I didn’t want to be married while still in school. I was the same way; I refused to live with him until we were married.
@VRenee: Very true. But some sort of tact should be utilized…even if I thought this, I would not say it to them.
Nick u getting married???
I can’t see waiting around for a dude for 7 years. I just cannot.
I agree Jada! I have a girlfriend who been waiting 12 yrs for her man to get it together!!!
Coco: “@ mik & jazzy – of course single folks are gonna be thinking of marriage…but if we’re going to bring the Word up in it…we have to take other scriptures into consideration too. like, He who finds a wife finds a good thing (prov 18:22) so mik, let him find you. Secondly, 1 Cor 7:32 says, “He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. ” ”
Point noted. I was just referring to her friend saying she shouldn’t be putting any thought into men. How can you find/be found by a husband if you aren’t even making yourself available?
Paul said it is better not to marry at all and to live a single, celibate life in service to the Lord. But he also said that was not ideal, and he added that there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking a spouse.
coco thank you for that scripture as well, i don’t plan to “over indulge myself” but i do want to actively date and put myself out there for a man to find me. I don’t believe in walkin up to dudes talkin bout holla at me but I do believe in being pro active, and i know its kinda like a touchy subject for “Christians” to wait on God and let a man fall out the SKY
NGBATDI
I was on BLACKpeoplemeet.com and I ended up taking to this one guy, we had a conversation about being celibate an he was like “thats not my thing” he was adimant about trying to refrain but was like if i did try something i wouldn’t want you to be mad, now what i learned in the word is if he CLEARLY says he can’t then i wouldn’t even put myself in the situation PERIOD. but to not say im not gonna date is an overstatement CUZ sista will be doing so!
“Paul said it is better not to marry at all and to live a single, celibate life in service to the Lord. But he also said that was not ideal, and he added that there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking a spouse.”
yes and amen to that.:)
@Coco: LOL. I say it all the time.
@Hol: Maybe, one day.. but not soon. lol. I’on have a rang and a proposal
Yaw, speaking of that. We went to the Arch, while in st. L and went up to the top.. someone wrote Just Perposed. LMAO. We tried to get good pictures of it. they are on facebook.
” I didn’t want to be married while still in school. I was the same way; I refused to live with him until we were married.”
@Shawnta: I can imagine school and marriage is hard.. I’d want to be focused on my husband and fam
@ HOlly- cute pic. YOu look very summery!
Shawnta: “You may be surprised at how much you want to be involved and included in the planning & decision making…especially, if y’all are paying for it yourselves.”
I probably will, especially if she’s spending money like Peggy Bundy, putting fried chicken or chitlins on the reception menu, or have us wearing plaid tuxedos. But the wedding day is her day. I’m there just to look pretty and consummate after the ceremonies.
DId I tell yaw how the lady at my church is married and declared a vow of celibacy?? That is NOT right in my opinion.
@Nick- I saw that in your FB pic! I was rolling!!!!!!!!!!!
@V Renee- Thanks Doll!! I need to up date it seeing that I have cut my hair!! LOL
@Hugh Jazz
agreed
That is great Mik. Kick him out. EARLY.. He pretty much just cancelled himself out.
@hol: I was cracking up.. yaw getting married and neither one of you can spell? God bless the chirruns
Celibate when Nick?
DId I tell yaw how the lady at my church is married and declared a vow of celibacy?? That is NOT right in my opinion. .
Ummmmmm no. I can see if she had health problems, that required her to restrain from s.e.x. But just to take a vow of celibacy…oh hecks no. Was this discussed with her hubby? Or did she just make the decision and expect him to roll with it?
married AND celibate? huh? that don’t make no kind of sense. as in no sex EVER? why?
Yes Nick! Who will help them with they schooling cause are NOT qualified!
Or if she found out her hubby was cheating and didn’t want to put herself at risk…..
I need more info
I agree Jada! I have a girlfriend who been waiting 12 yrs for her man to get it together!!!
Ummmm…..NO!
DId I tell yaw how the lady at my church is married and declared a vow of celibacy?? That is NOT right in my opinion.
I hope thats only for a set amount of time to fast or sum, and that her husband is okay with that. Otherwise she wrong as hell.
Nicki: “DId I tell yaw how the lady at my church is married and declared a vow of celibacy?? That is NOT right in my opinion.”
I’d stamp “return to sender” on her forehead. Some Christians kill me. She must have glossed over the part of the wife not withholding from her husband unless she is in prayer.
@Holister: After they got married..it’s this old couple that went to my old church..
when I moved to my current church I had to take orientation to find out what my spiritual gifts where and I guess she’s now at my church too. Anywho, one of her gifts was vow of celibacy and she said she knew it was so and she’d already taken a vow…. I wanted to ask, um, what does your spouse think????
“Or did she just make the decision and expect him to roll with it?”
I think this is what she did, V. She is a stroke victim so one side of her is off.. I hear tell that in bible study at my old church, she’d hit him with her cane all the time.
What is wrong with people?
That is great Mik. Kick him out. EARLY.. He pretty much just cancelled himself out.
girl yes he was really trying to “Sell me” the idea, im like if i always know u can’t control yourself just why would agree to see you? now if i hawl off n smack the heck out of u for touchin me, it should be ok because you was warned lol.
BTW: She used to accuse him all the time of cheating with the other ladies in church but I heard that wasn’t true and that he was a good man.
I’d stamp “return to sender” on her forehead. Some Christians kill me. She must have glossed over the part of the wife not withholding from her husband unless she is in prayer.
*Tears*
” like if i always know u can’t control yourself just why would agree to see you? now if i hawl off n smack the heck out of u for touchin me, it should be ok because you was warned lol.”
Hear????? I guess he wants to warn u that there is a snake in the whole but still wants u to travel over it.
Uhhh no thanks. lol
Anywho, one of her gifts was vow of celibacy and she said she knew it was so and she’d already taken a vow…. I wanted to ask, um, what does your spouse think????
Then it was EXTREMELY selfish of her to get married.
well if church lady took a vow of celibacy i think that would be coupled with the gift of singleness. you don’t get married and not have sex. like someone said, unless your giving yourself to prayer and it’s agreed upon with your spouse. but i don’t think it’s even biblical to be married and CELIBATE. i dunno…something is just wrong with that.
Good afternoon y’all…
@Comeback… I seen that post last night from the new commenter and it left a bad taste in my mouth….. So I’m glad that you addressed it…..
But I love the treehouse and I look forward to you getting more personal
“well if church lady took a vow of celibacy i think that would be coupled with the gift of singleness. you don’t get married and not have sex”
@Coco: I agree!!!
Hey 80s… let me go read this comment. lol
well if church lady took a vow of celibacy i think that would be coupled with the gift of singleness. you don’t get married and not have sex. like someone said, unless your giving yourself to prayer and it’s agreed upon with your spouse. but i don’t think it’s even biblical to be married and CELIBATE. i dunno…something is just wrong with that.
You said it better than I could Sister. She is dead wrong on that.
Hey 80’s!
That is insane, Nick!! WOW
hugh can u email me?
clarkk1@michigan.gov
Nicki: “Anywho, one of her gifts was vow of celibacy ”
WTF? I was just about to leave the office for an hour before reading inanity. A vow of celibacy is no more a gift than a vow not to murder.
@Hol: I know girl… I had never seen old folks drama like it. lol.
I was in class with her just looking at her with disgust (I couldn’t help it)… plus she was a know it all. lol
that’s why marriage scares me…you might get hit with the bait and switch
he got pwned.
LOL @ Hugh!
I’d stamp “return to sender” on her forehead. .
DEAD!!!! bwhahahaha
Hey 80’s.
I don’t think I ever commented on the actual post. Get personal CBG!!!
As for who you will or will not date, I know I DEF. have people on my do not date. People are automatically registered there. It’s actually pretty similar to the do not call list.
“WTF? I was just about to leave the office for an hour before reading inanity. A vow of celibacy is no more a gift than a vow not to murder.”
LOL. I promise you- it ws one of the gifts listed on that test!!!
BTW: I didn’t get it either bc it seemed more like a way of life to me.
how does that gift get determined?? i’ve taken a spiritual gifts test before and i don’t even remember seeing that as an option. honestly…how do you determine that celibacy is for you?? i would be re-taking that test over and over until the outcome was different too! that’s a gift that better come with a receipt so i can exchange it…no thanks Lord…lol.
“I was in class with her just looking at her with disgust (I couldn’t help it)… plus she was a know it all. lol”
@Nick- With that craziness you can’t help but to look at like that!
“that’s why marriage scares me…you might get hit with the bait and switch
he got pwned”
@whyso: If I found that out on the honeymoon, we’d be right back at the courthouse to get it annulled.
I can see it being a gift…but only for those who have the gift of singleness as well.
Not for somebody whose uni has seen and felt penetration and who desires to be married. EPIC FAIL!
CoCo I think she lied! *tee-hee*
“@Nick- With that craziness you can’t help but to look at like that!”
@Hol: Exactly!
@Coco: It’ some sort of test that they took from a website… I promise, I’m gonna try not to forget bc I have a test and my results, in my car, I think. And it came from a website… so u can see it.
Morning!
How is everyone?
LOL @ Jada! The gift of singleness? Does that equal to nunnery or monkdom?
Hey Jac
“Not for somebody whose uni has seen and felt penetration and who desires to be married. EPIC FAIL!”
Did Jada say Seen and Felt PENETRATION????
Dead and pour out a lil liquor for me.
Mikki: I sent you my e-mail address.
Nicki: “LOL. I promise you- it ws one of the gifts listed on that test!!!”
No offense, but whoever wrote that test is an idiot. That is the problem when you combine religious vigor with a substandard level of intelligence. A gift by definition is something you give to someone. How can not doing something be a gift?
@ Hollie
It can. But there are some people who choose to go through life single and w/o sex. It is very rare, but it happens.
“That is the problem when you combine religious vigor with a substandard level of intelligence. ”
@hugh: I’ll have to agree bc I really don’t understand how I got the things I was gifted with- they are so not me.
i can understand a preference test…for example you are good at x,y,z therefore your gift could possibly be x,y,z…like teaching, encouragement, music, etc. But celibacy? what kind of questions were they asking? lol.
Jac im good how are u?
“for example you are good at x,y,z therefore your gift could possibly be x,y,z…like teaching, encouragement, music, etc. But celibacy? what kind of questions were they asking? lol.”
@Coco: Yep, that’s how they went… like for example, one of my gifts is exhortation.
it was one of those tests that were like would you rather: a, b, or c. ( I think)
And here I was thinking the Good Lord himself would reveal to you your spiritual gifts. Silly me.
“And here I was thinking the Good Lord himself would reveal to you your spiritual gifts. Silly me.”
i know right?
LOL. Yaw that’s how I felt when I took the class.
I am good~
@Mik
How you? And can you e-mail me please…I have a question.
Umm…I wanna say I had THE best night EVER last night.
Please let me know if I am being mean.
My friend aka “associate” is getting married this Saturday and I am a bridesmaid. After this weekend, I see our friendship falling by the wayside.. it’s so much drama.
First, she tells me all the time that her “associates” say things about me and my sidditiness but I’m never supposed to say something or let them know I know.
Second, for the bridal shower (I told yaw about that) I missed it bc the girl told me like two weeks in advance and me and J already had plans to go to Nashville.
Third, yaw know I’ve been planning to go to St. L for a while.. she emails me Tuesday and I found out there is a bachelorette party that no one ever said anything to me about.
I have helped her do her invitions and place cards.. she was supposed to come over last Thursday so we can do the programs but she didn’t call and didn’t show. On our way back from St. L on Sunday, I get a phone call and sent her to voicemail. She left a message stating she forgot to come over to get her invitations done and to let her know when it’s convenient for me to do them.
I never answered.
She just called and texted me and I never answered.
I really don’t feel like dealing with her- I feel like she’s using my services. I am not the maid or matron of honor.
Am I mean?
“Umm…I wanna say I had THE best night EVER last night.”
Do tell.
“She left a message stating she forgot to come over to get her invitations done and to let her know when it’s convenient for me to do them.”
I meant get her programs done.
I think you should let her know what is bothering you. That sucks that people got so much to say about you, but she won’t allow you to address it. I’d bring it up cause she could be lying and passing off her thoughts as what her friends are saying.
Tell her you had time to do the programs when you two had originally planned, and are now too busy to help and that maybe she should solicit one of those freinds that got so much to say to help with them.
” think you should let her know what is bothering you. That sucks that people got so much to say about you, but she won’t allow you to address it. I’d bring it up cause she could be lying and passing off her thoughts as what her friends are saying.
Tell her you had time to do the programs when you two had originally planned, and are now too busy to help and that maybe she should solicit one of those freinds that got so much to say to help with them.”
@Jada: Exactly.. I would never tell someone something that someone said about them and then say, “don’t tell them I told you.” or whatever. That is soo childish.
I agree- let one of them help since my siddity a&& ain’t good enough to do anything but help with the “smart stuff.” That’s how I feel.
I co-sign with Jada. I think there’s too much going on…she doesn’t seem like she is investing anything in the friendship.
@Nick-Bonfire @ the 2520s house….he’s a sweetie.
OK I gotta go pick the kid up from dance camp so I’ll ttyl pals
“I co-sign with Jada. I think there’s too much going on…she doesn’t seem like she is investing anything in the friendship.”
@Jaci: I know girl. it’s always something.. it seems like this “friendship” ain’t nothing but a source of entertainment for her.
She insisted on me walking with her fiance’s cousin who I used to date who is persistent as HE!!. I have told him so many times that I am not interested and it was only the week before last, when I told her J was not 100% comfortable with it, knowing how the guy is, that she even told her fiance and they changed it.
She likes drama.
Bonfires are thee bizness.
http://www.princessdominique.com/fashionblog/2009/05/here-comes-the-bride-all-dressed-in-red/
YIKES! lol
@Nicki…. This girl in my hometown had a red wedding dress… I don’t think it looked bad at all….. It was different… But everything was coordinated nicely.
@80s: What other colors did she have- I guess they’re called accent colors???
Would u consider doing another color?
Hey peeps I’m back!
“It can. But there are some people who choose to go through life single and w/o sex. It is very rare, but it happens.”
@ Jada- I can’t !! But you are right there are!
” @ Jada- I can’t !! But you are right there are!”
LOL. Me neither. Don’t priests do it?
I think so!
What other colors did she have- I guess they’re called accent colors???
@Nicki…. Like the top of her dress had some white accents…. And her groom had on all white… And then I believe the bridesmaids had on black dresses and the guys black tuxes….
I wouldn’t do another color… Probably because I already know I don’t want a traditional dress…. So to not have my family mad at me all the way around I would probably make them happy with a white dress….. But they already know how 80’s get down… And big and poofy is not it…. I need something tight and sexy… LOL
“But they already know how 80’s get down… And big and poofy is not it…. I need something tight and sexy… LOL”
@ I feel you on that!!! The big and poofy ones all look alike to me.
@Hol: But then again, we know about somma them priests.
@ Nicki – If I were to have a wedding, I would soooo do a color other than white. I would be the one in pink (like a salmon) with the bridesmaids in cream.
@V: I think those colors sound pretty. You kinda are going for opposites!
LOL. Me neither. Don’t priests do it? .
Ummmmm they apparently do it. And nuns.
I’m sorry, but I think that vow of celibacy is part of the reason why some end up messing with the little boys.
LMAO @ 80’s tight and sexxy.
Yall know I was talking about the bootleg Rosetta Stone. Well I went to Half Price books on lunch, and in the clearance section, there was a 10 disc French bootleg Rosetta Stone. I listened to it in the car. All I can say is I see why it was only $3… at least it came with a cd carrier.
LMAO @ 80’s tight and sexxy.
@V.Renee….. That’s right.I’ve already prewarned them and said I don’t necessarily want to get married in the church… I would rather have an all in one……. And surprisingly my grandmother was like I can see that…..
@VRenee: I love Half Price Books. I try to go at least once a week. I want to get back to learning French…haven’t studied it or taken classes since college.
“I’m sorry, but I think that vow of celibacy is part of the reason why some end up messing with the little boys.”
We weren thinking alike.
“listened to it in the car. All I can say is I see why it was only $3… at least it came with a cd carrier.”
What the EFFE??? lol
“I would rather have an all in one……. And surprisingly my grandmother was like I can see that…..”
Ohhh-KAY. that si definitely good to know.
I think outside wedding are gorgeous.
Anybody know of a cheap but good travel agency?
@Jada: I’ve never used them.. I usually book online at priceline or expedia. have u used those before?
@Nick- Yes they like little boys….
@80’s- I think I want a short wedding dress… not short like that, but like chickie poo’s on The Game!
Yes I use expedia or priceline all the time. But I’m looking for an actual travel package somewhere out of the country like the Bahamas or something.
“@Nick- Yes they like little boys….”
Right!
@80’s- I think I want a short wedding dress… not short like that, but like chickie poo’s on The Game!”
I liked that too.. it’s something different. I think that’s how mine would be
think I want a short wedding dress… not short like that, but like chickie poo’s on The Game!
@Holly……. Exactly… I loved Mel’s dress…. And I can totally see myself in something like that.
@jada: I’ve never used it but several of my co-workers rave about Apple Vacations. One co-worker found a great cruise package (if you like cruises) and another found a really good Hawaii package. Good luck. http://www.applevacations.com/index.do?command=showHome
I undestand Jay boogie
@Nick- LOL
@80’s- I loved it, but her hair was awful!
Thanks Shawnta,
I’ll check that out!
@jada: If you use it let me know what you think of it so I’ll know whether I need to start recommending it (especially since I have no personal experience with it).
I meant to say “stop” recommending it. Lol.
@Hols: Yeah waht the he!! was the motivation for the hair, I need to know. lol. It looked like birds attacked her
@Nick- YES!!! I was like it’s too much!! Please put it away!
@hols: It looks like what happens when u let 2520s style your hair.. they be doing with brushes and blow dryers.. uh honey, roll my hair up and set me under a dryer. Thanks
Nick I get my hair blown out with the brush and hair dryer!!!!!!!! ROTFLMAO!!!
MY HAIR NEVER EVER LOOKS LIKE THAT!!
they be doing with brushes and blow dryers.. uh honey, roll my hair up and set me under a dryer. Thanks .
LMAO. Like a Dominican blow out.
Has any of you guys ever had one? What is the special thing that they do?
“MY HAIR NEVER EVER LOOKS LIKE THAT!!”
LMAO!!!! I meant when they take it and roll your hair up in a round brush and then dry it that way instead of rolling it.
“Has any of you guys ever had one? What is the special thing that they do?”
I’on know but I done heard special things about them.. special enough to make me want to move where there are Dominicans or just drive somewhere to try.
“LMAO!!!! I meant when they take it and roll your hair up in a round brush and then dry it that way instead of rolling it.”
Like your hair is wet when they do it..
They did one of my co workers like that and I had to keep calling her Pepito. lol
@ V Renee- Yep I go to Dominicans and 2520’s and have it done!
@Nick- I never have it rolled up and them blown! They do it like they do they own hair!
@ Shawnta
Will do.
“LMAO!!!! I meant when they take it and roll your hair up in a round brush and then dry it that way instead of rolling it.”
I’ve seen that but me and a friend were discussing this technique and decided it aint meant for every hair texture
@holly…One time I was visiting my sis in the A and I wanted to let the Dominicans do my hair… But she said they were too far out… I just wanted to try it.
@V. Renee…. I heard it’s some Dominicans who do hair in a basement somewhere in Fairfield… If you want to try them out… LOL
“@holly…One time I was visiting my sis in the A and I wanted to let the Dominicans do my hair… But she said they were too far out… I just wanted to try it.”
I prolly would’ve drove. lol
I have not had good experiences with the sistas- they take forever, so I’d do anything to stay out of our shops.
@80’s they are far from your sisters, but next time you come if you wanna try I will take you… plus I have a new stylist who uses their technique and charges their prices.
@Nicki- I have a black hair dresser now and she is the bomb not like the usual
“@Nicki- I have a black hair dresser now and she is the bomb not like the usual”
LUCKY in ATLANTA. lol
She needs to have a talk with her semi southern sistas up here.
My ex friend was thee best stylist ever but I would be in there too long and would have to hear her gossip and drama all day.
LOL @ Semi-Southern!!!!!!!!!
Comeback Kids…whose all going to Chicago for Taste????
please signify by saying “I”..
@hol: U know how they do us.
@Comeback: I
@Nick- Yes
@CBG- I
Sunny You’re Coming??? I thought you had a boyfriend thing to do??
@Nick- you back in!!
Thanks Hollys for the signification…i was just taking a blog tally too.
Not with yaw…MAN. YAW’s MEMORIES SUCK.. but I will be there.
My boyfriend is coming.
Thanks CBG! LOL! I was following instructions
Comeback: I
OK, I am back…this whole red wedding dress think is horrid. I got my hair done yesterday though and I LOVE it…he laid it out, but the layers and ish are making it hard for me to wrap plus the humidity and the bonfire eh..it’s fallen, but the relaxer is on point.
I forgot Nick!
@80’s – my hair is short tho. Can they do it on short hair? FOr the length it is, I feel like I can take a brush and hair dryer and do it myself. LOL
@ CBG – I. Well at least 1 or 2 of the days Ill be there.
“Not with yaw…MAN. YAW’s MEMORIES SUCK.. but I will be there.
My boyfriend is coming.
”
Wk site Mikki…cooo!!!
I thought yall was going somewhere else..will he let you come to the treehouse meeting??
Boys are invited on the second one..not the first.
@jaci: It sounds pretty…. the only thing I can think of is to use clips when you wrap it and put your silk scarf on and remove the clips once u have the scarf on.
LOL.. I understand, Hols.
@ Vroom…
Coo…Im excited..
I’m excited too!
When is the treehouse meeting?
“When is the treehouse meeting?
”
I dunno??
I made it up..i was curious to see if anybody was interested first. And then just take it from there.
“I thought yall was going somewhere else..will he let you come to the treehouse meeting??”
@Comeback: We’ll prolly just come to the second. we’re coming for his 30th birthday so u know.. it’s kinda like his thing. One of my girls is coming with her husband.
Initially, thats when the meet the family thing was going to take place. We were supposed to be in St. L for the July 3rd, but he ended up asking me to come this past weekend for his lil sister’s graduation so we did that then. U feel me??? Speaking of retarded speak, we have missed Quannie (Comeback’s adopted child). Did I say his name right?
“I made it up..i was curious to see if anybody was interested first. And then just take it from there.”
Fell dead.
CBG- Im interested!!! Definitely! CBG where you staying? You staying at Intercontinental?
I’m interested.
So it’s like Ladies Only?!
“@Comeback: We’ll prolly just come to the second. we’re coming for his 30th birthday so u know.. it’s kinda like his thing. One of my girls is coming with her husband.”
So you gonna be all married up. DEMMERIT!! sike let me stop.
ok yall can come to the second.
@ Holly Berry…yeah at the Inter C.
“So you gonna be all married up. DEMMERIT!! sike let me stop.
ok yall can come to the second.”
LOL.. Comeback U knows I’m trying to make this thang work.
CBG:
*slaps you on the wrist and gives you a demerit*
Do not jinx Nick’s ring.
“Do not jinx Nick’s ring.”
LOL. Jax has been trying to get me married for the last six weeks. I am cracking up.
Sunny YOU GOT A RING???
WHERE HAVE I BEEN?? WHAT HAVE I MISSED???
@CBG- YAY!
LOL not yet CBG…I’m tryna get her one…I been prayin on it and I cannot have you jinxing it.
LOL not yet CBG…I’m tryna get her one…I been prayin on it and I cannot have you jinxing it.
”
@ Jackson..Well at the FIRST treeshouse meeting we could do a marriage dance and prayer over martini’s…but it may not have the same effect if Sunny aint there.
I dunno??
I made it up..i was curious to see if anybody was interested first. And then just take it from there. .
Hilarious!
“@ Jackson..Well at the FIRST treeshouse meeting we could do a marriage dance and prayer over martini’s…but it may not have the same effect if Sunny aint there.”
I cannot stand yaw. It ain’t even been six months yet. LMAO
“@ Jackson..Well at the FIRST treeshouse meeting we could do a marriage dance and prayer over martini’s…but it may not have the same effect if Sunny aint there.”
I cannot stand yaw. It ain’t even been six months yet. LMAO
What kinda shoes do I need to wear for this marriagedance? Let me get an outfit together.
And don’t nobody care, don’t take all day to know nothing..mkah…
@CBG- I am down for a martini meeting!!
“What kinda shoes do I need to wear for this marriagedance? Let me get an outfit together.
And don’t nobody care, don’t take all day to know nothing..mkah…”
LMAO!!!!! At mkah
Martini meet and greet.
Yeah Nick are you goign to have a color theme??? I wouldn’t mind looking for a dress.
“Yeah Nick are you goign to have a color theme??? I wouldn’t mind looking for a dress”
@V: a color theme for the meet n’ greet?
@ Nicki – No the wedding!!!!
@V; Oooh, lol. I have no clue. I haven’t even thought about a wedding yet. Shoot, I refuse to be a bride who’s got that all planned before she even gets propsed to (my cousin did that.) lol
@Nick
The cousin whose b!tchin? Yeah…see…
Lord I come back and y’all planning a marriage dance. Well toss a martini up for me…maybe ole dude will stop procrastinating and show his beautiful face soon.
EXACTLY JACI.. He didn’t propose formally until Christmas Eve… but she had all this mess planned and reserved already.
@Jada-You’re going to be there to drink your own martini.
@Nicki
Too Much! Terri Too Soon ought to be her name!
Do you all know each other? LOL I feel left out..
how many posts/comments do I need to make to move past the probationary stage? j/k…
Jac I need some help here so y’all got to get to tossing too!
@ Shay
We cool. Welcome to the Treehouse and to move past probation…just jump right in the convo dear!
Shay_D_Lady with the best istories around – you should never feel left out. Just hop in and tell the treehouse your stories about midget pimps!! They’re great/hilarious.
Hey Shay-D just jump on in!!
Not midget pimps!
I’m intrigued! LOL!
@Jaci: Girl hear? lol
@Shay-D: Girl there is NO PROBATION. lol. Just starting running your mouth- that’s how I pass my time away while at work.
I need to hear about these midgets fo I roll out!
Somebody tell me about these midgets.
tell me tell me
LMAO @ the midget pimps.
Sorry Shay, I may have opened a can of worms. I couldn’t help it. The story was hilarious.
Hmmm…. Where Shay at?
@Holi
I’m waiting.
LOL Im here.. trying to get some work done..
the midget pimp story might be a bit much at first….I dont know if this is the right time
but very quick
I worked as a waitress/bartender in a extra sleazy a$$ club in memphis during the summers. While tending bar, there was a short guy dressed in very bright colors and such that had been flirting with me all night or so I thought..apparently he was recruting me..LOL this misunderstanding led to a short verbal confrontation which ended with him choking me and me having to defend myself until security got finished laughing and came over to break it up….
full disclosure…..the extra sleazy club was a strip club..
http://www.slate.com/id/2219266/?GT1=38001
@shay
You can feed my ashes to your cat.
Baby you been rollin solo, time to get down with the team
Because its greener on that other side if you know what I mean
I’ll show you sh*t you’ve never seen
The 7 wonders of the world
And I can make you the 8th if you wanna be my girl
When I say my girl I don’t mean my woman, that aint my style
Need a real streets stalker to walk a green mile
Easy as A B C, simple as 1 2 3
Get down with UGK, Pimp C, B U N B
Cause whats a h*e with no pimp, and whats a pimp with no h*es
Dont be a lame, you know the game and how it goes
We tryin to get jones
I choose you girl!!!!
So basically a midget pimp tried to take her out the game…..or should that be take her in the “game”. Either way it was funny.
Nicki: “I cannot stand yaw. It ain’t even been six months yet. LMAO”
According to the refuse I read in that Steve Harvey book, you’re right on schedule.
Shay that story was great. U have killed me dead. Even though I am now off work and at home, I had to come back and read. LMAO
“According to the refuse I read in that Steve Harvey book, you’re right on schedule.”
LOL. Hugh, did he really say that??? Wow.
Im reading the steve harvey book now. got an illegal e version….I havent gotten to that part. I had planned to read it for the book club I joined, but then I got kicked out …..
Ma’am, ma’am- how do u get kicked out of a book club?
“Im reading the steve harvey book now. got an illegal e version….”
@ Shay D..
D-E-M-E-R-I-T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but then I got kicked out …...
Bwhahaha. Yeah Im with Nik, how do you get kicked out of a book club??
Kicked out of a book club?
Wtf for real homie?
Speaking of book clubs, what happened to the Treehouse and Thurdays?
CBG: This is your second demerit for the day. You are really screwing up .
jac email me, i can’t find your addy in my email book
clarkk1@michigan.gov
or im me
brownsuga3131982
Hi all,
Quick peek-a-boo as work has me actually doing work! Sheesh!
@ Coco- I had a love/hate relationship with Mr. Big. I liked him because Carrie loved him. But he played her MANY times…so i hated him for that.
Dear V, I will have to refute this comment… Carrie played HERSELF many times!!! She knew Big was trouble but she kept going back for more, again, and again, and again… Glutton for punishment I tell ya! People will push until you break… You have to take a stand and stay on it. And it’s not like Miranda didn’t tell her… but she went ahead anyways…all the time…. She gets no pass for me… (actually she was my least favorite character… And I spent my time psycho-analyzing her arse… Lol!)