I agree with all of the above. If I am just attracted to you and I don’t see much potential for much else you will get whatever it is and the dealings will run it’s course, without me putting much effort into the situation.

However if I like you, and you have potential to be more then a date to me, and you look excellent on paper (excellent like you can meet my momma)
then I tend to make them wait. not an extreme amount of time, but i make them wait none the less.

But that’s all before the club, because the cookies have been on lock for what seems like forever..

Jesus keep me chasented this weekend..amen

that is all.

ps. morning all my lovelies. will be very busy today prepping..

“CHRIS BROWN POOOOOOOOOOOOPIINNNN!!”

As in “beat it up, Chris Brown” or “Beat You up, Chris Brown”?

NoNo I was talkin to my bestie yesterday about Chrisy pooo

she said long ago when she brought her very first ukon truck she was driving around with the BF they got into an argument (in the week old car) and he told her to pull over. She didn’t pull over and he proceeded to try to put the car in park while she was driving.

she said she stopped the car and went to swinging on him like a crazy person

whew i was crackin up. She said she was justified cuz nobody was bout to fugg up her 20,000 car

I say so, but I’m not sure whose story would hold up n court better

actually, I think he would win the case. Cuz lets see if he asked her to pull over and let him out before any fights took place, he woulda been acting in self defense and could say he feared for his life.

hmm yea i could be a lawyer

true, so very true

she was tellin me rere threw his keys in the woods???

I just need someone to tell me what really happen for cryin out loud so i can go back to listening to “run it”

cuz i been on a chris strike

“cuz i been on a chris strike”

Why? Couldnt you have kept listening to him until the facts came out, then made a decision?

The striking bothers me because no one has the facts yet. This is just like the Kobe incident, where I was defending him and everyone was saying I was wrong and he was guilty…and we see where that ended up.

Good Morning everyone,

I agree with #2 and #3, although I’ve really really liked a guy and have woken up in the middle of the night to satisfy his a&&… Perhaps, because I thought I could s3x him into wanting me back.

Anywho, life is for lessons.

i have 5 days until I start it

Akua no eggs

akua go to danielfast.wordpress.com

this box of cinnamon toast crunch on my desk is callin my name

be strong girl be strong!!

lol Jada Holly inspired me to start the fast yesterday

so I brought some groceries last night and exercised some. But I forgot this cereal was on my desk…

im not sure what to do with it.

Oh and I strongly believe in # 2…..

80’s well I didn’t have much food in my frig anyways so i didn’t see no point in waiting lol

its some frozen chicken that I had in there and some salad, I can always eat the chicken later.

tomorrow im gonna try to make my own salad dressing, i brought this nice looking cranberry and nut mix to go with my salad. I should be iight.

“Throw it away Mik! It will only be a temptation!”

have you lost your etire mind!!!

I will NOT throw away my favorite cereal in the whole world. I am just gonna put it someplace i can’t see it how is that?

Hey Hollies!

I will NOT throw away my favorite cereal in the whole world. I am just gonna put it someplace i can’t see it how is that?

@Mik…Girl, it’s gonna be stale in 21 days anyway so just throw it away…..Once you complete your fast I will mail you a new box of cereal… LOL

Hey Jada!! How are you this mornting!

I got em Nick! Printing off as we speak!

Mik im glad to see you on the fast journey!!

Nope, its a Luther Burger.

“A Luther Burger is a hamburger, specifically a bacon cheeseburger, which employs a grilled glazed donut in place of the bun.”

@ No no…. That just sounds nasty…. Yuck

@ Mik… Girl… I got you…. But you gotta do the whole 21 days… And if you cheat my offer is null and void.

Ew… Sugar mixed with burger.. Throwing up in my mouth now.

especially if its a crispy cream donut

@ Nick….. Thanks for the notes girly!!! I really enjoyed it last night…… I really enjoyed the part where he was backin up to exemplify how we think we’re retreating but we’re actually getting set up for something greater…

I got a kick out of the hello husband… In my case I’m backing up and then it’s gonna be like hello boyfriend…. LOL

EWWWW Mik thinks that burger sounds good…. A donut and a burger is not a good look.. Especially not together… That’s just fat.

“I jetted outta there so fast!! I said Jesus be a hair do!!”

Why didnt you stay? Most dudes would still try and talk to you if they thought you were cute regardless. Specially if you had on some tight pants.

No problem chicas!!!!

@80s: GIRL.. I was thinking the SAME exact thing… and I was moved when he was talking about how he got fired from teaching and turned right back around and was president over the organization

I love food NoMore.. I have a sick relationship with it. Lol

I need sleep Jada!

Hi MiMi!! I too like manly men!!

Mik it’s Krispy Kreme!!

O.M.G. No more. LOL… I do love some cheetos but I wouldn’t soak in them.

But they don’t have NOTHING on doritos!

Hey kids.

I agree with all the above. And sometimes I think men trip and do these things to us.

Anyways, I am going to look for some more pajamas something.

And I am trying to have a good day today…find something positive…pray for me.

I am finding I am starting to have a very, very hard time and I have already bought ten self help books and done so much praying.

Thanks,
Jaci

(((((((JAC)))))))))!!!

I don’t know what’s wrong girly…but it will work itself out! Continue praying Dear!

@Jac…. I’m praying for you sweetie…. Stay encouraged

Cheese and Glaze = Not A Good Look.

“@Nick….. Right…That’s a testimony right there…. Got fired as a teacher and then years later got called back to become the President of the College….Who would’ve thunk it????? My new motto of 09 is “My present state is not my permanent state””

Oh yes… you just said something right there.

5 menses???? 1 hot me?

Mik, you could have had some good flirty fun right there. lol

lol Nicki I am a chicken

“I just couldn’t stay in there with all them, it was like 5 of em!! “

You are nuts. I wish five bad@ss chicks would roll up in the gym and it was just me in there. Id pour water all over myself then”accidentally” drop my pants & draws.

“I sure would eat that burger, fat n all

put some cheese on it and omg!”

You are out of control, LOL

“Cheese and Glaze = Not A Good Look.”

Truth has been spoken here.

“you forgot to say you would start spouting skittles and diamonds!”

DEAD

Welcome MiMi and Hey Tatica

@Mik… You really bout to try to get to Georgia now just so you can get that burger…

And I’m with you Mik I would have been in there flirting my butt off……

True story.. I went running around my neighborhood in my lil workout getup… Some lil pants from Victoria Secret that was doing too much and they had Pink all across the booty…. This brotha pulls up on me and smile… I’m talkin about that next day I had a message on myspace from him talkin bout a girl who exercises is sexy…. I’m thinkin how the heck did he find me on here…I honestly did not know him… But Mik you exercising would have just been enough… lol

“@NoNo- you forgot to say you would start spouting skittles and diamonds!”

Right there in the weight room? What kinda whore do you take me for Rockstar?

“You are nuts. I wish five bad@ss chicks would roll up in the gym and it was just me in there. Id pour water all over myself then”accidentally” drop my pants & draws.”

@No more… Hilarious.. Yeah Mik was playing.. I would have been all on that. They would have been my motivation to go hard!!!!

Welcome Khalil.

Don’t I wish something, anything, that looked good would walk into my gym…

“I’m talkin about that next day I had a message on myspace from him talkin bout a girl who exercises is sexy…. I’m thinkin how the heck did he find me on here…I honestly did not know him”

Is that OK, were you cool with him contacting you? I know I dont really like it when someone whom I just met contacts me later and I didnt give them direct permission. How do women feel about that?

Yall clownin today

80’s I wasn’t gonna go to Georgia to get the burger I was just thinkin when im off the fast I could make my own.

I just like sugary stuff mixed with salt, I think I got that from my granny. She always used to mix them sugar kernel things that was like white, yellow n orange ( i forget what they are called) but she mixed em with peanuts all the time. Would fall asleep with candy n nuts hanging from her lip.

she would call her snack bag zoo zoo’s and wham whams

“That was sweet!!!!
@Nick….And see I thought it was a lil weird because I had never talked to this dude a day in my life…. So I’m still puzzled as to how he found me on there…. lol”

LOL… see there I go giving credit. Hmmm… did he know your name? Girl, if he looked at every chick in your city until he got you, now THAT would be nuts.

“That was sweet!!!!”

Guess you answered my question!

Also, Khalil just dropped the truth up there.

“She always used to mix them sugar kernel things that was like white, yellow n orange”

I despise candy corn, if thats what you are referring to.

yep NoNo it was candy corn lol

So, one of the Internet Guys sent me a picture of his MAJOR BROWN yesterday.

@NoMore and Khalil: You guys are men.. so I need your insight.. Is it normal for every ninja I meet to be trying to discuss s3s EVEN after I tell them I’m celibate? I mean bringing it up within two weeks time i.e, sending me pics, telling me how good theirs is?

“pops purple skittle”

Jada those skittles are laced with that same stuff that had martin lawrence runnin in the middle of the street waving a gun all around.

be careful lol

thanks for the welcome. I enjoy this blog. I have one more thing to add from where I left off.

What is your place in the world? Are you a giver, taker, team player, wanna be on top, bottom? Where are you in the world? When you know and are comfy with where you the whole world opens up. People start coming to you. You can see who is good for your position and who isnt.

What we have is bunch of dysfunctional folks out here trying to be linebackers weighing a buck 05. Whoa Nelly. Find your spot and man your position.

These chicks have been sold a bill of goods and are paying top dollar for potted meat. If you want a family dont talk to a guy that says he doesnt. And have the guts to ask. If you want a home only deal with cats that have that. Dont work on projects or redo’s. No matter what we say there’s a chick right this minute planning a wedding with a man that loves her and she him. If she can, you can but you have to know what skills are gonna get you to the table.

BTW, this is the hardest thing to do. To look at yourself and say I’m lacking in this area. It crushes the ego to do so.

First step, find out who you are. Second step, market that chick to the desired group. Third step, Enjoy. LOL

Moral of the story, be honest with who and what you are and then you will find your market. I know the women lib movement, Oprah, and all these self help books tell you that you are a beautiful, smart woman (YOU ARE) but don’t listen to them look in the mirror and trust your eyes. Then you will be happy. Which is all that really matters.

Is that OK, were you cool with him contacting you? I know I dont really like it when someone whom I just met contacts me later and I didnt give them direct permission. How do women feel about that?

@no more……And see like I told Nick in that case I thought it was a lil weird because I did not know him….. But I just kind of wrote back like oh okay….. I didn’t want him to roll up on me again like why you ain’t write me back on myspace….(Because I’ve had somebody come up to me like why you ain’t accept my friend request on myspace I was like when did you ask me) But because we had mutual friends on myspace I wasn’t all the way freaked out…

But now if he was cute and if he could be a possible pbf then I probably wouldn’t have had a problem with it….. LOL But to me a message on myspace or facebook is harmless because I don’t have to respond.. But if you somehow got my number and just called me talkin about what u doing then that’s a whole different story.

Exactly. Once a got a call from a girl whom I had me the night before but I didnt have an in-depth convo with her. She’s like ” I got your number from your boy, I noticed you kept looking at me last night”…which was true, but I didnt want to get at her in that way, so it was weird.

WOW! Narcissistic much? That’s why women should not be approaching men. They can misconstrue signals and end up getting their feelings hurt.

Jada those skittles are laced with that same stuff that had martin lawrence runnin in the middle of the street waving a gun all around.

be careful lol

LMAO!

*Chokes…spits up skittle*

*Side Eye’s NoMo*

[whispers] Yall know Mik would know… Remember what happened at the reception….

“Its normal in the sense that some guys are all about s3x and thats all they will talk about until you do it. Now, most respectable men wont harp on the subject. If the conversation just happens to turn to that then cool, but im not gonna interrupt a convo about your job to talk about s3x. Also, the men who are good at s3x will not broadcast to you in advance”

Thanks NoMore, I really appreciate it. .. I was just wondering if I was expecting too much to want them not to even mention it!!!!

“*Chokes…spits up skittle*

*Side Eye’s NoMo*”

You already had it in your mouth, you might as well swallow.

“You already had it in your mouth, you might as well swallow.”

I have never heard this line before. LOL

You already had it in your mouth, you might as well swallow.

Not finna swallow a regurgitated skittle!

*Keeps 3rd eye on NoMo*

“Exactly. Once a got a call from a girl whom I had me the night before but I didnt have an in-depth convo with her. She’s like ” I got your number from your boy, I noticed you kept looking at me last night”…which was true, but I didnt want to get at her in that way, so it was weird.”

No More, that was weird as all get out… I would never do something like that!

“@Nicki…Girl, he was some lil dusty boy from my neigborhood… I ain’t pay him no attention.”

I am dead at DUSTY!!!!!

Treehouse What Up..I look crazy this morning..hopefully i can pull it together for our blogtv.com discussion. I think we may start off with this topic today: secrets of women, and maybe we can discuss Sunny’s questions about se!x and men and then I’ll open it up to the floor, for comments questions and concerns !!! Oh and my surprise.

@ Mik “I agree with all this except #3 Most men I have ever respected usually would get everything I had to offer and dem sum lol.

I think the most restraint I have ever practiced would be the picking up the phone restraint. But that really goes for any man I am diggin supperly hard, I want him to show that he is as interested in me as I am him.
”
Don’t you think the risks are this comes off as super duper pressed tho. There are def. ways to signal interest to a man that is subtle to his overt. That actually welcomes him to you?

@ Akua

“I agree with all of the above. If I am just attracted to you and I don’t see much potential for much else you will get whatever it is and the dealings will run it’s course, without me putting much effort into the situation.”

AMEN

@ NONO
“By nailing it, do you mean having the men and two or three of the women disagreeing with you by 9:30am? Cuz I think thats what happened in that post. Back to the topic at hand…”

Yes thats what I exactly mean LOL..i don’t recall women disagreeing with me..LOL I’ll need to check the tape. BUT I expect the men too. They have secrets..its like masons..would they expect me to go to starbucks and start pasting all there rituals on the message board and then SUPPORT THE SECRETS. and agree with them too. Hel!l naw..they gonna disagree FIRST. thats a secret NoNo..thank me later and namaste. Hopefully you and the GF can come to the show tonite.

@ NoNo, Akua, and Mik “The striking bothers me because no one has the facts yet. This is just like the Kobe incident, where I was defending him and everyone was saying I was wrong and he was guilty…and we see where that ended up.
”
re: Chris-ie Poo…I got all the facts i need. The police report has bruises and bites. Now I don’t think he should be getting an attempted murder charge of any kind!!! but he’s momma and he DEF. need to be put on notice. I believe he had some kind of affair with his 30 year old publicist..if thats true…then he is just perpetuating the cycle’s of abuse and neglect. What does his momma have to say about all this. I think SHE could actually help by speaking out.

@ Jada “Can’t see submitting to somebody who doesn’t have the desire to lead. Now there has been a couple I would gladly defer too. And I can’t wait to do this with and for future hubby.
”
EXACTLY!!!! you can’t lead me down a dark path tho..thats where i get off. But if you’re actually GOOD at leading then I’ll defer to the cows come home.

@ 80s “Oh and I strongly believe in # 2…..
”
Amen..how was bible study?

@ Holister “Comeback I think you have hit it on the head again!
”
Seriously??? LOL or yall just bs’in me.??

@ Tactica “#2 rings especially true with me and it’s definitely something I look forward to. But I do think that the idea of being submissive has gotten murked up with being a doormat and obviously it’s not that at all, so many women recoil at the word.
”
TOTALLY..there are negative connotations to it. But I think the underlying issue here is fear. And women now actually depending on men to lead where they are good at leading. It suggests tho that you’ve GOT A MAN WHO CAN LEAD. This has not always been every black man’s thing..because we wouldnt let them.

I am dead at DUSTY!!!!!

@ Nick… Girl, at home…. I’mma lil dusty wannabe dope boy magnet…… They love me for some reason…… lol

“he was some lil dusty boy from my neigborhood”

LOL @ Dusty

“Did you get on your boy’s case about giving your number out?”

Yep. He couldve at least asked me if it was OK first.

“@ Nick… Girl, at home…. I’mma lil dusty wannabe dope boy magnet…… They love me for some reason…… lol”

LMAO! Maybe they think you want to take on a project. Clean House = Clean Man, something like that.

@CBG: Hey chica!!! Oooh thanks, I would love to have my question on tonight!

““Is it normal for every ninja I meet to be trying to discuss s3s EVEN after I tell them I’m celibate? I mean bringing it up within two weeks time i.e, sending me pics, telling me how good theirs is?””

@ Sunny

let’s discuss on the show tonite too. I saw NoNo weigh in.

“TOTALLY..there are negative connotations to it. But I think the underlying issue here is fear. And women now actually depending on men to lead where they are good at leading. It suggests tho that you’ve GOT A MAN WHO CAN LEAD. This has not always been every black man’s thing..because we wouldnt let them.”

cbg you’re onto something.

Every guy should learn how to partner dance. For visual/feel type people, you will fully understand the man/woman relationship.

@ 80’s. I knew exactly what you meant girly! I just thought it was funny cause I haven’t really heard that expression in a while!

LMAO! Maybe they think you want to take on a project. Clean House = Clean Man, something like that.

@ Nick… Girl please….. Like I said before I ain’t studdin’ them….. This one guy used to leave me money on top of my car. It wasn’t much but it would be there in the morning….. I’ve got letters from jail. Like yeah, I had my brother ride past yall house to get your address….. This one guy paid my sister some money so she would give him my number. I still ain’t forgave her for that one….. This one guy even had the nerve to tell my daddy like yeah, I like 80’s.I want 80’s..And my daddy talkin bout oh for real… LOL I was on the phone with Mik and I was sitting on my porch and one just rolled up and started chatting it up with me….

I won’t be on blog tv tonight im goin to see DAVE!!!!

WOOOOOOOOOO

end hyper rant

Hey im back for a minute doing mad laundry..I saw i’ve missed alot! i wish the blog would come up on my phone…lol

Have fun mikster.

It was postponed til today Akua.

Testing comes in the form of several different ways—questions/actions/scenerios to see how they respond.

If a woman doesn’t ask a man questions, she’s probably not that into him.

Oh Yeah Akua we moved BTV to tonite.

CAN ONE OF YALL TELL ME HOW BIBLE STUDY WAS LAST NITE..FOR THE 5,000,000th time.

@Comeback…. My bad…. I feel like a kid because you just yelled at me…. Bible Study was great…Nicki typed up and sent out the notes. But the Pastor talked about how God will intentionally shut doors and how we get mad because we didn’t get this job or that bonus (or whatever)… It’s not because He’s forgotten about you but it’s because He’s orchestrating things and getting everything ready for our breakthrough…. And it was also mentioned how sometimes we feel as though we’re taking steps backwards. It’s not that we’re going backwards but we’re actually advancing in a different direction..

correction: Am I alone on this one?

“I may be on the outside of this topic because I have never liked the idea of dating and all the rules that have been developed in relation to dating. I am I alone on this one?”

I’ve never really DATED, so to speak… I just started recently and I must say, it’s getting on my nerves. lol

I am DEAD at the hair weave. I’d love to see what kind of hair it was

Which route Jay Boogie?

Im back ya’ll what I miss?

@ Nick

Online dating

And I loved BAPS…..BOOYOW!

LOL….dang Nick. You got an old yearbook?

@Jay Boogie: Oooh. got ya. I would recommend it, it’s definitely an experience. I took my page off for a bit yesterday though… tired of nutjobs.. I can meet those in real life and for free. LOL

Girl, my yearbook is somewhere.. hmmmm (*thinking, thinking*)

“I may be on the outside of this topic because I have never liked the idea of dating and all the rules that have been developed in relation to dating. I am I alone on this one?”

@ OA..HI..thanks for stopping by. You are NOT alone. Most men on here hate the word “games” and rules..and such. Dating is not monopoly, its scrabble. I don’t think its about winning or losing either, but to get to know someone you do have to uncover things that “they may not want you to see”..nobody brings all there shyt to a first date. It NEVER happens..and if it did. you wouldn’t get very far.

Hi OA!

LMAO. Hugh. I miss the Boondocks.. it comes on too late

Granddad: Two Krispy Kreme doughnuts! It’s called the Luther because it was supposed to have been invented by Luther Vandross himself!

Granddad: And? What’s your point?

Too FUNNY!

“testing is NOT A GAME..NONO..”

Yes it is.

The easiest way to see what a man will do is to simply be yourself and observe and take note of how he reacts in normal scenarios rather than “creating” one.

I agree with you.

“In 2006, the Gateway Grizzlies baseball team of Sauget, Illinois began selling a donut-based burger under the name “Baseball’s Best Burger”. The sandwich has a hamburger patty topped with sharp cheddar cheese and two slices of bacon with a sliced Krispy Kreme Original Glazed doughnut as the bun.[3]”

Im tryna figure out who the hot he!ll would REALLY eat “the luther” it don’t even sound good.

Hi Hewy..but what you gotta say bout the topic tho LOL.

The easiest way to see what a man will do is to simply be yourself and observe and take note of how he reacts in normal scenarios rather than “creating” one.

I don’t think it’s so much about creating a scenario more than asking questions and observing. If a man is lying…his ACTIONS will eventually give him away.

Ahhh…we have all the head knowledge and still allow our crazy hearts to muck us up! God wasn’t lying when he said the heart was decietful.

CBG: “but what you gotta say bout the topic tho LOL.”

I’m a man, what good is my opinion on what women believe?

“what good is my opinion on what women believe?”

***make notes to add this to my book***

Ya’ll there is a Burger Boutique that has a Krispy Kreme Milkshake and a Burnt Marshmallow and Nutella Milkshake.

“Burnt Marshmallow and Nutella Milkshake”

What the effe?

while we’re on fatty foods, I’d like to share a website I found

http://thisiswhyyourefat.com/

I got my “15 minutes a day” laughter from one sole site. Win.

“while we’re on fatty foods, I’d like to share a website I found

http://thisiswhyyourefat.com/

I got my “15 minutes a day” laughter from one sole site. Win.
”
WhyWhy..how bout i hate my life right now for wanting to try the hot dog with mac and cheese..***calls ben’s chilli bowl to see if that could make that a half-smoke.***

That website is fabulous whyso. LOL

@Holister: Ew.. I’d pass on that one.. that’s like purposely eating burnt popcorn!

lolol…

and i too, must join the “i have eaten a luther-burger” club. Bored cawledge students + access to food = supreme idiocy.

*used youthful idiocy pass

“we have all the head knowledge and still allow our crazy hearts to muck us up! God wasn’t lying when he said the heart was decietful.”

@ Jada: I don’t think folks’ hearts are the problem. I am not a bible scholar but where does it say that God says that? It sounds a bit counter-intuitive.

It’s some scripture about the heart being decietful…lemme see if I can find it!

@ Jada: My point exactly but that is not what dating is most of the time i.e. the “tests”, other games people play, etc.

But why does it have to be BS? Isn’t it just being human?

The way I see it, people freak at other people’s issues because they don’t wish to confront/reveal their own.

LOL.. Jada we have the same mind

@OA…That’s just my word. You can refer to it as you wish.

The fact is people play ‘games’, conciously and unconciously to feel out the person they are getting to know. And if we’re honest we with ourselves, we’ll recognize we even do it with our freinds/potential homies. It is what it is.

And of course people are human and have issues…but no need to lay all that out on a platter right up front. I would hope that most people would assume that not EVERYTHING is ducky in everybody’s world.

@OA: From reading a few of the verses before it, it seems like it’s talking about how you should trust GOD and not your heart and your fellow men??

Exactly NOMO! Why everybody getting so worked up over a word? Game is just a description word I guess. Games, rules…(ie: questions, standards).

Same thing…just differs the terminology one chooses to use.

“OA
Thursday, February 19, 2009 at 11:31 am · Edit
“but to get to know someone you do have to uncover things that “they may not want you to see”..nobody brings all there shyt to a first date.”

If they don’t want you to see it, you won’t find it. That is were I have the problem. If we all know we all have issues, why is the premise of dating to not show that? I’m not saying anyone should reveal all their personal stuff right away, but it’s a little judgmental, in my opinion, to penalize someone for letting their “shyt” be shown.

Maybe I’m also on the outside because I’d rather find out about the issues sooner than later after I’ve been presented with “the representative” and they’ve “passed all the tests”.
”
Because dating is a measured dance. People test you all the time just to feel out what the boundaries are and what you’re made of. PLEASE NOTE: ITS NOT THAT THING WHERE YOU SAY..ok let me do this so i can see how he responds. But they are questions. They are observations. They are (dating for a few months) and maybe calling him first when your car breaks down. But having a back up if he doesn’t offer to show up.

in that case I don’t insist a man come help..but I do observe. If he wishes me good luck on my catastrophe..bye bye now.

Well when you say game in realtion to dating, im assuming you are doing something unnatural in order to get a response. Like you wanna see how I react when we get in an argument, so you purposely start an argument with me just to see if I pass your test, even though you wouldnt have normally done so.

Lord in Heaven no. And my bad for making it seem that way. I do not intend to do anything outrageous or out of the ordinary to gauge your feelings. It’s all about asking questions….but also paying attention to your actions because men and women have that lip service down.

Jada & Comebcak I gotcha…Comeback in the gas scenario, lets say you called a guy but he really was unavaliable to come help you…does he automatically fail your test even though he had a valid reason why he couldnt immediately come to the rescue?

“Comeback in the gas scenario, lets say you called a guy but he really was unavaliable to come help you…does he automatically fail your test even though he had a valid reason why he couldnt immediately come to the rescue?”

1. If he’s out of town/out of state and shows geniune concern about my whereabouts and safety..PASS

1a. Stays on the phone with me until Roadside shows up..PASS +10 points

2. If he’s talm bout the game is on and he can’t FAIL

3. If its 9am and he’s at work BUT still shows concern and care PASS

4. If he talm bout “that’s messed up, let me know how that turns out” FAIL..

i have GF’s who were dating men that would be like “let me know…keep me posted on that”..THATS A BIG A!SS FAIL to the 1000th degree.

“@ Comeback: I know it’s a hypothetical but if you don’t specifically ask then you can’t condemn a man for not offering. If you don’t ask and he doesn’t offer, I don’t think that automatically makes him a bad guy. He also might want to help but can’t. So many variables.”

@ Q..WHY I GOTTA ASK THO??? if I tell you whats happening in DETAIL. IM OBSERVING..I don’t feel like i have to ask a man i ve been dating seriously NOTHING!!! about my safe keeping.

either you give a da!mn

or

you don’t

its simple..and his behavior is telling in regards to other aspects of the relationship and his overall male trait.

@ Comeback: I know it’s a hypothetical but if you don’t specifically ask then you can’t condemn a man for not offering. If you don’t ask and he doesn’t offer, I don’t think that automatically makes him a bad guy. He also might want to help but can’t. So many variables.

B/C Steve said so!

A man who cares about you want to protect you. And even if HE cannot physically be there to help you…he’s going to call a friend, triple A. He is going to make sure that you are okay and the problem gets fixed! He doesn’t necessarily have to be there in the physical.

We need to have a forum….cause the standards amongst us women are severly lacking!

Let me call a nigga and he tell me he can’t help. He can commence to stepping his silly @ss outta my life!

Never mind, I thought about it and answered by own question.

“@JAJA..for the record..there are MEN out there like this. Some just don’t KNOW HOW. Some never saw a daddy or another male figure come to the aid of ANY WOMAN. That’s at the top of my list.”

My cousin’s man has no clue about these things… they got into it earlier this week because her car was making a noise when she turned the heat on and she was riding around with no air… he offered to do nothing.

Some just don’t KNOW HOW. Some never saw a daddy or another male figure come to the aid of ANY WOMAN. That’s at the top of my list.

That’s not a good enough excuse for me. If he doesn’t KNOW how…he need to figure it out! Or else we ain’t gonna work. There are too many men who DO know or will at least try and figure it out.

But to do NOTHING…UNACCEPTABLE!

“If we’re at a dinner party and someone takes a real low blow jab at me..and if HE DOESNT STEP UP..FAIL.

Again i’ve seen men just watch “their lady” be verbally railroaded..LIVE AND IN PERSON. FAIL FAIL FAIL FAIL..”

Now this is how you can fail with me. If someone is talking sideways to you and you sit there, taking it while waiting on me to respond, you fail. I need to know that you are strong enough to at least try and fight for your self respect. At least give me a “shut the f*** up” or something. I’ll handle the situation quickly and efficiently but you better had looked like you couldve stood up for yourself because I might not always be around when those situations occur.

At least if he doesn’t know how, offer to take it to Micheal Tire or something. LOL

Thats what I’m talking bout. If he can’t do it…at least help me figure it out in another way.

At least if he doesn’t know how, offer to take it to Micheal Tire or something. LOL

I agree with this too….. My ex didn’t know how to do too much when it came to my car… But all I had to say was man, my car and he was on it taking it to all kinds of people to have them at least look at it.

We need to have a forum….cause the standards amongst us women are severly lacking!

@ jada…. I sooooo agree with this…

“MiMi
Thursday, February 19, 2009 at 9:08 am · Edit
I love alpha males. For me, I was raised solely by an alpha male and I think I expect that from a man I am with. I am not an alpha female, but I love feeling protected and safe with my man.

I want a manly man…a man that hunts, can fix things, that’s a little messy..a man that is all man.
”

Welcome MiMi..i agree with this too.

Well you fail if you dont know how to stand up for yourself using the appropriate language for the situation too.

@ No No…… It was a joke…. But if that’s how the family communicates with each other… Then a shut the f up might be appropriate… lol

“I fail you for failing me…”

Interesting.

@ 80s:Assuming that men (or anyone else for that matter) should respond the way you do or would in any given situation is asking for trouble. I think everyone is different and some respond and react in different ways, despite how you do/would and that doesn’t make them wrong.

uMMM what are you talking about now?

oh and good afternoon treehouse

What it do Jolies!

We are discussing possible scenarios that would ‘test’ a man or woman.

“““I fail you for failing me…”

Interesting.
”

It was a JOKE NONO and SUNNY…jeesh..”

LMAO.. I thought you were going over my head again.. U know I can be a bit “simple”

Hey Jolie!

@ 80s:Assuming that men (or anyone else for that matter) should respond the way you do or would in any given situation is asking for trouble. I think everyone is different and some respond and react in different ways, despite how you do/would and that doesn’t make them wrong.

@OA…Are you talkin about when I said that I jump to help others. I consider myself to be a very good friend and people know that they can depend on me if need be….. So when the shoe is on the other foot if I’m in my time of need and if I call then yes I would expect for them to help me even if I didn’t ask for it…..

But we’ll just have to agree to disagree. Because I have never been in an experience when I’ve called a friend or somebody and they haven’t been like I’m on my way or let me call triple a for you or something…..Even if I’ve been like naw everything is cool I’m just waiting for the tow truck or what have you… Their like no, I’m still on my way.

And I’m sorry but it is wrong if I tell you that I am stranded on the highway late at night and you tell me sorry to hear that let me know what happens… That shows me that you’re not concerned about my well being so again it is wrong… So there’s no need to be continuing anything…Because YOU FAIL!

“I have to agree with comeback on the scenario. .. show a lil empathy or sympathy or somethapy .. if you cant help for unforseen circumstances..
”

Hi JOLSTERs. I agree…

Good Afternoon Everyone,

1. Women Test Men.
Don’t test me. I am an upfront person so be upfront with me. You shouldn’t need coded questions and other BS for you to see what I am about. IDK. Men can see a woman or a man on BS pretty clearly. Maybe women have to test men because they don’t know how to read men as people?

2. Women Want To Defer To Men In Relationships
I’m not a woman so I don’t know about this. I know I hate when a woman comes to me for everything. I also hate when I show a woman how to do something on her own and she blows it off because she has a man.

3. Women Bootcamp Men They Truly Admire and Respect In A Dating Environment.

I guess this explains why women gave it up to everyone but me. If I wanted it from them I had to be in a relationship with them.

“I guess this explains why women gave it up to everyone but me. If I wanted it from them I had to be in a relationship with them.”

They mustve known that you were a good catch. If you just wanted to hit you shouldve just been an @sshole.

They mustve known that you were a good catch. If you just wanted to hit you shouldve just been an @sshole.

He’s right. There are plenty woman giving it to @ssholes or giving up the booty for a rubberband and a pink highlighter.

*Le Sigh*

*Hugs Humster and NoMo*

*Passes them a coke and a smile*

@No More
“Now this is how you can fail with me. If someone is talking sideways to you and you sit there, taking it while waiting on me to respond, you fail. I need to know that you are strong enough to at least try and fight for your self respect. At least give me a “shut the f*** up” or something. I’ll handle the situation quickly and efficiently but you better had looked like you couldve stood up for yourself because I might not always be around when those situations occur.”

i must also concur with this….

if a woman is arguing a point, and she is wronger than a convertible top-down in a hurricane, she shouldn’t expect me to fight a losing battle. I will alert her to her wrong, so we can K.I.M. I’m not going to stick up for her just to be sticking up for her.

However if its a situation, and my lady is right, and there is hub-bub expect for the situation to be rectified. Quickly.

@No More
“They mustve known that you were a good catch. If you just wanted to hit you shouldve just been an @sshole.”

I think you’re right. I know this now. Maybe I should be more of a so called “alpha male”. By the time women recognize that i’m not T.I., Barack, and the Marlboro Man rolled in one their emotions are locked into what they want to see.

I think you’re right. I know this now. Maybe I should be more of a so called “alpha male”. By the time women recognize that i’m not T.I., Barack, and the Marlboro Man rolled in one their emotions are locked into what they want to see.

An alpha male is NOT a bad thing and I wish people would stop referring to them with negative connotations! BACK UP OFF MY APLPHA MALES!

WHY WHY??? you would tell her she was wrong PUBLICALLY..??? **scecretly writes “fail” down next to Why Why’s name***

*Chuckling softly*

WHY WHY??? you would tell her she was wrong PUBLICALLY..??? **scecretly writes “fail” down next to Why Why’s name***

*Chuckling softly*

[whispers to Jade] I found that funny too….

Explain what you mean by lead? I am still confused about this. Part of me thinks women are child like and need to be lead. The other part respects women as equals and thinks they should be treated as such. Maybe because I didn’t grow up in a household where my father was Almighty King Master. My parents are still together. My mother didn’t go to my father for anything that she could do on her own.

I mean as in be the leader of the household. As in…when it comes down to it you are reponsible for the major decisions of our family. I do believe that being a good leader is also knowing when to DELEGATE responsibilities. This is not a ‘I’mma tell my woman what to do and she be a doormat thing’…this is a I’m responsible for the overall well being of my family.

Does that make sense?

@Jada
“An alpha male is NOT a bad thing and I wish people would stop referring to them with negative connotations! BACK UP OFF MY APLPHA MALES!”

Dudes clown the alpha male because its not realistic. You cannot have one foot in the street, a leg in the corporate world, and a arm in academia. I know I have tried it.

Then again, the trick is to select women who have good judgement in the FIRST place. My ideal lady wouldn’t have to get into scuffs. She’d get her point across without the slightest hiccup…

Thumbs up Why So!

“Whats the big deal about being told you were wrong publically? If you are bold enough to start some ish in public then you should be bold enough to be reprimanded in public.”

Because women have waaaaaay more pride and bigger egos than men. So no matter who is around they always have to appear to be a BOSS or DIVA workcite: Beyonce.

“Question…were yall actually using your webcams often before the blogTV? I dont want to purchase one and then we do this like two more times, then its just a dust collector from that point forward.
”

NoNo didnt you see my tv schedule..we have a 2 book clubs coming up and weekly tv shows

**pencils a fail next to NONO***

Question…were yall actually using your webcams often before the blogTV?

@ Nomore… I personally wasn’t I went out and bought one just for this.. But I think they’re very reasonably priced….. But it look like some people do because they were some professionals… *cough* jac*cough*….lol

“But it look like some people do because they were some professionals… *cough* jac*cough*….lol”

You aint right!!
[by the way, I agree]

Because women have waaaaaay more pride and bigger egos than men. So no matter who is around they always have to appear to be a BOSS or DIVA workcite: Beyonce.

Beyaki makes my @ss itch. Just as you wouldn’t want your woman calling you out and embarrassing you publicly…you should show her the same respect.

Men have a FIT over being confronted over stuff in public.. just like i would not do it to him, I would expect him not to do it to me.

Men have a FIT over being confronted over stuff in public.. just like i would not do it to him, I would expect him not to do it to me.

SO True Sunny!

“Beyaki makes my @ss itch.”

When this happens I hope it’s not like a scratch and sniff sticker.

When this happens I hope it’s not like a scratch and sniff sticker.

LMAO…yousa mess!

This sounds like Cobra Commander, Megatron, Serpentor.

What you know about GI Joe?

“This sounds like Cobra Commander, Megatron, Serpentor.”

I just snorted on the phone..U are funny!

on the other hand, one of the main roles of the alpha male is to pass on their DNA with as many females as possible. At least in the animal kingdom lolol

ouch…i might get sh*t for that…mwahahaha

I bet. I was thinking about getting one but it is wayyyy too many people from the D lurking about. Your boy on the mic spitting that hot fire was from the D. I dont want no messages like Nicki gets.

@No No……. I feel you… Maybe if they would tone down the amount of cleavage they showing we wouldn’t have that many lurkers… ha ha But Jac was bringing the boys & some girls to the yard on Tuesday… And then it was Nic on Thursday…. We had all kind of lurkers…

@Comeback… did you figure out a way to make our show a lil exclusive????

At least in the animal kingdom lolol.

ANIMAL KINGDOM!

“& some girls to the yard”

Yeah I caught that. They were a few too many compliments going around. Yall ladies are beautiful, but I think she was going too far.

…Well if shes cute, then never mind. She can compliment away.

@jolie… Are you gonna join on us on tv???. You don’t have to get on the camera…

jada…

it would explain a lot though, wouldn’t it

Women generally seek out alpha males cause they want their offspring to have the same traits, as to pass on their genes. True?

just thinking about it.

“ha ha But Jac was bringing the boys & some girls to the yard on Tuesday… And then it was Nic on Thursday…. We had all kind of lurkers…”

LMAO.. Did u say girls to the yard?? EW

@ 80s..who had the hots?

@ comeback… See you don’t be seeing all the comments… But one of them girls had the hots for you… She was complimenting you all night long !!!!!! I can’t think of her name right now… But you definitely had an admirer and she definitely wasn’t makin it a secret… LOL

“@ comeback… See you don’t be seeing all the comments… But one of them girls had the hots for you… She was complimenting you all night long !!!!!! I can’t think of her name right now… But you definitely had an admirer and she definitely wasn’t makin it a secret… LOL
”

i didnt read that…its hard to focus on the co-hosts and my hard hitting questions..and i cant keep up with the comments

Dang I know how to clear a room don’t I?

LOL!

lol@ jada

@jada… What color we gonna wear as the bridesmaids??? LOL

Here’s my dress Jada: http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=-49998973&colorName=Lapis&subCategory=-49998976%7c-49998975%7c-49998973&top_category=&catentryId=1000258

Can I wear pink it looks better on me!!

@Jada- that shat aint diminishing quick enough maybe I need to combine the lemonade and cabbage diet!!

BTW I had tofurkey today! YUMMO!!!

LOL! I can gone and get my sewing lessons in and do some Holly By Golly Originals!!

@ Jolie…. That dress was really cute.

@Holly… Tofurkey doesn’t even sound good… LOL

@Jolie- I cant believe you said that!! OMG!!! LOL

@80’s- It was good cause tofu takes on the seasonings that you cook it in!! I bought some fakin bacon too!!

what I do Jada?? LOL

LOL! Jolie I thought of that dang dog what was his name? the little comedian dog?

Girl it’s good! I wouldnt be shoutin it out if it wasnt good… like I woulda neva tried this stuff before!

I had to share -

http://www.nbcchicago.com/news/weird/Indiana-Woman-Said-I-Do-23-Times.html?yhp=1

My girl is mad this lady taking too many rides on the carousel

@tatica: that woman is crazy! .. marrying every tom, dick and harry .. literally

Is that woman crazy!

I forgot I had an interview tonight so I won’t be able to be on tonight.

You gotta love how the page will erase all you wrote if you forgot the email…

anyaway I wanted to say I think too many women rush the fantasy-telling a man too much, too soon actually fills in his blanks. Time will tell you what he is bucuz adversity will occur. Yet if sex and money get in the pic-adversity becomes he could sex you one out of three day weekend. Too many women bite on what is a mans lack of confidnece- (a sure sign is a lack of a plan how do you think Jigga went from dealer-rapper-label owner-pres of label-Music Industry Mogul, now compare him to Dash who clearly had no plan) once again a driven man has a plan. Anyone can have a car or a nice pad but ideas and the ability to see em through is what separates the winners and losers. Young women go for the losers cuz they have nothing-save their sex and car.Women base their importance on face time which losers have plenty of so yall start throwing around suggestions as if that cat was really buying a Lex to “improve his credit”. Men the Winners amonsgt us are grinding and are willing to sacrifice the club and the chicks cuz guess what yall be there this weekend anyway. Character builds adversity which only can happen in time. I always ask women about their man or ex’s plans what is it he really wanted to do and I am very dissapointed to find they never asked or he didnt have any.