Well no one can ever say that The Comeback Girl can’t do a split isn’t flexible. You may have noticed that the original post for today is gone. I decided to post Mikki aka Anitra Clark’s Dear Comeback Girl letter about a “friend”. I do this with a little trepidation in that the last time I gave her “friend” online advice, all hell broke loose.
***here goes…in addition how is the letter writter (read:Mikki) gonna fuse their own advice in the letter. Dang can I live? I mean can I do MY JOB?***
I will return to give you the “”John Mclaughlin” answer in an hour or so, because there really is only one answer. And it is always the right one j/k. First I must have my coffee. talk amongst yourselves.
Dear Comeback Girl,
Ok so this is about first dates/meeting people online.. Its kinda been talked about all over blog world before but I don’t think in such detail.
Ok so my best friend called me on friday to let me know she had a date. Being excited and nosy I was like who what when where ect…..
so, she was like its a guy I met on black planet this morning red flag #1. He is from lansing red flag # 2 (its an hour away), we are going to snookers (a local bar in town) red flag # 3.
I didn’t want to be rude and sound like a hater so i was just like ok cool let me know how it goes. Then I was telling my man and he proceeds to explain to me (which i kinda knew) how that sounds all wrong.
Now I have been and always will be a big fan of e dating, never really had a problem with it but be damn there needs to be some guidelines for this stuff pertaining to first dates.
1. 1 day of convo isn’t going to cut it…
2. she needed not be having a date at 8 pm with a dude that has to drive an hour to see you, chances are he might wanna spend the night… (not sure if he did yet)
3. meeting at a bar, I think first meetings when it comes to edates are critical but… I did not approve of her going to a bar and actually STAYING there. I mean there was no dinner and a movie going on or anything and it just screams tacky but i don’t know who came up with the idea but they both agreed to it so i can’t be mad at her or him.
4. She gotta bad habit of invited men back to her place on first dates and im starting to notice how this is NOT a good look. I used to do it and it never ended up good….
I haven’t talked to her to find out how the date went, the most I know is that she likes the guy but i didn’t get a chance to get details as to what happen that night (gonna call her in 5 min).
so the question is, what should be expected when u meet someone online for the first time, and what are the no no’s for first time dates
im gonna update you in 10 and let you know what happen on that date
***Comeback Girl Responds..after the jump My initial pre coffee thoughts, and although I haven’d done the online dating thing in awhile, 1) there are MUCH BETTER DATING sites besides Blackplanet..MUCH.
She needs to delete her account there right away and UPGRADE to something that requires the person to take some care in filling out a profile.
2) One of the things that turn me off from the whole online thing is that the person doesn’t seem real. All the more true for sub-par dating sites like BP, sorry. I think people have a tendency to do things that would be unacceptable “in the real world of dating”. Its kind of like fast food behavior.
3. Local bar meeting seems a little much too given the fact that she likes to take men home on the first date. And online that first meeting is like date .5, because you have no previous real encounter. You gotta make up for all of that later.
4. I’m really starting to think that your friend is typifing common behavior with women who want fast food relationships. Rapport, communication, building a connection takes a little time. And again regarding Black Planet “You Get What You “Pay” For”.
Let’s see…first greetings from Birmingham!
Second…
I take a nap then I get up and shower…For now I using Bath and Body Works Black Amethyst…smells AMAYZING!
Then…I do make-up and get dressed…all while listening to some soft R&B
Finally…I make sure everything matches perfectly, etc. I take great care to insure this (especially in winter)
Also, I am sure that I smile a lot SO lip gloss and gum are a must…plus a whole lot of other little things that manage to make it my purse
Might be more…I’m tired…I hear the tub running, I know there’s bubbles and a book…
I don’t do nuffin sept get dressed n pray I am matching. I’m simple ok?
Now its super early to be changing the subject but I need to do a Dear comeback *rings tiffanys ephone* I need this to be posted today!!
“Now its super early to be changing the subject but I need to do a Dear comeback *rings tiffanys ephone* I need this to be posted today!!
”
wth??? what chu talkin bout willis?
And you pray that you match…oh Jesus be some tube socks and a tee shirt…
I want to do a dear abby post today. im gonna email you it. It could be a post by itself but I want to see what everybody thinks.
im gonna email you from my msn.
ok can i post tomorrow? or should i change the post today.
oh yeah im still working on the email to you ill get it done by today. k?
“Finally…I make sure everything matches perfectly,”
@ Jac I didn’t know you were from AL? I love Birmingham…
anway can you talk to Mik about matchin? lol
lmao don’t talk to me about matching, I sent you the email you can decide if you want to save it for tomorrow or change today’s
Hey Ladies,
Comeback my pre-date ritual is pretty similar. I have some Carol’s Daughter Estacy Body Oil that I put on once getting out of the tub or shower that smells so good and gives your skin this silky smooth feel.
That way if he rubs your arm or leg…it’s just so soft.
Oh yall, I have a blog…yaaaay. I decided to chronicle my dating life, all the men…the conversations, text messages, dates….every situation where one of them is involved…and honestly I didn’t realize how much I was multitasking until I started writing this on my myspace page last week.
Anyhow I decided to centralize it all and put it in one place. And yeah I let the celibacy club down, but it had been a month and it was well worth it…that is on there as well. I hope you enjoy it.
http://www.rivercityromance.wordpress.com
Hey T…finding love “up the river”…??? do you live on the river? Can you put some pics up or something..its hard for me to read posts without pics.
EVERYONE REFRESH YOUR BROWSER THERE IS A NEW POST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
imma hafta get a date and then i’ll let ya know!
“She gotta bad habit of invited men back to her place on first dates and im starting to notice how this is NOT a good look. I used to do it and it never ended up good….”
Ah hells no. Never. Never. Never do this.
8 isn’t a bad time BUT mix in 8 pm, first meeting and a bar and you get a recipe for disaster.
I’m not big on talking on the phone so it wouldn’t be unheard of for me to meet a guy after talking once but it would most certainly be in the daytime at someplace like starbucks. None too formal.
I’d rather talk to people face to face b/c the eyes don’t lie.
Update, Ok so turns out the dude was to hood to make it back to the house, and a liar as well.
funny thing he did. She said he had “lost without you” as a ring tone (usually a boo’s ring tone) his phone rang the first time and he didn’t answer it. then it rings again and she said he was acting like he was having a convo and while he is talking the phone rings the same ring tone again!! haha, she said he tried to play it off like the call dropped and he didn’t know it. he had no choice but to REALLY answer the phone, and he told whomever it was he would call right back, she was like if u was just having a convo with the person why would you need to call them right back??
it was super funny, she said he tried to get her to go with him to a club after they left the bar but she wasn’t feeling him or it so she called it a night.
the saga continues…..
Nicki she told men they talked online from 8 am to 11am then talked on the phone that day for another two hours so i guess she felt like she made a good enough judgement to go out, which is fine
I was getting confused because the comments didn’t match the post–thanks Comeback for clearing that up.
Reference the post — #1 She should always tell a friend or family member who the guy is…contact info that she has on them and where they will be meeting.
#2 She should be meeting him in a public place.
#3 She should not leave that public place with him alone. If they click and they want to go for dinner or a movie, they should each be in their own cars.
#4 She should make sure said date is not following her home when the date ends.
#5 Her said date should not be invited to her home at all–he should not have her address and in fact, he should only have her cell number because you can do a reverse phone look up and get a person’s address from their home number.
Security is the #1 thing she should be concerned with when meeting not just a man online but a man on the streets too.
@ Shatani..welcome. I put a new post. So feel free to weigh in.
@ Sunny & Mik..i agree that whole, bringin men over on the first date…i can’t endorse. Never done it. To me its a safety issue and just seems highly inappropriate for someone you don’t know.
@ Shelia I agree.
but maybe I’m old fashion as hell.
Mikki sounds like he already has a woman…I’m glad she was wise enough to see through it.
@Comeback: “but maybe I’m old fashion as hell.”
Maybe that makes two of us… I’ve never done it… Never will. It’s too much of a risk.
Shelia you a lil strict on the rules aint cha???
lol
I mean I agree with Nicki, If its a first date, I would do a starbucks or something casual in the day, then if we hit if off dinner later. Sounds reasonable. But I don’t think the rules should differ much as if you met him on the streets heck.
@ Mikki..my personal belief is that for online..the rules gotta be MORE STRICT (i added my thoughts).
Dating sites are “convenient” i guess. but they also make people particularly men SOCIALLY LAZY concerning rules of engagement. And if the man already has “integrity” or honesty issues…its all the more WORSE.
Like i wrote in my response. People have a tendency to view their online match as “unreal”. Not taking them seriously. I’ve done it myself. But to me…when you lack integrity it could go far left FAST.
And “friendy poo” needs to slow her roll a little. When you do the “first date thing at my house” after drinks you set a bad pace for a man. And the woman always sets the pace.
“And the woman always sets the pace.”
I think so too b/c if a man can “hit” at hello, he would. I know some act like their D is valuable and not just anyone gets it, but I have yet to meet this guy in person.
“When you do the “first date thing at my house” after drinks you set a bad pace for a man”
right comeback, that applies to both online and offline, I mean I have let someone come to my house after a first date and it never ended up good. Its like they are already thinking “imma get it”
yea not gonna be able to do it
“I know some act like their D is valuable and not just anyone gets it, but I have yet to meet this guy in person.”
Jesus be some audacity to hope LOL..
i think these men exist…but they may just be so self-aware..the the discussion of said D being of high value is a non point because that whole vibe just IS HIM. thusly never having to “remind” anybody.
some of it comes with a little age. I notice Hummy’s conversations are slightly different than say a man 5 or 6 years younger: SBM..i hate to put him out there like that but he is a good comparison here.
sometimes men just need to sow their oats.
“Dating sites are “convenient” i guess.”
I hear some slight disapproval in this? do you typically not take your online dating prospects seriously???
Good Morning!
I had a GREAT EFFIN weekend! It was great and my legs stayed closed..I will write a post about it. Stay TUNED..
@t: how did you get the dack.. with a burned aquarium?
“I hear some slight disapproval in this? do you typically not take your online dating prospects seriously???
”
no i really don’t and Im being honest LOL…which is why i havent been on in a long time. To me its there if i get bored..that sounds terrible, and obviously im wasting money when i view things like this because like I tell yall (i need to take my own advice)..what you think about something. SHOWS UP EVERY TIME TO PROVE YOU RIGHT.
So yeah..I can see how a guy who may not be worth a pot to pi!!ss in or a window to through it out of could…take the pixie dust of a situation …and abuse it.
Good Morning!
I had a GREAT EFFIN weekend! It was great and my legs stayed closed..I will write a post about it. Stay TUNED..
@t: how did you get the dack.. with a burned aquarium?
“Jesus be some audacity to hope LOL..”
ROFL!!!! I agree, I think Hummy’s a bit of mature, but I wonder if it’s just his smooth way. LOL.
Seriously, I know a lot of over 30, can’t wait to bag you, tell you sweet nothing types too.
“sometimes men just need to sow their oats.”
I think so too… I just wish they’d be honest about it. I can appreciate NoMore’s honesty… very refreshing.
Good Morning Jolie!
ok comeback well atleast your honest and I agree with you 100% that how you view things, it will show up that way. Would that suggests that my friend has a negative view towards dating online before she even gets to the guy?? I mean she and I have been dating online for a while, she doesn’t give off any negative vibes that I know of, but yea she does meet a lotta wackies, I wonder if she feels this way and doesn’t tell me,
i mean she thinks its a joke but steady tries to convince herself otherwise???
my 3rd eye is trying to work…
alright so Jolie went on a date! can’t wait to hear about it!
oh wait she does have a team…
maybe she went on 5 dates!!
@ Jolie..Hi Jolster. I wish yall would stop bloggin about yalls dates i think its a jinx and imnotgonnabeabletadoit LOL.
@ Tea…”it had been a month” ***3rd eye just popped out my dam#n head cause that aint even the truth.LOL..but Imma let you had that pixie dust revisionist coochie history LOL..
@ Sunny “I think so too… I just wish they’d be honest about it. I can appreciate NoMore’s honesty… very refreshing.
”
i agree here too..i like my truth straight no chaser..but i can usually read a little bullshyt too. so whether it comes out of your mouth or in some of your behavior…my detector is on point.
@ Mik…let me marinate..i think part of the answer lies in balance. You need to get your friend off the computer and into the real world.
“I wish yall would stop bloggin about yalls dates i think its a jinx and imnotgonnabeabletadoit LOL”
aww cummon!!
whats the jinx in it??
u cut us off, when u stopped talking about yours dates..
someones gotta do it
“so whether it comes out of your mouth or in some of your behavior…my detector is on point.”
My dectector needs some training.
“My dectector needs some training”
Nicki lemmie introduce you to my friend lol
she is the master of bs
I don’t know that I can really comment on the current state of dating sites. I was on BP back in college when it was popular – but I wasn’t signed up for the dating part. I’ve met and made meaningful relationships with 2 guys from there.
Some women fall for that quick connect when men know just what to say. maybe Mik’s friend just wanted to get a nut that night.
“u cut us off, when u stopped talking about yours dates..”
@ Mik..im sorry toots..but yall will know when my mission is accomplished…”a wedding invite” or for some a vlog live feed LOL…thats it. I may allude to some stuff. But Never ever again will my situation be fodderfication.
@ Nik “My dectector needs some training”
imma work on dat Sunny.
@ Cuzzo “Some women fall for that quick connect when men know just what to say. maybe Mik’s friend just wanted to get a nut that night. We just might need to learn how to compartmentalize conversation, a compliment, or even just a one night stand (not that there is anything wrong with this)NTTIAWWT…its not all supposed to go down as the greatest love of your life. Sometimes it could be just a great conversation, a contact or good one night D (i don’t endorse the latter as CEO of the Celis)
”
i agree with this 500%
@mik and Comeback: Yes, ma’am.. help me out with that… I can’t say that I fall for okie-doke either. I just suspect EVERYTHING…. LMAO. But I know that’s not healthy.
@ Sunny “the bullshyt dectector”
stay tuned coming to a blog near you.
“stay tuned coming to a blog near you.”
I shall.
“But Never ever again will my situation be fodderfication”
did I miss something?
““But Never ever again will my situation be fodderfication”
did I miss something?
”
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For my RHOA watchers – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4_8J86nqi8
a parody of Kim and NeNe starring Bonnie Hunt n Niecy Nash. airs today on the Bonnie Hunt show
lmao alrighty then…
im always late on everything…
*deep sigh*
Lol @ Comeback…it had been 2 days shy of a month thank u very much!
And yes I live in the River City named that because the river literally runs through the city…we are also called 7 bridges because we have 7 bridges that connects the city…I live about 7 blocks away from the river downtown.
And I officially started my new position today…my office is so big and professional. I’m going through orientation so I’m not going to be on much today.
My posts update every morning at 10am to give everyone a chance to get in their daily dose of Comeback and others first before feeling obligated to stop by.
Talk to you guys later!!
“Jesus be some audacity to hope LOL..”
LMFAO Comeback
ROFL!!!! I agree, I think Hummy’s a bit of mature, but I wonder if it’s just his smooth way. LOL.
Seriously, I know a lot of over 30, can’t wait to bag you, tell you sweet nothing types too.
“sometimes men just need to sow their oats.”
I think so too… I just wish they’d be honest about it. I can appreciate NoMore’s honesty… very refreshing.”
IF you got something going on don’t lie….beyond that….I think you just need to be honest and the people around you…really, what’s the worst that can happen one person won’t like you. Now for the women here a lot of us are all different but at base the same we want to be loved. Some of the men just wanna be doing it and doing it and doing it well
Mik’s friend needs to take this into account…like…so what if she had said no to anyone of old boys request…what’s the worst that could happen? One dude out of a kabillion won’t like you so much? Whatev…there’s other fish in the great big sea of life…fringe benefits for breathing and having a clean vaj (I’m assuming here)
Nic-U suspect; I investigate…Jolie taught me.
Oh and Good Morning Fair Ladies and lurking men
lmao cuzzo
she was like la la la, thats all im given you…
wow that made me laugh so hard!!! *tears up*
Cuzzo that has to be the funniest clip EVER!!!!
Mernin Jac:
@ Tea…um my eye still aint feeling 28 days…im have to let hummy second dat emotion.
@ JAC
“IF you got something going on don’t lie….beyond that….I think you just need to be honest and the people around you…really, what’s the worst that can happen one person won’t like you. Now for the women here a lot of us are all different but at base the same we want to be loved. Some of the men just wanna be doing it and doing it and doing it well ”
but women DO KNOW THIS..they just would like to know SOMETHING ELSE.
@ Cuzzo..i never even heard of Bonnie Hunt until Shane “all the single ladies” dance youtube..i need to sice my tivo up a little. that clip is funny. I love Niecy she is so dam#n folksy..like a black S. Palin.
Cuzzo-LOL…U know Dallas Austin…how come I ain’t never seen you with Dallas Austin?!!? Ahh geezus…
@Comeback
I love’s me some Niecy too!
“Who want’s a clean houuuuse”
“@ Tea…um my eye still aint feeling 28 days…im have to let hummy second dat emotion.”
Tea: And if you feel like giving the celibacy club three months of devotion…Comeback will second that emotion! (And she won’t even need ol’ Hum)
Where’s Niecy’s flower?
Good morning yall!!!! Finally I’m here….. Had to take my car to the dealership this morning…I get a leak in my car when it rains and it rained all night so I had water in my car this morning. Supposedly where I got the car from couldn’t find the leak a while back and they kept telling me I didn’t close the sunroof all the way. So I took it to another dealer this morning and was like can you just tell me that my sunroof is closed… And he said well if you got a minute we can take it back there and see where the water is coming from. He comes back and says there is definitely a problem and we can set you up a appt to get it taken care of…. I was like uhhhh at the other dealer it was gonna be free so what’s the cost. And he was like I have no problem calling them and getting it taken care of and I was like sounds good to me so when can I make that appt…So finally after next week I won’t have a leaky car anymore…… Now let me find out the topic of the day…
@Jac
Read up…it’s a wrap for Tea. lol – she done gave it up already.
re: the clip
did ya’ll get her sayin that she had hysterical blindness? rotfl
“Where’s Niecy’s flower?”
Jac she was playin NeNe from the show.
I had to watch that again, Cuzzo you so rock for that clip, thats up there with that fat guy doing put a ring on it from Nicki..
i was cracking up when i saw that.
I blog about my dates and new men because when i write about it .. it gives me some perspective.. while your in it.. you ignore the signs.. when you write that shat down.. the signs are clear… PLUS sometimes … comebacks 3rd eye.. is on point .. ie.. the doctor…
hey jac, hey 80’s
“I blog about my dates and new men because when i write about it .. it gives me some perspective”
ditto Jolie, I never write about my dates for 2nd or 3rd opinion but its really just to see where my head is. And if yall read my old stuff yall can see I come a long way lol, cuz i done had my share of no no’s
@ Hi 80s…oh i aint say hi to Jac or Cuzzo..look hi errybody..
“PLUS sometimes … comebacks 3rd eye.. is on point .. ie.. the doctor…”
@ Jolster..you have your own eye…i see imm have to do a reiki attunement post for dat @zz. Crown chakra activation..
DEAR COMEBACK
I FORGOT TO MENTION THIS
HAVE YOU GUESSED WHO THE ARTIST (SINGER) IS ON THE TRACK AT 43.40 MINUTES
YA SHOULD KNOW!!!
AND PS
HOW CAN I PUT A PROFILE PIC ON MY POST??
lmao cuzzo if hysterical blindless was a real disease what that got to do with your singing???
@ E…let me see..don’t tell me.
yes to the profile pic..whatever you wanna do.
“lmao cuzzo if hysterical blindless was a real disease what that got to do with your singing???”
she just a d@mn liar that’s what. lordy, i wanna meet her momma.
Hey 80’s! I’m glad you got that fixed … and FREE is even better.
WTH is our testosterone?
@Mik: “lmao cuzzo if hysterical blindless was a real disease what that got to do with your singing???”
They said it b/c it was a joke on her claiming she has cancer.
They said it b/c it was a joke on her claiming she has cancer.
ok that explains it
Oh yeah!
Alrite I’m out for a minute. Catch you guys in a bit.
@ E
“HAVE YOU GUESSED WHO THE ARTIST (SINGER) IS ON THE TRACK AT 43.40 MINUTES”
YES ITS MY GURRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL…the woman who will sing at my wedding, but she is singan wif someone i can’t place…i wanna say jonathan butler????
Hello Everyone,
This topic is funny. I always wondered how dudes pull women online. I see that it’s not that hard after reading this. Maybe I should put my profile online and see what happens?
“Maybe I should put my profile online and see what happens?”
Mernting Hum…Maybe you should…we could call it a social experiment…
Hummy is that chi guevara???
in your pic or is that you?
“Maybe I should put my profile online and see what happens”
I do not approve this message
Good Morning Ladies… or should I say Good Afternoon!
How was everyone’s wknd?
“Maybe I should put my profile online and see what happens”
I do not approve this message
MIK! Why….just to see put up a blurry pic, but smooth talk and see how many women fall for the okie doke!
Hey Holly,
Mine was excellent how was your’n?
Hey girl! GREAT, but could’ve been longer!
@jac427
“Mernting Hum…Maybe you should…we could call it a social experiment…”
Morning. lol. social experiment?
@Comeback
“Hummy is that chi guevara???
in your pic or is that you?”
It is Che’ not chi. And no it’s not me it’s Ron O’Neal.
@Anitra
“I do not approve this message”
Why?
“chi guevara???”
it’s che – but that was a typo right?
“and see how many women fall for the okie doke”
*blank stare*
hey Holly, mine was good. Spent time with the beau. How was yours Honey??
It was good! could’ve been longer. I met a man on Saturday
“Humble One aka Killa Black”
woah – he done got killa on us! watchoutdehnow
Jac n Hummy/ron oneal/black/humble
Cuz I said so!! I mean yall are kidding, its the net obviously there ar plenty that will take the bate…
but if yall want to play with fire gone head, help ya selves.
“Morning. lol. social experiment?”
Yeah…like…I said put up a blurry pic and tell women exactly want they want to hear…
Ok, the tub is really calling me…see u all in a bit when I’m cleaner!
@Humble
“Ron O’Neal”
superfly?
“I met a man on Saturday ”
are you gonna tell?? or holla jinx like comeback coughcough
“I met a man on Saturday ”
y does this sound like when ppl say they “found” jesus? i didn’t know he was lost.
I don’t endorse Humble’s experiment but I do think it’ll be a good thing to blog about… maybe you can do it and be our guest.. give us daily updates on the dates with these women.
@Holly: Hey girl… mine was alright… ate a lot of junk and hung out with mom at hospital. Gosh Sonic’s milkshakes are a killer! I promise after this is done, I’m coming back fitclubbers!
@cuzzo
“superfly?”
Correct! You win a prize.
“Correct! You win a prize.”
*girly claps* yippee! gimme gimme…
“I don’t endorse Humble’s experiment but I do think it’ll be a good thing to blog about”
I agree Nicki
@nicki & Anitra – I’m not going to do it but what is the problem you have with it?
We can call it twenty dates with a Black…..
I was trying to think of something clever and creative. Insert your thought here. LOL
@Humble: Because it’s game and I am a devout believer of Karma.
Humble, seriously. Some women are crazy… you can play with the wrong woman and end up getting F’ED up… and I’m serious about that.
@Nicki
“Because it’s game ”
it’s research…n’est pas?
“Humble: Because it’s game and I am a devout believer of Karma”
I approve this messag
@nicki – Are you talking about what jac said about telling women what they want to hear? If so I had no intention on doing that. I was just talking about making a profile, say hello to a few, and see if it is really that easy for me as it is for the other dudes.
I see online dating the same as I do as if I met you out and about. Sure there are a couple differences but over all the end result should be the same. Why play with folks, I mean I have been a serious online dater and I be pretty upset if i found out you was “Experimenting” on me.
if you gonna do it, just do it cuz you want to see what its about, you can blog about regular dates, and ones you met online.
maybe its just me…..
@ Anitra- Well I met him at this little event called Old School Saturdays thats once a month! I saw him before I went in, but we didnt actually talk until I was leaving. I collected his number hit him up yesterday. The first conversation flowed pretty good- he is 40, divorced, with 3 kids, and works for the CDC (center for disease control)…. A cutie though!!
@ Nicki: I love Sonic!!! MAN!!! I heard mommy was leaving the hospital today!! Yippee!! I will be official starting fitclubbers on Monday, right after Thanksgiving
YAY Humble has added the new nickname!!
“”Are you talking about what jac said about telling women what they want to hear? If so I had no intention on doing that. I was just talking about making a profile, say hello to a few, and see if it is really that easy for me as it is for the other dudes.”
oops.. sorry black. That’s exactly what I meant. But yeah, by all means, if you want to try a profile, do it. I tried it on match.com, but after Mik and Comeback warned me, I took the profile down.. PLUS they were sending me hits from complete loo-hooo-serr-hers.
Ok, so it’s lunch time…let me see if I can catch up with the madness that I am sure is going down.
LOL @ Humble’s new name…I’m mad that it has to be Killa Black…perpetuate stereotypes much…ey Hummy?
I heard eharmony was suppose to be good if you can get pass the gajillion questions they ask…
Hey Teacia how was Orlando?
@nicki
“I tried it on match.com, but after Mik and Comeback warned me, I took the profile down.. PLUS they were sending me hits from complete loo-hooo-serr-hers.”
Really? Do tell.
Chi, Che…Ying Yang…yall some uppitdy azz negros..DAYUM
lmao comeback
Humble the black man, I recant my statement, thanks for the clerification bruh.
No eharmony
oook Holly!
u go!!
@Holly
“he is 40, divorced, with 3 kids, and works for the CDC (center for disease control)…. A cutie though!!”
that’s steep. how old r u? and is the cute factor making u look beyond the baggage? how old r the kids n when did he get divorced?
@Holly: “Nicki: I love Sonic!!! MAN!!! I heard mommy was leaving the hospital today!! Yippee!! I will be official starting fitclubbers on Monday, right after Thanksgiving ”
Girl, I’ve had it for two days now. LOL.
I thought Mama would be leaving in the next one to two days but she said the doctor said she’s still got a few days b/c of the blood thinner.
Hi Holly…
Hummy why you gotta have a pic of a dang pimp..you pose to be the Last of the Mohicans,ie good men. (re Mohicans did i spell dat right and use it in the proper context to all the uppitdy black folk in here?)
@comeback
che is the man’s name – nothin uppity about that.
@ Anitra-
@ Cuzzo- I am 28.5
. I don’t know how long he has been divorced. The kids are 12,10,7. Yes it is baggage but I am willing to see what’s really going on with him and this baggage. Plus yesterday was the first conversation. He could have lied and said he didn’t have any kids. Also he is 40 not 30 with 3 kids…. Imma just check it out see how it is, nothing has happened for me to think about the future… just yet, but if it did progress I would definitely be concerned about this and his child support payments.
So… on saturday me and my girls hosted a “if you like it then you shoulda put a ring pop on it” partay.. for single ladies and single men hilarious..! We handed out ring pops to all the men and if they founda lady of their liking they put a ring pop on it.. Guys actually participated!
@ Nicki- 2 days!!?? I know you hate she is coming home but at least the doc and sending her out and she isnt ready
@Comeback- Hey!! Where the Sunday Confessional for yesterday?
@Black: I did it for a weekend. Over that weekend, the guys they sent were just completely unattractive.
Then this one guy’s profile said he’d lost 700 some pould recently. That wasn’t a go card.
Jolie that sounds soooo fun! That is cute!
@Holly: ” 2 days!!?? I know you hate she is coming home but at least the doc and sending her out and she isnt ready ”
You are so right ma’am…
“Also he is 40 not 30 with 3 kids”
yea id be worried if he was 40 with non lol….
oh wait that was my ex until 9 months ago….
point proven lol
“Where the Sunday Confessional for yesterday?”
right here??
“We handed out ring pops to all the men and if they founda lady of their liking they put a ring pop on it”
that was the most clever thing ever!
thanks Cuzzo i will never not EVER forget how to spell nan cuban revolutionary figure heads..hows that ??
..shat!!!!
@ Jolie…. That does sound like fun……
Ummm Nick I’m thinking it’s officially time for us to move from the KY.. Are we the only two who ain’t met nobody new yet?… LOL
Anitra yeah I would be concerned like where the f you been and why havent you been married???
I didnt see it
Maybe I didn’t look hard for it…
@ Jolster i LOVE THAT IDEA..you are such a grand hostess diva.
@ Holly..i took it down it was too long. I didn’t know people actually enjoyed my closet confessionals..hmmm….
“Ummm Nick I’m thinking it’s officially time for us to move from the KY.. Are we the only two who ain’t met nobody new yet?… LOL”
Girl, hear????? 80’s I am SICKOFTHISSHAT! I’m serious. I want to go out for Thanksgiving so I can meet someone. You should come here!
@Teacia
“LOL @ Humble’s new name…I’m mad that it has to be Killa Black…perpetuate stereotypes much…ey Hummy?”
I figured i’d embellish on the name a bit. Sounds menacing doesn’t it?
@Comeback
“Hummy why you gotta have a pic of a dang pimp..you pose to be the Last of the Mohicans,ie good men.”
He was not a pimp. He was a drug dealer. He retired from selling drugs. After that he went to Africa to help the freedom fighters defeat their colonial oppressors.
Comeback what were you talking about on it?? I thought it was cute idea!
Holly it was a lot of fun…wrote about it on the blog…and also posted pics up of the fireman and “others” on my FB and Myspace.
Jolie…that’s not a bad idea…I think I will mention it to my girls and we should do a similar party here.
Oh no Comeback, we watch them, laugh and then call each other up and talk about how damn ignant you are with those closet confessionals…but the hair and makeup is always on point.
“We can call it twenty dates with a Black….. ”
How to Hook a Chick in TWO Days?
Jolster-(Like holster–anyone thinking what I’m thinking?) Cool idea.
Girl, hear????? 80’s I am SICKOFTHISSHAT! I’m serious. I want to go out for Thanksgiving so I can meet someone. You should come here!
@ Nick… I would but I’m going home to Ohio for the holidays… But one weekend I’m gonna have to come to Da Ville so we can hang out…..
“and also posted pics up of the fireman and “others” on my FB and Myspace.”
whaaaaaat??!!?!
do they know?
It was very fun. There were some FINE men there boy oh boy .. for a second we had more men than women so we had to call the girls we originally did not invite and get them to hurry and come over. We told all the men we currently knew to bring a new guy no one knew .. like a coworker, frat brother.. new in town and girls brought their girls or guys they werent interested in dating but were good catches for others.
The men were dressed nice, the women looked fly. All of us hostesses wore black.. I met 3 new guys. It was great and yes ladies you should throw one of these parties..
“Oh no Comeback, we watch them, laugh and then call each other up and talk about how damn ignant you are with those closet confessionals…but the hair and makeup is always on point.
”
ok don’t get me syced up in here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2-BZmEX9p4
the closet version
@nicki
“Then this one guy’s profile said he’d lost 700 some pould recently. That wasn’t a go card.”
LOL. This cat has shed about 3 grown @ss men.
@80’s & nicki
“Are we the only two who ain’t met nobody new yet?… LOL”
No you’re not.
syce=feelin good bout self
There were some FINE men there boy oh boy
@ Jolie…. I am looking up federal jobs in D.C. now…. LOL
“Comeback what were you talking about on it?? I thought it was cute idea!
”
i’ll post it again..first it was just me being silly..and then somebody joined my twitter..a reiki person..and i was thinkin i wonder if these people think im retarded???
“Nick… I would but I’m going home to Ohio for the holidays… But one weekend I’m gonna have to come to Da Ville so we can hang out…..”
Yes girl.. please do! But check with me and make sure something is going on in this wacktastic city first.
“How to Hook a Chick in TWO Days?”
Jac, is that game playing?????
“LOL. This cat has shed about 3 grown @ss men.”
@Black: Damn straight, and I’m supposed to feel intrigued by that.
I thought I met a guy in Florida but him and some guy kinda started arguing and was pushing back and forth with me in the middle while we were dancing, talking about you need to choose who you are gonna dance with???? I said WTF?? I don’t need this.. it’s a stupid ass dance. LOL
@80’s: all it takes it to throw a lil shindig of like minded people. it is funny how many people other people that you talk to everyday know that they could invite and could possibly be someone you like.. FeFe who just got a new assignment for her job … is scopin 3 dudes at her job for me and our other sister.. they WILL be invited to my “Cocktails and Wii” party.. which is coming up in a few weeks.
Nic-Don’t make fun of me damnit. I’ll come to Kentuckyiana and have words with you.
@Jac: “Nic-Don’t make fun of me damnit. I’ll come to Kentuckyiana and have words with you.
HA! Please do. I ain’t had words in a minute. LOL
Cuzzo, yes they know…they took pictures with me. Do they know about the blog…nope. I’m not using their names, nor am I posting their code names under the pics.
And I don’t have a link to my myspace or facebook page on the blog. You guys know it b/c your fam, but that’s as far as it goes.
I’m doing what I can to protect their anonymonity…mine I don’t really care about that much as you all well know.
@ Hummy…
so is the pic of Che or Superfly
i thought you wrote Superfly
im confused!!! HELP ME..
“HA! Please do. I ain’t had words in a minute. LOL”
I said words not relations.
@ Jolie…. The Cocktails and Wii party sounds like fun too…..
@ Jac and Sunny
“How to Hook a Chick in TWO Days?””
i like…how to get some dack in two days
@Comeback
“so is the pic of Che or Superfly
i thought you wrote Superfly
im confused!!! HELP ME..”
The pic is Superfly.
“He was not a pimp. He was a drug dealer. He retired from selling drugs. After that he went to Africa to help the freedom fighters defeat their colonial oppressors.
”
and superfly did all of the above???? i know a little about che/chi ..but i didn’t know superfly was a freedom fighter..wow learn something new erryday. lol
@hummy: when are you gonna get a blog.. i feel like i know nuffin bout you… only thing i know is your ex girl has BAD CREDIT . lol
“i like…how to get some dack in two days”
I know how to do that already Comeback. Do i need to teach you?
Jol:”when are you gonna get a blog.. i feel like i know nuffin bout you… only thing i know is your ex girl has BAD CREDIT . lol”
I think that’s how he likes it.
Can somebody give Jolie the rundown on me.
“I said words not relations.”
LMAO Jac!
“i like…how to get some dack in two days”
LOL.. I can tell you how to get it on ONE DAY. Top that.
“@hummy: when are you gonna get a blog.. i feel like i know nuffin bout you… only thing i know is your ex girl has BAD CREDIT . lol”
See Black, it isn’t just me!!!
“Can somebody give Jolie the rundown on me.
”
**crickets**
all i got is the black bob villa in detroit..who may or may want me to be his martha stewart. Bake him some cookies while he makes cabinets.
@Comeback
“and superfly did all of the above???? i know a little about che/chi ..but i didn’t know superfly was a freedom fighter..wow learn something new erryday. lol”
It was in the sequel to Superfly. Superfly TNT. Most people have not seen the sequel to Superfly.
le (mixed with Nigerian or something )from detroit , no kids age (i have no clue) works in engineering, and works out a lot to keep from having sex and his mom has a clothing store and can make kitchens
Let’s see Black’s 31 as of 9/14 born and raised in the D. Interested in sneakers, cars that go boom, and working out. What I should have said first is he loves his parents more than his next breath and has a brother. He has a house and two? cars. Works as an engineer has an AS and working on a BS.
Loves breasts and big asses with small waists. And he loves Hip-Hop (if you can’t tell from last week)
Ex is a bitch and he longer speaks to her.
Does that wrap it up nicely?
“Can somebody give Jolie the rundown on me.”
@Jolie
“all i got is the black bob villa in detroit”
add to that:
likes fast cars, used to be a veggie head, celibate
been pimpin since been pimpin been pimpin
“can make kitchens”
i just died…
good bye erryone LOL
Yea I forgot he’s half Ghanaian (from his father) and half Black (dat’s de momma) and has visited the motherland…now I could say more but it might be too much
that was my version of what i know about humble
see we know BLIZZACK!
what else u want? measurments?
OH Cuzzo I have something to add!
Thought about doing pornEos @ age 17
oh yea and he is big on politics
“can make kitchens”
TF? what is that?
“and has visited the motherland”
wrong never been there before.
@Jac
“Thought about doing porEnos @ age 17″
:-O :-X
that might be TMI.
is that true blizzy black? stage name Buck Naked n all that?
OH I thought you had!
oh yes and he will be sending everyone hobo purses and Jimmy’s for Christmas, jolie you shoe size is needed
I can also dance under water and not get wet.
thanks for the update. I just wanted to know … no agenda.. just wanted to know. thank you all!
No prob Jolie, that was kinda fun
lets do someone else!!!!
@cuzzo
“is that true blizzy black? stage name Buck Naked n all that?”
When I was in high school i use to say that if I ever was broke and about to be homeless I would do pEorn. LOL. Stupid I know. By the time I was 18 I saw the stupidity in that thought.
The stage name could be Beef Rod.
“The stage name could be Beef Rod.
”
wow you related to Beyonce..Alter ego muchy much Humster.
The Hummdiggler..
Good morning everyone.
“Humble’s po#rn name.
and….GO!
”
Bob “Vicious” Villa
Hi Q..we’re making por#n names for Hummy
@comeback awesome… after i finish my post i will try to think of some (my brain cannot fully function right now – thus no multitaskin… even though I was multi-taskin my @ss all weekend)
@Jolie
“The Hummdiggler..”
lol….i choose this as winner already. what say u Black? but we gotta wait for the other submissions.
“The Hummdiggler”
i like this..it sexxay in a tool belt kind a way. lol
ohh Hummy..you could be the first Por!n star to incorporate garden/house tools into your shtick..
LOL. You guys are too much. LOL.
because my brain hurts i am not going to attempt to think of a name for Hummy but am going to vote for Cuzzo’s submission b/c i love it.
@QB
that was Jolie’s name
oooops i am still voting for it.
okay ladies and gents the birthday weekend blog is up… yay.
*chiming in*
I love my new position…It’s actually much more in depth than I thought and I don’t think it will allow me to hang out as much online anymore…at least not for the first few weeks…hopefully only days, lol.
Btw, I have no clue what yall are talking about right and being lost sucks…so I guess I will catch up with the comments later.
““The Hummdiggler..””
Ew.. this is too close to the hamburgler. and there is NOTHING sessay about that. LOL
Good afternoon QB… wow, it’s still morning where you’re at!
“this is too close to the hamburgler”
this reminded me of that mcdonalds commercial where the dude is singing about the girl giving him some of her chicken nuggets, i thought that was neyo at first
@Nicki lol i took the day off for my birthday/to recover from the weekend so I am coming to you live fro my new comfy bed trying to make my head stop hurting
words of wisdom: someone who doesnt drink shouldnt randomly decide to have 4 drinks in one night just cause it’s their birthday and a cute boy is buying them. i should have stopped at 1. lol
this reminded me of that mcdonalds commercial where the dude is singing about the girl giving him some of her chicken nuggets, i thought that was neyo at first
@ mik…. I hate that commercial. McDonald’s is doing “the most” with that commerical… Did I use “the most” right? lol
“about the girl giving him some of her chicken nuggets, i thought that was neyo at first”
That commercial puts me one step closer to a broken bridge. It sucks SO BAD
LOL@QB. What were you drinking? I had Patron shots and woke up perfecto. LOL
that commercial is FUNNY!!!
alright I just brought my tickets to go see dave ramsey live!! woooooohoooooo!!
Why is he moaning over Chicken McNuggets????
@Nicki i had bicardi and pineapple juice i think? but i drink an average of once every six months. okay maybe more like three months.
man i remember though back when i could put down at least 6 or 7 drinks and a handfull of shots…
@QB: Whew.. the juice mixes are a doozy… I’m not much of a drinker either but it was my birthday, so I was takin shots like a college kid. LOL
“alright I just brought my tickets to go see dave ramsey live!! woooooohoooooo!!
”
i would love to see him…
me: “hi dave how you are”
dave: “better than i should be”
me ***going into my whole thinking makes it so rant***
dave: “SECURITY!!!”
“this reminded me of that mcdonalds commercial where the dude is singing about the girl giving him some of her chicken nuggets, i thought that was neyo at first”
Why black folks have to sing about chicken. If it’s not KFC then it’s McDonald’s and their Mcnuggets or chicken selects. I even think I heard black folks singing about how they love popeyes’s
P.S. Popeyes is good. I can’t front on that.
lmao comeback you a foo,
humbe you kinda remind me of that fake lawyer on “the cook out” talking bout he took the bar 50 times still aint pass and everything is a conspiracy
“Why black folks have to sing about chicken. If it’s not KFC then it’s McDonald’s and their Mcnuggets or chicken selects. I even think I heard black folks singing about how they love popeyes’s”
Killa that was hilare! No, why come they always have to put a black choir on a commercial??? Embarassing!
I’m with you on the popeye’s though.. oh, it’s so crispy.
We have a place here called Indi’s, owned by Indians, but it’s the best chicken/kiehl/fish/etc YOU HAVE EVER had.
that is keel, I think. Dunno, I have never ordered it. My friends say it’s some part of a chicken.
“Killa that was hilare! No, why come they always have to put a black choir on a commercial??? Embarassing”
Right. Or you notice how they have the funky soul music intrumental in the background while the black lady says “honey chile I luv KFC’s new chicken strips”
“P.S. Popeyes is good. I can’t front on that.”
I just wanna go on record and state Popeye’s inNoLa is wayyyy better than anywhere else!
And I thought that McD’s commercial on the chicken was a BET vid @ first
I just wanna go on record and state Popeye’s inNoLa is wayyyy better than anywhere else!
I agree with you Jac! I had the Popeye’s there a few years ago!
“Right. Or you notice how they have the funky soul music intrumental in the background while the black lady says “honey chile I luv KFC’s new chicken strips””
Why did I just die here? LOL. I never noticed that… wow, why they have to do that to us? Over and over on the daggone chicken!
cuz we love chicken!
“cuz we love chicken!”
I do… but why do I get offended when other’s say it? Like when Kim on RHOA said, “what are we supposed to do, sit around and eat chicken?”
I could have jumped through the scream, grabbed her by the tail ends of her Barbie weave, and beat her into a table.
@jac & Holly – Is it really that much better? Is the menu different? I have only had popeyes here and in Dallas. I was surprised when I went to see my family in Maryland and they had popeyes all over the place and I wasn’t in the hood.
im trying to buy my boo some shoes for christmas tell me what yall think
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RHOA Reunion tonight!
We doing the forum over on SSSO right Cuzzo?
Holly: I knew I liked you for a reason!
Dude the pastor at my church can’t stand chicken…he said he ate too much of it as a child to be eating it now.
@Nicki white people like chicken too… that’s why i stood in line for 40 minutes on saturday night and almost slapped the @ss in front of us until my girl did it for me…
@Nicki white people like chicken too… that’s why i stood in line for 40 minutes on saturday night and almost slapped the @ss-hole in front of us until my girl did it for me…
RHOA Reunion tonight
thats not tonight is it??
i thought that was tomorrow
@Anitra
“cuz we love chicken!”
Ok, fine. But do they have to sell it to us with the cast of Glory singing in the background.
“Nicki white people like chicken too… that’s why i stood in line for 40 minutes on saturday night and almost slapped the @ss-hole in front of us until my girl did it for me…”
LMAO… but it’s not stereotypical for white folks… we get it for chicken and for watermelon.
The reunion is tomorrow JAC!
“Dude the pastor at my church can’t stand chicken…he said he ate too much of it as a child to be eating it now.”
Jac my grandpa was the same way. it was the only meat they ate during the depression and until he passed (R.I.P.) he refused to eat it.
Ok, fine. But do they have to sell it to us with the cast of Glory singing in the background.
LOL
Mik-tonight!
“Ok, fine. But do they have to sell it to us with the cast of Glory singing in the background.”
I just died again.
Bye folks… goin to Chem class now….
***this is so off topic..its offtopic-er***
I eluv you guys SOOOOOO much.
i can’t believe there are people in the ether who take discourse and even fact out of context. And project to the high heaven..only to show how incredibly unhappy and unfortunate they are. i mean i didn;t know it was possible to take all the fun out of breathing FOR REAL. and its usually one or two people with varying agendas.
i just don’t get it. But what I do get…is that i love yall..we don’t always agree. But no one has any serious mental problems that get in the way of discourse.
and i am incredibly grateful..and i wanna keep attracting those kinds of people here and offline too,,shat.
and yes cuzzo is hosting the partay at ssso
why does that sound like a fly night club in LA some where???
“Ok, fine. But do they have to sell it to us with the cast of Glory singing in the background.”
I just died again.
Bye folks… goin to Chem class now….
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im trying to pick a shoe for my boo for christmas someone tell me which one???
Nicki it’s retarded dumb that it is a stereotype at all. other than my gramps and Jac’s pastor there arent many people that dont like Chicken regardless of color.
Black-Spicier, crispier…just amazing and the red beans…
Oh lawd…whew help me…
Comeback-What’s wrong baby girl?
“we don’t always agree. But no one has any serious mental problems that get in the way of discourse”
@comeback why we always gotta be down on people with mental problems?
@QB
“Jac my grandpa was the same way. it was the only meat they ate during the depression and until he passed (R.I.P.) he refused to eat it.”
My great aunt felt the same way about some foods b/c that was the only thing they ate during the depression.
“Comeback-What’s wrong baby girl?
”
just noticing some bullshyt out there in www land.
Hello everyone!
Mik if I had to pick between those I would go for the second link.
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HI NO…where have you been all the dayum day.
““@comeback why we always gotta be down on people with mental problems?
”
im not talking about anything clinical..or maybe i am..but functional..to the point that you know what the fyck you’re doing..thats what i dont like.
but whatever …people happy thoughts. happy thoughts.
@Anitra – I’m not feeling either of those shoes.
just noticing some bullshyt out there in www land.
Dust those fab shoulders off…nutcases abound.
Look @ this…THAT KID just rolls in whenever…pajamas on and starts picking shoes.
“pajamas on and starts picking shoes”
rotflmao! Jac that was Jesus he text Heroes to let him know i needed some shoe assistance and BAM!!!
lol
Heroes I like that pair, Humble what kinda shoe would you wear, I mean it needs to be something everyday ish.
@Jac
“We doing the forum over on SSSO right Cuzzo?”
right. The reunion is tmrw and we’ll do the chat on Wednesday.
*on board with the popeye’s chicken is the best bandwagon*
sings: “Love that chicken from popeeeyyyye’s”
sings: “Everbody needs a little k eff ceeee”
sings: “ba dap ba ba ba, i’m lovin’ it!”
hmmmmmmmmmmm
Humble I’m not either but I didnt wanna go there, LOL. So i just picked between her choices.
Comeback I wish I had an explanation of what I’ve been doing all day but I really dont. Just being a bum today.
Mikk how did we decide that shoes was goin to be the present?
@ Cuzzo i thought we were meeting tuesday night online at yalls house.
wait a minute – does anyone remember/heard of/had chicken from bojangles?
i swear the one time i had it the legs oh lord, so big n juicy. they had to be some hormone fed chickens how big these legs were. that was some good chicken. *twinkle*
(am i mad late with the chicken talk?)
i think yall should do it tomorrow nite and then weds too
@ mik i hate to sound old and country but pleaes don’t be buying no man do dam@n shoes.
@comeback
“i think yall should do it tomorrow nite and then weds too.”
i love the show and all but that sounds like overload. how many diff ways can we express that someone shoulda beat kim’s @ss?
“Humble I’m not either but I didnt wanna go there, LOL. So i just picked between her choices”
lol dang what happen to the honesty policy? yall coulda said something lol
comeback whats my other choices???
“@ mik i hate to sound old and country but pleaes don’t be buying no man do dam@n shoes.”
i co-sign this mikkster. i ain’t wanna say nuttin since i’m always the negative one.
Mikk what does he do for fun? what are his hobbies?
i didn’t know she was 29..she should get her tail beat for looking like she got a good 7 years on me.
but seriously…im a forgiving person..but what i can’t do is forgive the lying about cancer..and then the previews have her talking about she was losing her hair and her doctor friend said she “might have cancer” and she luckily didn;t have “the cancer she thought she had”..
bull shyt..you going to hell..for lying about getting a weave AND PUTTING IT ON CANCER and being white…white women being weavin since b4 dolly parton..SHAME ON YOU KIM.
alright when did this blog become hush hush, if yall got somethin to say say it darnit!
ok umm video games, electronics, bowling, darts………
Comeback…I guess we can do that.
Mik-They say you don’t ever buy a man shoes because that helps him walk away.
he likes reggae music a whole bunch
alright so shoes are out, got it lol
other choices…. NOT SHOES…why are we having a christmas gift conversation this early?
Mikk get him somethin havin to do with his hobbies…. a video game if thats what he likes, that movie he has been wantin it’s ya’lls first christmas you aint need to go spendin a lot (in my honest opinion)
i mean personally i just noticed the shoes on his feet needed a bit of an upgrade. Usually guys in detroit are on top of the shoe fetish but he doesn’t seem to be like that. He been spending money on me, his momma, his sister, his aunti and nothing for himself….
i just want him to look good and the shoes came to mind.
*raises hand to admit not knowing what day it was*
Mik-no clothes, shoes, undies, nothing until later
Valentine’s day maybe
“why are we having a christmas gift conversation this early?”
my POV exactly
“why are we having a christmas gift conversation this early?”
you mean in ref to the boyfriend or in ref to it being novemeber still?
@Mik
haven’t u been with dude for like only a month now?
shyt i was thinking of the latter but yeah while we’re at it..bof. shat
@Anitra
“Humble what kinda shoe would you wear, I mean it needs to be something everyday ish.”
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http://www.timberland.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3041146&cp=1779791.1761081.1761135&parentPage=family
well it will be 3 by the time Christmas rolls around.
It doesn’t have to be shoes but its gonna be something nice im not tacky gosh! plus I KNOW i got some jewelry coming lol. I mean he has been very giving and sweet and I don’t question the fact that I want to do something nice that he will appreciate.
shoes might be over the top ok I got that memo
why am i in moderation?
and comeback im not shopping last minute for ANYBODY. low key yall need to do something with this secret santa soon!! I am not stressing out about any of it seriously. Plus when you buy stuff online it might take minute to come.
“low key yall need to do something with this secret santa soon!!”
I know right, can somebody please tell me what we’re doing? I do lots of my shopping on Friday…
sorry hummy..your post had 50 gazillion links in it.
re: secret santa…can somebody like research it and coordinate? i have the links and stuff.
if it was about shoes, thats why lol
but we dont need the shoes anymore,
im waiting for other bright ideas so far all i got was something from QB n Jac
Mikki DON”T BUY THAT MAN SHOES…for real.
ALRIGHT!! lol
what better ideas yall gotz
can yall explain to me why not??? i need clarification other than jacs reason, or is that everybodies consensus on shoes???
GOT DAYUM…where is your imagination..what does he like, what are his hobbies, what are his addictions (good stuff)…go from there..
just don’t get that man some socks and tie..unless its specific to him. just my thoughts.
@Anitra – If you know his interests it shouldn’t be that hard to get something for him.
“GOT DAYUM”
blank stare…
did she just yell at me????
lol
“HOT DAYUM”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qu5Fm6FVGfg
im in the clipse frame of mind. so “Got DAYUM” to the tune of clipse.
Comeback-Since I am already on vacation I will do it, but what links? Can you e-mail the links to my G-Mail?
@ mik… Whenever I give gifts I usually try to give something that’s more of a necessity to them at that time. Has he mentioned anything about needing something but he just haven’t went and got it??My gift’s might not be all that elaborate all the time but they get put to use… Just listen to him.. You’ll figure out something to get him.
@Anitra
“did she just yell at me????”
Yeah she did. You are making it harder than it needs to be.
Hot Damn, its a new day
Hot Damn, but them boys want the (money man)
hooooo, hooooo
hooooo, Hot Damn
“Whenever I give gifts I usually try to give something that’s more of a necessity to them at that time. Has he mentioned anything about needing something but he just haven’t went and got it??My gift’s might not be all that elaborate all the time but they get put to use”
This is true. One sweetest day my ex got a 3ton jack for me. I really neeeded this for when I work on my cars.
@ 80s and Hummy
bannish this from your mouth:
“@ mik… Whenever I give gifts I usually try to give something that’s more of a necessity to them at that time.”
…yuck and yuck…people like this give blenders to wives and random socks for husbands…i think its ok as ONE OF THE GIFTS..
but the idea of a gift to me has an element of romance and sweetness…please dont make me do a post.
“This is true. One sweetest day my ex got a 3ton jack for me. I really neeeded this for when I work on my cars.”
Awww…the closest thing to this I did was to buy the beau a camera that he really wanted since his was broken. His face lit up the moment he saw it…I had to get it for him.
thanks 80’s thats a good idea, imma marinate on that .
Comeback I got you, I had to do that this weekend on my roommates, they was clowning somethin terrible
“please dont make me do a post”
may as well
“may as well
”
LOL…im dectecting persnicity…do i detect persnicity???
“do i detect persnicity???”
lmao
*whistling and looking up and the ceiling*
who me??
nahhhhhh
““@ mik… Whenever I give gifts I usually try to give something that’s more of a necessity to them at that time.”
…yuck and yuck…people like this give blenders to wives and random socks for husbands…i think its ok as ONE OF THE GIFTS..
but the idea of a gift to me has an element of romance and sweetness…please dont make me do a post.”
mmmhmmm too all of the above. I love a useful giftsthat I would consider a treat, something that I want – not need. A lot of women def don’t need perfume, lotions, make-up, spa treatments, lingerie, etc. but they make great gifts.
@Comeback
“but the idea of a gift to me has an element of romance and sweetness…please dont make me do a post.”
I agree. But the necessity doesn’t hurt. Ideally you would want somebody to see that you need something and get it for you if you can’t get it yourself without asking. IDK. I appreciate a gift period. Mikki gets points just for thinking the gift out. I have met too many cheap women that don’t put any effort in gifts for the man they are dealing with.
“A lot of women def don’t need perfume, lotions, make-up, spa treatments, lingerie, etc. but they make great gifts.”
@ cuzzo
yeah why i cant i have both “crotc!hless silk imported panties” LOL…and a stainless steel panini maker..
quid quo pro…
“Mikki gets points just for thinking the gift out. I have met too many cheap women that don’t put any effort in gifts for the man they are dealing with”
thank you hummy muah muah…
@Comeback
“and a stainless steel panini maker..”
Just use a foreman grill. lol.
is it time to go home yet.. SHAT!
“crotc!hless silk imported panties”
I just died lol
80s can you email the secret santa links to JAC!!!
im out yall be back later
“@Comeback
“and a stainless steel panini maker..”
Just use a foreman grill. lol.”
noooo. foreman grill says…i was at macy’s and they had them at the counter so i picked one up for u. it’s such an “in-case-this-person-got-me-a-gift” gift
A lot of women def don’t need perfume, lotions, make-up, spa treatments, lingerie, etc. but they make great gifts.
Sure don’t but I love them…
*hint hint to the universe*
“A lot of women def don’t need perfume, lotions, make-up, spa treatments, lingerie, etc. but they make great gifts”
I do actually
hint hint the the universe as well
ok im really leaving
im hungry…
***hint hint to the universe..
Ok I have the link…I also have mostly everyone’s e-mail address…
On to work on this…I need more wine.
Hey I got 3 bottles at home!
What should be the minimum and maximum on the gifts?
@Holly
“Hey I got 3 bottles at home!”
Of what?
20 bucks max??? min 12 bucks
I am willing to spend up to 40-50.
Comeback-Damned. I asked two people behind the scenes and got a $40-50 range SO I put the range at 0-50…
Now I will need everyone to respond ASAP so that I can create a Guess?List that will match everyone else…
If you did not receive an invitation, please check your Spam folder. If you still don’t have one, please e-mail me at singlesistersspeakout@gmail.com
Thanks,
Jac
Hummy I got Riesling and 2 Shiraz’s
ok 50 bucks is reasonable but.I was tryn na think of erryone here..
Well…the range is nice…it’s from the heart so I don’t think there’s that much of a problem…
Comeback-did you get your invite?
anitra…
just straight up ask what he wants.
Every guy has some secret items he wants. How would my girl know I want a pair of Puma Artworks? She wouldn’t unless she asked…
or just take him to the mall and see what he goes crazy over. Note it and get it. Easy.
@ Comeback…. That was Holly who supplied the links….
But dang I see I got bashed on my way home for giving my necessity gifts. lol Don’t get me wrong I don’t just wait for special occasions to give gifts. I have no problem getting just because gifts that are stuff that he likes. But on those big occasions I get multiple gifts and it doesn’t hurt for some of them to be a necessity…
And see don’t get me no lotion or perfume… Because I have eczema and I’m particular on my lotion…. And with the perfume. What if I don’t like the fragrance? I’m just supposed to wear it because he bought. Heck no.. Furthermore, I have enough bottles of perfume now so don’t get me none of that either…
Maybe I’m just not your norm….lol
whyso-did you get the invite for secret santa?
80s-we got it! Did you get your invitation to Secret Santa?
alright so the verdict is in I ASK my man what he wanted and this ninja said boots!!
Mikki-Don’t do it. I’m telling you. The ol’ folks say no shoes from a woman to a man!
Why so are you a puma fan too??? everyone else be talkin bout how they have a bunch of jordans i have a huge collection of pumas… i love them so much!
“on saturday me and my girls hosted a “if you like it then you shoulda put a ring pop on it” partay”
Jolie–that sounds like it was fun and a great idea.
I thought this blog was about online dating?
Anyway I am just gonna say before we make the men on online dating sites out to be all jerks and lurkers heres my story:
I set up the date after about 3 weeks of constant emailing on BP-after she gave me the math I promptly hollered at her
Both of us were feeling our voices and judging from the pics we were eager to see one another and then her phone gets cut off (yea she works FULL TIME) mind you she never wrote a note on BP explaining anything, here I am online doing research for the date (even solicited the advice of female friend!) had I not manned up and wrote saying I cant take a women out that I only spoke with ONCE on the phone; I would have never heard from her until her jack was back on(BTW she didnt call to tell me I took intiative and called her) so no we never went out..she lives close to me so I checked her for a couple hours but no we havent gone out probably will but the date has been “downgraded” and she really cant complain that I reduced her to a jumpoff..depending on the date
Then theres shorty who cancelled via a text message (I never re-established contact with her) thats after over the phone setting up the date, she got deleted immediatley
My findings are women are just as hit or miss and perhaps even worst over the web…a woman could never handpick her men the way she can on BP or Myspace…which are NOT dating sites
the contact dies out if you as a guy dont reiterate like 5 billiion times you aim to do more than just “wink” or Add” each other, yea I am looking to date, which means lets attempt to build a rapport which stop wating for me to say someting so profound that makes you wanna get at me lets just kick it…you also get the feeling that the crap about how only men “objectify” women and all is just garbage.
I have seen more 30+ yrs women on the Web in very provocative-and outright “if you was hitting it – it would be like this” pose
And they do this while “looking for a real man” and I would love to hear the spin..this aint for college or nursing school…one thing you do learn about women from the social sites is like men some of yall love to exploit yourselves.
But the dating is the same if not some what worst
Oh and Comeback, you said online dating makes one “socially lazy” well how do you explain these men and women (of late all college educated) who seem to wait post college to become baby mothers and fathers…why wait all that time, achieve so much to be another single parent like Duqwan, Shaneequa and em, isnt that soical laziness?
Especially sine Ihear so many lament “I really never knew my BMor BD” okay but you knew em enough to have their kid?
(BTW I always tell the college educated BM-unless people KNOW you-yea you just another baby moms….messed around and got prego on the couch or daybed!!!)
TEMPIE…..
WHY DO YOU ALWAYS COME ON with these great earth shaking thoughts..And im just …well…mentally tired.
I’m on EDT (time). But I PROMISE I WILL MAKE THIS A POST WEDS OR FRI…
can you comeback then? during the day? lunch break? when you’re going to the bathroom? lol
For you Comeback…fagetaboutit…I come back only fa youse!!!
I am only attempting to add balance. I do feel as people we do the same things but being Men and Women they are manifested in different ways.
So I cant see a man phone being cut off and yet he STILL gets the date with Shorty but thats one of those battle of the sexes moments…
It didnt cost me any time or money but it was disconcerting
I think women do things like this all the time around guys you are seeing “casually” and some of you dont check your behavior.
Yet once in a relationship its the Guy that carries out the same BS on her, that she did to those guys she was dating “casually”
I dont do that, I try to see if (even if the whole screams “booty call” cant let initial emotions override the game plan…wait) each woman I am with could be my girl that starts STAYING IN TOUCH…and I dont want to hear “we just met..we are new to each other” and all that stage fright BS…I am not calling five times a day, I call when you get in or before hitting the sack and if your phone is off…email?
(for the record I was gonna take one of those woman on the Circle Line boat which tours Manhattan island…well thats off the books I got to give that to a real woman- and I know this is how some of the fellas up here roll, ladies we have a game plan but some to yall assume we just “simple”)
I swear more women play these games in the initial stages of meeting a man and think nothing of it for future reference and its way worst online…
In any event online or in the street, with women these days there is really no difference some are just as stupid as men degrees and all.
If yall feeling a man find any way you have to, to let him know, use all levels of communication…cut out all that mysteriousness yall aint the Sec’y of The State!!!
“If yall feeling a man find any way you have to, to let him know, use all levels of communication…cut out all that mysteriousness yall aint the Sec’y of The State!!!
”
well what about the parts that suggest that women have different ways of communicating interest. Everything that suggests a woman is feeling a man doesn’t have to come out her mouth.
“well what about the parts that suggest that women have different ways of communicating interest. Everything that suggests a woman is feeling a man doesn’t have to come out her mouth”
True indeed Comeback…this is what I did for my mom as a teenager.
I would always clean the kitchen after dinner when she went in her room to relax only to come back out and see the ENTIRE kitchen is clean.
With a gesture like that, done often my moms knew her son had not gone down with the ship of Keep it Real, (yea ma I still love you:).
So yea if you know dude is into aeronautics and things it wouldnt kill her to send him email links about that interest or if yall have gotten close and somewhat intimate-she may have noticed
“he reads the NY Times” and then boom he gets an email from her about a story “you might find interesting”.
Gestures and acts of kindness go along way but remember we are the LOGO and LOUD generation.
If it aint got a “brand” and doesnt cost a stack then we call it wack…we date in the same manner.
BTW if I am in a women’s place I stay trying to help out with cleaing or moving something..dont want her thinking I am not about team work and I am assumming things.