Can all some of the men ponder that for a moment. Why are you some of you so dam!n stupid?
I love my male AyAy’s (coined by SBM from the phrase YaYa Sisterhood). But I’ve been “perusing my thoughts” and the net, and while I am pleased to say there are men out here with good sense (some who frequent this site). Certain others are dumb as the day is long. Dictating and regulating EVERYTHING along with the total course of action in a dating situation.
I come from the school of thought that men like structure, they like rules, and they also like to take all kinds of dating liberties, if you let them, a la (behaving badly), along the lines of: “there are more of me than there are of you” ratio stupidity.
So you take his bullshyt, his disrespect, his “willy nilliness”, because he knows you will. You bought into the asinine 20:1 (male to female mythical comparison in {insert your metro area here}) because he sold it to you. Some men need you to believe the mathematical urban legend because him multi-tasking yo ass leaves you pining away for his, which works FOR HIM. But presents you with the present of desperation that keeps on calling. That keeps on trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
I honestly feel as though it goes back to women not knowing their worth. There is a lid for every pot, so why would you let a dic!k regulate where a courtship/dating situation goes. Why would you let him dictate to you what the next course of action is? Now this next statement will surprise you all. But once in a committed relationship, (read marriage) a man should lead. He should be the visionary. But in courtship and dating, you don’t know if he can find his way to the dam!n bathroom without piss!in on himself, so why would you allow him to define “where you’re going” without certain preliminaries.
Those preliminaries to follow tomorrow.
Man, Comeback is always managing to spit total truth around here. I think you’re right women use multi-tasking to multi-task and men use it to h0.
I have learned that if you let a man do whatever you will never be able to change his behavior. Like you’re trying to get serious and he’s still acting ridiculous because you’ve let him get away with bo bo foolishness (works cite Comeback) so we’ve got to stop letting this happen to ourselves.
“I honestly feel as though it goes back to women not knowing their worth.”
You must know your worth and not settle for sloppy seconds.
Some things we can’t control but then there are those things that we can–you control who you let into your innercircle. Expect respect. You set your boundaries and its up to you to demand respect. A man will only do to you what you allow him to do.
And you can’t turn a ho into a husband either. I’ve seen friends think they can change a man after they say “I do.” Accept him as is or else you’ll be disappointed.
Comeback, I agree in a marriage the man should be the head of the household. That’s why it’s so important to marry a man who is head of household material. If he’s not cut out to be the head of the household, a woman should think twice before saying “I do.”
@ JAC “I have learned that if you let a man do whatever you will never be able to change his behavior. Like you’re trying to get serious and he’s still acting ridiculous because you’ve let him get away with bo bo foolishness”
RIGHT. its hard to turn the ship around once its already headed down a charted path. Why not commence a situation with good intention. Set the standard. Nicely check the things you don’t like. And bounce on the deal breakers.
@ Shelia “Comeback, I agree in a marriage the man should be the head of the household. That’s why it’s so important to marry a man who is head of household material. If he’s not cut out to be the head of the household, a woman should think twice before saying “I do.”
”
this is so true. But women don’t give a man a chance to even show you that he even CAN. because we’re making all these excuses. Playing the man, lettin him be the chick. We cant even see what he’s made of. Get out of his way. And let him show you who he is.
well, whichever works …. works.
pre determined roles dont work.
mom mother cooked,
my mother ran the garden
my mother did the laundry
my father made the most money
in my household
I cooked
I ran the garden
My mate did the laundry
and my mate made the most money.
My household functioned.
conversely my fighting buddy works at a law firm. his wife…. well lets just say she is having problems finding employment. she sometimes would temp for $10/hr. So she is home. She cant cook, she is too small to do much real cleaning, and he sends his suits to the laundry so she dosent do clothing either. their marriage is fine and not only is the earning insane kinds of lopsided (1,000 per year vs 135,00 per year) but the wife dosent have the general “typical” roles in the house either. Ive never seen a man more in a rush to get home to see a woman he has already been with since he was 13 years old.
so if your roles work for your household…. then they work. think outside the box. we are black people…. built and forged by our environment to adapt and improvise. why stop now?
and a final thought, if you are to pre JUDGE and pre STATE what a man “should” do and what you shouldnt “have to” do……
as a black woman
is that not the same of how white people pre JUDGE us both and pre STATE how we should act??
the word is prejudice that we both hate…. it comes from the root to pre judge. as a black woman, nothing should offend you more than discrimination and inequality. weather it be on a social, civil, legal or even ROMANTIC platform.
Good Morning Everyone
“So you take his bullshyt, his disrespect, his “willy nilliness”, because he knows you will. ”
I never could understand why some women let dudes get away with straight bulls**t. I also never could understand why I never attract these women. I wouldn’t do 1/8 of the stuff these dudes do but these women never come my way.
“But once in a committed relationship, (read marriage) a man should lead. He should be the visionary. But in courtship and dating, you don’t know if he can find his way to the dam!n bathroom without piss!in on himself, so why would you allow him to define “where you’re going” without certain preliminaries.”
I am not sure what you mean by lead. Can you explain?
“I honestly feel as though it goes back to women not knowing their worth.”
I agree with this. Stupid women or women who settle, make it hard out here for the good women. They are the reason why when we stand up, we are referred to a ABW or combative…
“Comeback, I agree in a marriage the man should be the head of the household. That’s why it’s so important to marry a man who is head of household material. If he’s not cut out to be the head of the household, a woman should think twice before saying “I do.””
I agree, Sheila.
Hasani,
I think you’re missing the whole point on what Comeback means as “head of household.”
I discriminate against “sorry men.” Just can’t deal with them and no I don’t like them. Too many people get involved with people just to say they’re in a relationship and then are miserable because they settled for a “sorry” man or woman. I’ve yet to figure out that concept.
Humble One,
It does sometimes seem like folks who mistreat folks can get away with more stuff than the person who is trying to do right (at least most of the time). Just ask yourself though–do you even want to be with a woman who will allow a man to dog her out like that–probably not.
@shiela” “Comeback, I agree in a marriage the man should be the head of the household. That’s why it’s so important to marry a man who is head of household material. If he’s not cut out to be the head of the household, a woman should think twice before saying “I do.””
I could not agree more. Thats why I am waiting for that man who I feel comfortable enough to relenquish all control because I know that he knows what he is doing. I have yet to feel that comfortable with one. The Lord knows my heart though and I know he will lead me to him.
@ Hasani i really loved how you ZONED in on ONE thing and RAN completely down the block with it. did i mention money AT ALL? A secure man realizes that even if a woman makes more its the FAMILIES money. And maybe she get’s pregnant and wants to stay at home for a few years. AND HE MAKES MORE.
Maybe they have property together (IT”S THEIR’S)..which is why a man being a visionary is very important to me. Small minded thinkers are tied to the INCOME. A husband and wife can have more in their portfolo besides the liquid cash they make bi-weekly.
Like you said Comeback, most women buy into th e 20:1 ratio, thus results in the demise of them knowing their worth. I know here in Atlanta there are a lot of women who don’t mind being the jump off or one of the “main girls” because they are scared that they will be alone. I know chicks who know that their men are possibly DL (down low) and they have no problem accepting that possibility.
One thing I think we as women forget a lot of times is that we are the choosers, we set the tone for how the chips will fall and where they will lay.
@ Humble “I am not sure what you mean by lead. Can you explain?
”
its hard to explain. I don’t mean to suggest that he’s bossing anybody around. That he is manipulating on indimidating me. Or that he doesn’t listen to me. But HE has a vision. And he is navigating the ship with his vision in mind. And that doesn’t mean that if i see us headed down a dark narrow path that i don’t open my mouth and if pushed…takes all on the little tug boat as the titanic sinks.
but judgement is key here and I would hope that I am picking WELL ENOUGH to know how he navigates HIS personal situation.
@ Nick “I agree with this. Stupid women or women who settle, make it hard out here for the good women. They are the reason why when we stand up, we are referred to a ABW or combative…
”
i agree. but women can stand apart from the ABW sterotype that unfortunately is ONE man’s opinion. I know Im not angry rather the opposite. I just know that im choosey about whom i start things with. And for any old man to suggest Im angry because i don’t think WE are a good fit. Can go jump in the river.
@ Jolie “I could not agree more. Thats why I am waiting for that man who I feel comfortable enough to relenquish all control because I know that he knows what he is doing. I have yet to feel that comfortable with one. The Lord knows my heart though and I know he will lead me to him.
”
please help Humble with this because he is not feeling me.
@ Holly “One thing I think we as women forget a lot of times is that we are the choosers, we set the tone for how the chips will fall and where they will lay.
”
WELCOME…and EXACTLY…the ratio is an old wives tale. Namely because not every woman is ready for the “right man”. I honestly believe that there is one person who is on the same page with you. You just have to know how to detect and choose.
the solution to this is a variation of the golden rule…
“you attract who you are”. Let that marinizate.
And im kinda serious.
Thx Comeback for the welcome! “detect and choose” is the operative phrase most of the time we let things cloud our judgement and will accept anything just to have something.
ok why..imma marinizate while i get some coffee. LOL..i hope the suggestion is that Im not stupid lol?
lol…naw comeback, you aren’t stupid. It’s all in time. whatever you’re learning now will help you appreciate that right man when he comes riding in that shining armor and whatnot…
As far as leadership goes, I know it’s my job to set the direction/tone of my relationship/family by my actions/intentions. I will assume full responsibility when stuff goes wrong and share the rewards when stuff goes right. It’s in my DNA code lol.
Bossing is not leadership. Leadership is finding out what the people you are leading want, and helping them to reach their goals, while they help you. It’s getting people to voluntarily follow your vision, and more importantly serving the people you lead. It’s also knowing when to defer to Mrs. Serious when it’s something she’s good at.
I hope that in next Tuesday’s election, I will get your vote. Wait…lol
I’m Why So Serious, and I approve this message.
“Bossing is not leadership”
Welll awright. This is true Whyso.
“Bossing is not leadership”
True Why So Serious, but a lot of people get the too confused and become Beth/Bob the Bully.
“women don’t give a man a chance to even show you that he even CAN. because we’re making all these excuses. Playing the man, lettin him be the chick. We cant even see what he’s made of. Get out of his way. And let him show you who he is.”
Yes, we need to move out of the way and let the man be the man.
Are yall serving drinks yet? I need a few. I just got laid off. Hopefully its a blessing in disguise.
@NoMore: “I just got laid off.”
I’m sorry to hear that… Praying for ya.
We will make a special for you… what kinda drank you need?
MornTing all…
Everyone brings up excellent points except HNIC who never read things completely before attacking others.
I’ve stood by for months now and watched you attack the women on several blogs calling them ABWs simply because they stand up for what they want and believe in. I’m so tired of the ish! Seriously, get over it. Whomever hurt you or turned you against the very women who brought you into this world has moved on with their life and so should you!
“Are yall serving drinks yet? I need a few. I just got laid off. Hopefully its a blessing in disguise”
WHAT???
yeah its a blessing..i’ll say a prayer too.
Thanks ladies. I’ll take a Jack and Coke and relax for now. I agree with the fact that men need to lead and women need to let us lead. Alot of men just arent being raised to be leaders unfortunately.
NMH – so sorry to hear that. It’s definitely a blessing in disguise. God never closes one door without opening another.
@NoMore: Sliding it down the bar to ya, as I take a shot.
“God never closes one door without opening another.”
Yes Ma’am… And that applies to ALL things.
Comeback, I see you told me and Jac to put a pic up on the WhoWeAre on our site last week… I did and told Jac too… my bio verrry short.
Hello everyone…. But I love today’s topic…And men will be who you let them be……
@No more…Sorry to hear that dude…Stay encouraged
Thanks again ladies. I’ve been through this before so I am mentally and financially prepared this time.
No More Heroes, here’s a cyber hug. It seems layoffs are hitting every market these days. I pray that you find something else soon.
“I’m Why So Serious, and I approve this message.”
LOL
Heroes where did you work?
“I’ve been through this before so I am mentally and financially prepared this time.”
And an AMEN for preparation.
@ Mik: I worked for Masco Corporation, its a large international interior design company and I worked in the IT department.
@nomore: may I ask what you do? It may be time to move to DC.. Let me know .. I may be able to forward you some opportunities …
oh and a big old hug and a kiss on the cheek.. Would you like a 4 course dinner with that jack and coke?
Oh ok I never heard of it, well you are in my prayers and im glad you are prepared financially im sure something good will come of this
NMH you’ll find another job… you’re in my prayers in the mean time.. I heard it’s pretty good out there for the IT job market…
It seems like a lot of us in the treehouse work in IT……:)
@Jolie: Thanks very much, email is tsl160@gmail.com.
Thanks to everyone. The funny thing is I had been contemplating going to medical school, its a dream of mine that I didn’t pursue for various reasons. Maybe this is a sign to look into it.
@NoMore: Well awright Med School!
You betta GO’ boy (said in my Gina voice!)
alright nah 2 doctors in the house!!
Hey guys, venture over to our site and read our guest male’s post.
Why was I thinking who is the other one? STUUPPPIID. LOL
Nicki
*blank stare*
now im worried lol
Why is it that IT is an important part to any company, but our field is usually the first to get hit by layoffs—don’t understand it.
No More Heroes–things happen for a reason–if going to med school has been your desire, this might be the chance you should take.
@Mikki: LOL. That is the first blank stare I have ever received!
@Comeback
“As far as leadership goes, I know it’s my job to set the direction/tone of my relationship/family by my actions/intentions. I will assume full responsibility when stuff goes wrong and share the rewards when stuff goes right. It’s in my DNA code lol.”
Is this what you mean by leading? If so then I understand what you are saying. When I hear some women say lead they mean they want the man to assume full responsibility of everything in the relationship while they are just along for the ride.
@No More Heroes
“Are yall serving drinks yet? I need a few. I just got laid off. Hopefully its a blessing in disguise.”
Sorry to hear that. That might be happening where I’m at. They are forcing the hourly employees to use vacation time in December. And they are shutting the plant down for a week. I might be joining you soon.
I’ll be back…i still aint get my coffee. Hi 80s and Daisy!!!
@nomore: SENT
@everyone in IT
I know this is off topic but, what are the best IT jobs or what are the best paying IT jobs.
No More…In Japanese, Crisis and Opportunity are the same word. take advantage of it.
a woman shouldn’t just be “along for the ride”. This is a row row row ya boat. Im not going to have the responsibility of pointing us to dry land, and be breaking my arms to keep us afloat. Now you don’t necessarily have to paddle. But you best be attentive with that water bottle, back rub, or making that last piece of bread taste like gold.
mmmmm…last piece of bread ***homer simpson drool***
“But you best be attentive with that water bottle, back rub, or making that last piece of bread taste like gold. ”
I can make the last piece of bread taste like DIAMONDS.
Top that.
Seriously though… that’s true. If the man is doing his part, we have to do ours. BUT I think all the women here got that covered. We need you to shout that on a megaphone around the world.
off topic again. sorry folks
My brother just called me and said Barack Obama’s campaign has asked me to volunteer. This is the second time they have called me. They invited me to a barbecue for him earlier this year.
Good Morning,
“But in courtship and dating, you don’t know if he can find his way to the dam!n bathroom without piss!in on himself, so why would you allow him to define “where you’re going” without certain preliminaries.”
With everything that you’ve said – wouldn’t that make us (women) the dumb ones? These men aren’t really stupid if they have women falling all over them left and right even if they are no good. Now, the stupid man, is the one who let’s a woman treat him awfully when he’s trying to be good. What you think madam?
“My brother just called me and said Barack Obama’s campaign has asked me to volunteer”
@Humble: Shut up! You gonna do it? That’s good stuff.
@Cuzzo: Good Morning chick.
@nickisunshine
“Seriously though… that’s true. If the man is doing his part, we have to do ours. BUT I think all the women here got that covered. We need you to shout that on a megaphone around the world.”
I agree. That is one thing I am still kind of scared of. I am working on it. The same thing some of my friends went through with their wife I went through with my ex. That is why I asked what Comeback meant by lead. A lot of women want a dude to lead at no cost to them. What I mean by that is if a man is doing the right thing and making the right moves they are not willing to come out their comfort zone to support what he is doing.
“I agree. That is one thing I am still kind of scared of. I am working on it. The same thing some of my friends went through with their wife I went through with my ex. That is why I asked what Comeback meant by lead. A lot of women want a dude to lead at no cost to them. What I mean by that is if a man is doing the right thing and making the right moves they are not willing to come out their comfort zone to support what he is doing”
And yes, some women are like this.. I think there are always red flags though. If you are quiet long enough, a fool will tell you who he/she is.
@Humble
“My brother just called me and said Barack Obama’s campaign has asked me to volunteer.”
…you don’t want to?
p.s. they heard you were watching Seinfeld again so now ure PC
Wow…
A lot going on here. I can’t quite catch up, but I will say the following.
NoMore: Aw hun, I’m very sorry to here that. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Women: Good looking out.
Comeback:Bring me some coffee and a piece of fruit to go with this Special K.
Whyso:I have a question, let me know when you’re here.
Jolie:Where have you been? I’m looking for you @ our mtg. spot.
Nicki: I am here, alive, and awake but hungry.
Oh my god. My friend that just found out that she is preggars (but wanted me to pray that she was not) can now talk bout nothing in pregnancy and talks about herself in third person and as Mommy.
I am putting the pencil to my neck in T minus 5.
@ nicki
“If you are quiet long enough, a fool will tell you who he/she is.”
Amen! It’s just like the Maya Angelou quote (I believe she said it)… ”When people show you who they are, believe them the first time,’ … because they always show you!”
I think people ignore the red flags a lot…. especially when sex becomes part of the equation… you start making a lot of excuses for the person’s behavior. Instead of halting the ride and jumping off.
“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time,’ … because they always show you!”
Girl I love this!
And you are so right… we stay around, hoping for change, but it never happpens. (please leave change to Obama!)
“If the man is doing his part, we have to do ours. BUT I think all the women here got that covered. We need you to shout that on a megaphone around the world.”
Nicki, absolutely and I think there are some things the men wish we would shout around the world. Some of the things that men and women are doing to each other or are letting happen to themselves based on not knowing their worth is ridiculous and I know because it has happened to me.
“Nicki, absolutely and I think there are some things the men wish we would shout around the world”
What say you men????
Ok my turn to ask a question.
You found out your Ex had a baby with his new wife. Now yall don’t speak much but not nessesarily on bad terms that you know of, so you say wow thats great can i come see the baby (assuming your only thinking of the precious new bundle of joy and how great you think new babies are) and he says no I will send u a picture…..
is that rude to want to see someone you cared abouts at one point in time FIRST baby?
someone told me its disrespectful to the wife, and i can’t figure out why? You have your ring, you have your baby, your man and if you are jealous of me at ALL thats kinda silly……
I understand about keeping the peace and all in your house but do women really get that trippy?
Women do get trippy. Mik leave that fart alone.
Nicki and Jac, I accidently posted the longest comment EVER. Seriously, it’s longer than your guest post. I’m so sorry! They asked what we did that we never thought we’d do and it brought back some bad, bad, memories. I do feel better after purging (you guys will find that comment funny after reading my post) though. Thanks for the therapy chicas!
That’s ok, Daisy.. your opinions are always appreciated in our home.
lmao Nicki, I am gonna
but i was tellin my girl about it, she was like it would be a fight in my house!
I was like wow is it that deep?
which lead me to wonder if once you get married do you have to cut ties with opposite sexes?
she told me married people dont need friends of the opposite sex
@ Nicki: “please leave change to Obama1″
Hilarious! But True!
@Mikki: Let it be….
“she told me married people dont need friends of the opposite sex”
Your spouse is supposed to be your best friend.
No Nicki, don’t stab yourself!
So when u get married you have to get rid of folks and no new friends?
lawd i cant get married ever lol
@mikki AKA AnitraClark AKA (a different name every day)
“You found out your Ex had a baby with his new wife. Now yall don’t speak much but not nessesarily on bad terms that you know of, so you say wow thats great can i come see the baby (assuming your only thinking of the precious new bundle of joy and how great you think new babies are) and he says no I will send u a picture…..”
So you don’t talk but, you are willing to go out of your way to see his child? I dont get it. Why do you care?
Mikki-I am going to hurt you forrealz son…No you can’t be going up in that woman’s house for any reason at all. Because I swear to you know who I would Jazmine Sullivan everybody’s car…
*mumbling*
…no this n!gga didn’t let no other b!tch in my house and i just had this d@mn baby…wtf do they think this is?
^wife’s stream of thought.
Humble, because i want to see how big his head is?
i dunno lol
@Mikki
It’s not jealousy or “trippy” – it is disrespectful. Ya’ll used to sleep together…had an intimate relationship. You don’t even speak that often now, so it’s not like ya’ll turned out to be best friends after it all. If you were a significant friend you would have been there and met the wife before she became his wife. You woulda been invited to the wedding, the baby shower, something. Imagine you have to be face to face with a woman that used to sleep with your man – I don’t care how long ago it was. I would be thinking, ya’ll are exes, don’t have any ties to each other, why are you even still in each other’s life?
i think if your marriage is tight, then wouldn’t making new friendships will actually make your marriage better.
jac, im keeping up today. i’ll chilll in the treehouse a bit. whatchu wanna ask?
lmao Jac I get it
I guess I am just not that bitter, or am I just slow as hell lol.
Mikki – I’m with everyone else. Leave this one alone. All you’ll do is stir up some ish during a time that’s supposed to be happy. Plus this woman just had a child, her emotions are all off kilter – you never know what could happen.
And YES, when you get married the mingling with the exes must stop! Marriage is hard enough without the unecessary outside influences.
@Mikki
“which lead me to wonder if once you get married do you have to cut ties with opposite sexes? ”
No. People u used to f*ck? yes.
“So when u get married you have to get rid of folks and no new friends?”
This is what I don’t get. Why is it that some people can’t walk away from people they had relationships with. Other than one woman I dealt with I don’t talk to and don’t want to talk to any of them. Even my ex I dont talk to and I was with her for 5yrs. Once you leave me alone or we agree to leave each other alone I take it as that.
@Mikki
“I guess I am just not that bitter, or am I just slow as hell lol.”
it’s the latter
Oh ok, hi there whyso…
Well…I would like to inquire about the comment you made last week (though it may have been covered while i was sleeping)
I believe you said, I’ll lead and you work out the details…I would like to know which details would be of significant value, because as a woman I tend to get caught up the small stuff and man it’s gotta be perfect, any big ones to look out for?
And go visit Nicki and I’s blog.
This ends the PSA
Cuzzo my best friend was saying ANY PEOPLE
Hi yall…well it is safe to say that we are most certainly a family. I got a text and a phone call about the support needed in the family treehouse.
No More it’s definitely a blessing. God is just removing some of the clutter in your life so you can see what’s been in front of you the entire time. And the best thing about getting laid off is that you still have minimal income in while you figure out the next move.
Hello fam, Comeback, Mikki, Nicki, Jac, Daisy, 80’s, Humble, Sheila, Cuzzo, Jolie, Uncle Fester…and to our long lost cousin Why So up in this piece!!
And to the newcomer, welcome to our lovingly dysfunctional family.
Cuzzo, u real funky fresh and I’d ask you to join my latter team but we are the sunshine yaya gang and we like to take the high road so im gonna pretend i didnt see that.
How the hell did I forget! HEY CUZZO!
@WhySo
“i think if your marriage is tight, then wouldn’t making new friendships will actually make your marriage better. ”
Are you talking about making new friendships as a married couple? or wife/husband introduces old friends in the mix and they all become buddies?
still can’t work with exes.
yo check it
tell your friends
to get with my friends
and we can be friends
sh!t, we can do this every weekend
aight?
is that aight with you?
yea…keep bangin
Are these people swinging, Cuzzo?
*blank stare* (works cite Mikki)
@Cuzzo
“…you don’t want to?
p.s. they heard you were watching Seinfeld again so now ure PC ”
lol. Yes i want to. You are funny. I don’t see too many woman that got jokes. That is a good look.
Hey Jac.
@Mikki
I just chose the option you mentioned. I wouldn’t call ya slow just to be nasty. IMHO it’s not about bitterness or jealousy – that’s what you said you don’t get.
“my best friend was saying ANY PEOPLE”
I and Humble responded to this…oppp sex is OK – exes need not apply.
“i think if your marriage is tight, then wouldn’t making new friendships will actually make your marriage better. ”
If you have friendships together OTHERWISE.. no. Some women just aren’t respectful of the wife.. they start seeing that what you two have is good… he cries on their shoulder and WHAMMO!
Cuzzo, really though sometimes i just dont like you
and im ok with that
Hey T!
I am not yet what you would call a regular on this iste but I hope first statement of some men having sense meant me and my readers.
The crazy thing is in most aspects of the black diaspora, the woman runs the show. Now alot of times the male makes final confirmation but it is the women that puts out the agenda. Which is a position of strength. I believe in most cases women mature earlier than men, but mainly because women are looking for something that most young men are not, Love. So men do things until that time in their life hits them, which varies.
But don’t get it twisted, there are plenty of women like this too. You see her at work/campus, then at the club, then in church, wtf!!! But was on every dudes “Hello” when she was out. I’m just saying, it goes both ways.
“This is what I don’t get. Why is it that some people can’t walk away from people they had relationships with. Other than one woman I dealt with I don’t talk to and don’t want to talk to any of them. Even my ex I dont talk to and I was with her for 5yrs. Once you leave me alone or we agree to leave each other alone I take it as that.”
ME too Humble.
Nicki & Humble, im just a lover thats all lol
charge it to the libra
@Jac
“Are these people swinging, Cuzzo?”
ummmm, you don’t know where that’s from? OMG. that’s a line puff daddy (he’ll always be puff daddy to me or poppa diddy pop) says in the song Big Poppa.
“Nicki & Humble, im just a lover thats all lol”
Ma’am! Ma’am! The past is in the past for a reason!!!!
“@mikki AKA AnitraClark AKA (a different name every day)”
lol I just saw that
Did she just call me ma’am?
*blank stare*
Nicki ok I bow out! shat lol
@J. McFly (MrSwagger.com)
“I believe in most cases women mature earlier than men, but mainly because women are looking for something that most young men are not, Love.”
IDK. I think men mature emotionally earlier than women in most cases.
@Mikki
that’s cool. own that feeling. I won’t respond to your ???’s
@Humble
“Why is it that some people can’t walk away from people they had relationships with.”
I’m guily of this. I stay friends. I think in the back of some folks minds they are waiting for an opp to get back together – maybe the sh!t wasn’t as messed up as we thought it was.
*sings:
pick up the pieces
pick up the pieces*
@Mik: That’s a little thing me and my girls started on our last trip to Miami… It’s a comedic goofy thing…
If we saw someone doing something totally out of order, we’d go “Ma’am, Ma’am… I’m gonna need you to throw some clothes back on,” or something like that. LOL
@nickisunshine
“ME too Humble.
I don’t get it. Maybe some people have something in their DNA that causes them to have a permanent bond to every man/woman they were with.
This is a test
“Now alot of times the male makes final confirmation but it is the women that puts out the agenda. Which is a position of strength. I believe in most cases women mature earlier than men, but mainly because women are looking for something that most young men are not, Love. So men do things until that time in their life hits them, which varies”
Welcome J and all your McFly peeps..if i may hit dat @zz wit a wet blanket.
Your statement reaks of men who aren’t sure or who don’t know how to lead. And did you just say the BLACK DIASPORA???? thats a lot of dam#n black people in the world. I say that what made women lead was the necessity in having too. I blame some of the white yaya’s (who later got married in the 90s) leaving a lot of black women with a revolution that had other agendas and didn’t belong to them.
the only thing Black women got from that was free love. I think most of us learned by being bi-products of some of this craziness that NOTHING IS FREE.
brb.
“IDK. I think men mature emotionally earlier than women in most cases”
I think the opposite!
Cuzzo, never bring that song out again… you are on quiet punishment for twenty seconds.
“I think in the back of some folks minds they are waiting for an opp to get back together – maybe the sh!t wasn’t as messed up as we thought it was. ”
I think this is why people do it too… but you know my school of thought (I know T is gonna disagree) but if it’s meant to be, it’ll be.
my spelling is bad sorry..Cuzzo cute pic. Mik cute pic too…what you in a singing group in the D now..Diana Ross look out.
And see that’s the problem that I’m having now… Me and my ex were pretty much together for about 6 years… We went our seperate ways but yet I still care about this man. Not to the point I want to be with him but genuinely concerned about his well being. I can’t just cut somebody off who I used to care a great deal about…. So I emailed him a few weeks ago to see how everything was going and initially he was tryin’ to get me to come visit him… But then he comes clean and says that he’s engaged and has a baby on the way… I knew he was in a relationship but I didn’t know how serious it was…… But now since I know that he’s engaged I told him that he can’t call me anymore… But does that stop him. No. I told him that we should probably just stick to being email buddies every now and then……. And he even goes as far to say he wish that he could invite me to the baby shower and my response was shut the hell up…… But I’m curious to see how this is gonna go because in no way would I ever intentionally disrespect his fiance but it’s still kind of like I still do genuinely care for this man because we were sooo close and I do enjoy talking to him. But am I wrong for answering the phone or still responding to his emails when I’m not the one who’s out of order?
Hey T!
Hey Cuzzo .. pretty picture!
jac
as a leader, a man should know your strengths, and make sure you have the right details taken care of. But if you aren’t sure, take care of what you know is right. If you’re getting stressed out over any detail, it’s probably too small.
Did I answer your question?
“Maybe some people have something in their DNA that causes them to have a permanent bond to every man/woman they were with.”
Or they don’t want to be the bad guy and walk away… so they use eachother as a crutch for a while… Good video about that.
http://video.google.com/videosearch?hl=en&q=gnales+barkely+video&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=X&oi=video_result_group&resnum=4&ct=title#
Wow Comeback you sound a little anger in this post. I agree with this point. It’s like you said, you have to know your worth. If you don’t then a man can run circles around you. This doesn’t happen to me in most cases cause if you aren’t my man then I can do as I please and you can too. Although I did have that one guy this summer who sex was so good it had me tripping for about 3 weeks…lol.
I do have a few close friends who allow men who they won’t have a committed relationship with dictate their relationship, while he is off doing his thing. So it’s up to the women to get their mind together and set her own rules.
Comeback you saw my picture?
testing testing 1,2,3
its the same darn one
“But am I wrong for answering the phone or still responding to his emails when I’m not the one who’s out of order”
Yes 80’s.. sadly enough, people are only going to do what we allow them to… Because you keep answering and something is pulling him to you, he’s going to keep calling… fact is, he’s engaged now. He has to move on. Since he’s not strong enough, you have to cut the string.
@Nicki
“never bring that song out again…”
c’mon now. That’s classic hustle man…kazoo on the saxaphone and all
Hey Tea
Hey Jolie
thanks
thanks Comeback
I meant to tell you ure drawing is fly…
…btw i am getting NO work done folks, lol.
Well I guess that’s what I’m gonna have to do even though it means I’m going to miss the friendship… So does this mean… That it’s not good to be friends first? Because if it doesn’t work out then the friendship that was built initially has to end….
Can you tell I’m confused?????
“c’mon now. That’s classic hustle man…kazoo on the saxaphone and all”
HAAAAA, NO. J/k
I was bopping Michael McDonald last week so I can’t even hate on the oldies.
“…btw i am getting NO work done folks, lol.”
Tell me about it, between the tree house and me and jac’s blog, I’m occupied.
@Cuzzo
“I think in the back of some folks minds they are waiting for an opp to get back together – maybe the sh!t wasn’t as messed up as we thought it was. ”
I think you should have realized it wasn’t messed up as you thought it was when you were with them. Or shortly after you stop dealing with them. I’ll give that to you when you are young but when you are an older man/woman and have kids you should see that. I’ve seen women trying to get back with good dudes after they put them through hell.
@nickisunshine
“I think the opposite!”
Please explain.
lol 80’s
welcome to the confused club I think we the only 2 folks in it.
@80’s
“But am I wrong for answering the phone or still responding to his emails when I’m not the one who’s out of order?”
I don’t think you are wrong – just keep a distance. Are ya’ll talking about the old days and whatnot? I can understand keeping in touch as long as your intentions are not malicious (as some women’s are).
“That it’s not good to be friends first? Because if it doesn’t work out then the friendship that was built initially has to end….”
@80’s: No, being friends is perfect. But people are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime… He just wasn’t meant for a lifetime. Just take what you learned from him and use it for your king.
Thank you Whyso…
Why did I just get a little sad?
ahhh…
@ 80’s Baby: I am in a similar situation. My ex of 6yrs is still my best friend and we still talk. But if he gets engaged to the chick he is with now and have a baby on the way, I would have to stop talking to him. In some way you still have feelings for your ex… I think. But I just think you will end really hurt if you continue to talk to him now that is in another relationship that is so serious.
The fact that he continues to talk to you despite his situation makes me wonder.
Cuzzo, I don’t mind if you answer my questions I value everyone’s opinion here but I mean I’m making a joke about myself and you slap me with my own joke.
Thats like a fat person saying damn im fat, and u be like YOU SHOOOO IS!
u not suppose to co-sign…
yaya’s new law
comeback can you sign this please
@Humble:
“@nickisunshine
“I think the opposite!”
Please explain.”
I think men are more equipped to push emotions to the back of their minds, which causes them not to have to deal with any of it… Break up? Stay longer at work or find a new woman. Men seem to focus on only one thing at a time.
With women, or most (I tend to keep a stone face) emotions are involved in every decision, from picking drapes to your relationships.
@ Cuzzo… We’re not even talking about the old days…. It’s more so how are jobs are going and where we plan to be career wise and financially wise in the next few years….. We give updates on our families…. To me they seem like their genuine conversations/emails….
“Thats like a fat person saying damn im fat, and u be like YOU SHOOOO IS!
u not suppose to co-sign…
yaya’s new law”
DAAANG Mik, you soft. LOL
lmao Nicki I know I know, so validate me!!
@ Ms Dev “Wow Comeback you sound a little anger in this post”
No its called passion. I write with it. I think with it. And sometimes i happen on other people’s blogs and it just leaves me wondering.
A man has a right to do ANYTHING he wants i totally agree. But don’t sell me a fuycked up and technically wrong ratio so that I can excuse your piss poor behavior and long after your stupid @zz.
*stomps feet walking away tossing up chairs from the cool kids table*
this some bull shat!
j/k
“comeback can you sign this please
”
NEW YAYA LAW…no one can slap anybody wit their own SHYT.
@Mikki
“Thats like a fat person saying damn im fat, and u be like YOU SHOOOO IS!
u not suppose to co-sign…”
sigh…we’re not friends/family so ure not comfortable with me…that’s what it boils down to. u know how ppl say i can talk about my best friends big forehead cuz that’s my best friend – but other ppl can’t. (since we live for examples around here) if I make a joke about having a gap in my teeth and my brother goes “it’s good!”, i’d say shaddup and laugh it off – but, that’s my bro – it’s a zing!
Hugging Mik cause she’s soft and pink today..
***drafts new documents***
1zb32343.br1…if you are feelings somekind of way about your dam@n self and say it. It cannot NEVER be used against you in the tree house.
now if we all get together one day at a happy hour. We can bring up issues as long as everybody’s @zz is drunk and has a designated driver to take them home.
@Comeback
“NEW YAYA LAW…no one can slap anybody wit their own SHYT.”
aww d@mn. I like zingers!
@Cuzzo: Me and my friends laugh at eachother all the time… especially when this lady told me, “your teeth are so big and white?”
***Blank stare **** (workcite:Mik)
mucho sensitivo
*being a good yaya…today*
@Nicki
“your teeth are so big and white”
lol…and u said: um, ok. thanks? i think. or i use this product called crest – u should try it. ah-may- ZING!
““your teeth are so big and white”
lol…and u said: um, ok. thanks? i think. or i use this product called crest – u should try it. ah-may- ZING!”
LOL.. I always have to tell people everything i use is whitening… strips, gum, toothpaste, mouthwash.
ANd yes girl, I had to do a thanks with a ? She was stunned and apologized. RETARDS
@ 80s and Ms. Dev..why do you need to be BEST friends with an ex. I mean i dont mind getting calls or whatever, merry christmas, how’s your mom stuff like that ..but BEST FRIENDS??
boundaries galore…i know a few men who would have problems being with women with best friend ex’s.
Does anybody need a roommate?
@Nicki
how can you take all that?
the strips make my gums/teeth sensitive
@Cuzzo: “how can you take all that?
the strips make my gums/teeth sensitive”
Girl, I don’t know.. BUT certain toothpaste KILLS my teeth.. like that Crest Prohealth. I’m hoping all that is not going to chip off my enamel and leave me with gums at 50.
I am obsessed with good teeth… probably b/c they are so big??? LOL. I dunno.
yall can slap me with my own shyt
@80’s
like Comeback just said “boundaries galore”. I don’t see anything wrong with the every now and again contact – just don’t invite each other into ure lives/space – like baby showers, etc.
Humble you would
Don’t listen to Mr. Smartass….because if we do, he will slap us back.
@Mik: “Does anybody need a roommate?”
You’d jump off the Ohio Bridge living here.
@Humble
“yall can slap me with my own shyt
for real for real….IT’S like that. HEEEYYYYYY.
“yall can slap me with my own shyt?”
I was thinking like… wow, ANACONDA????
Disregard me folks.
@Jac
“he will slap us back.”
…and this is a problem? heeeeyyyyyyy
@Nicki
“Disregard me folks.”
we on the same page. heeeeeyyyyy…how u doin’?
(aight no more hey’s)
@Cuzzo: “…and this is a problem? heeeeyyyyyyy”
HAAAA.. I think we are the only dirty ones who got this
Me and Cuzzo keep posting the same things and the same time….
GREAT minds I tell ya.
Cuzzo, so you and comeback are saying like in the movie love n basketball she shouldn’t have been invited to the wedding huh…..
@ Comeback
I was always the friend who never really opened up and kept everything inside. Until I met him. So I know that was the reason that he was in my life because he helped open me up instead of keeping it all inside. But with him we talked about everything. And when we started gettin’ to know each other I was virgin and it took some years before I even decided to have sex with him.. So we would spend our time together talkin’ and openin up….So that’s how we even became intertwined in this good friends fuzzy area that we’re in now.
Wellll…strong black man with nice hands, slapping….ooooh shit!
LOL, LOL, LOL
@Cuzzo
“for real for real….IT’S like that. HEEEYYYYYY.”
I see your picture. Don’t start nothing you don’t plan on finishing.
@nickisunshine
“I was thinking like… wow, ANACONDA???? ”
Same to you. Celibacy is getting to you huh?
I don’t remember the scene, but ha-yull to the naw. think about Why did I get married…jill scott’s man had his “friend” all up in her face…
o_0 mmmhmmmm
Mikki: No because right after that you see whose married to who
^^ that was for Mikki
LMFAO @ the people here!
“Same to you. Celibacy is getting to you huh?”
It is…. two nights in a row, I’ve dreamed about sex and they were with people in my past. Both times I’ve woken up THANKFUL that it was just a dream and my legs are still locked, but still..
Comeback I think I went to Spam
lmao cuzzo NOT that kinda friend lol.
It wasn’t love n basketball it was brownsugar
mik was the only one that went…i think its that picture lookin like a cute harriet tubman goes to washington
Mik, STOP mixing people up
And no, she should not have been invited b/c there was something “there” For the two of them.
and im in moderation
“mik was the only one that went…i think its that picture lookin like a cute harriet tubman goes to washington”
Oh crap! LOL. It just took a minute for mine to post, that’s all.. maybe cause I used to S word….
@Mikki
and I mean o_O mmmm hmmmm
my eyes didn’t look skewed enuf b4.
@Humble
“I see your picture. Don’t start nothing you don’t plan on finishing.”
u see my picture – soooo. u gonna come to philly and hunt me down mister? I start, finish then rewind mr. selecta, cha!
I don’t think ya ready for this jelly…
“mik was the only one that went…i think its that picture lookin like a cute harriet tubman goes to washington”
lmao comeback Its not showing up and im mad about it, i likes that picture, how come u the only one that can see that
I see your pic Mik!
@Comeback
“cute harriet tubman goes to washington”
lol…wtf? who says that….
i like the pic its CUTE…its black and white and you do look like Shirley Chisholm bout to draft some legislation
I like ur pic.
@Comeback
“Shirley Chisholm bout to draft some legislation”
lol….c’mon now…n u wanna be callin me old for works citin’ ray charles.
““Shirley Chisholm bout to draft some legislation”
lol….c’mon now…n u wanna be callin me old for works citin’ ray charles.”
Both of you got some old abouts ya. LOL
ok what about now
“lol….c’mon now…n u wanna be callin me old for works citin’ ray charles.”
i know im wrong. i tease you because i know Im a walking senior citizen in a 33 year old body.
“Im a walking senior citizen in a 33 year old body.”
I know I am with my never going out/babysitting people’s kids on the weekend behind.
@nickisunshine
“It is…. two nights in a row, I’ve dreamed about sex and they were with people in my past. Both times I’ve woken up THANKFUL that it was just a dream and my legs are still locked, but still..”
I feel you. Thats ironic because the same thing has been happening to me
@Cuzzo
“u see my picture – soooo. u gonna come to philly and hunt me down mister? I start, finish then rewind mr. selecta, cha!
I don’t think ya ready for this jelly…”
You aren’t ready for me to come to philly. You start, finish, and rewind? If you say so.
whew there is my picture!
Nicki its ok I will come hang with you, we can be like blossom and six
“I feel you. Thats ironic because the same thing has been happening to me”
Seriously? That is weird!
“Nicki its ok I will come hang with you, we can be like blossom and six”
LOL.. the drunker, OLDER version.
“You aren’t ready for me to come to philly. You start, finish, and rewind? If you say so”
o_O ummmmhmmm
@ cuzzo
lmao
lmao Nicki not when six was an alki lol
ROTFLMAO
@Comeback
I’m with you. I remember one time you said you can’t wait til you get older so u can start telling ppl what’s really on ya mind – me too.
“lmao Nicki not when six was an alki lol”
HA… And I’m so sincere Mik…
Speaking of old… granny over here needs siestas on the job.
“@Comeback
I’m with you. I remember one time you said you can’t wait til you get older so u can start telling ppl what’s really on ya mind – me too.
”
GIRRRRRRRRRRRRRLLLL..this will be a sight to see. im already honest. I can’t imagine. but I will say i am tactful in public. I just beat yall up on the internet.
How is it you all are posting pics. I couldn’t even get a wordpress account.
@Humble: We’re doing it on wordpress? Why come they wouldn’t let you get an account?
Humble y not its free
ok you guys i gotta do some work now. Be back in a few.
Everybody go to this site and check to see if yall have missing money, i did and they sent me 1,500
http://www.unclaimed.org/
Comeback, I can’t wait for you to turn 4o! and for me to turn 30 so I can be like you!
@Comeback & Cuzzo
“I’m with you. I remember one time you said you can’t wait til you get older so u can start telling ppl what’s really on ya mind – me too.
”
GIRRRRRRRRRRRRRLLLL..this will be a sight to see. im already honest. I can’t imagine. but I will say i am tactful in public. I just beat yall up on the internet.”
You are still too young. Once you become a senior citizen you can tell people whats on your mind. If you notice some senior citizens never bite their tongue.
@Humble
“You start, finish, and rewind? If you say so.”
I said so and I guess you just told me to STFU, huh?
Mikki is that you or were you hacked?
Cuzzo: now don’t you go pulling a mikki on us?
was that slapping you with your own shit?
*blank stare*
“Mikki is that you or were you hacked?”
20 SECOND PUNISHMENT!
@Humble
“Once you become a senior citizen you can tell people whats on your mind. ”
that’s the age I’m talking about – the age where it’s OK to go outside in ure nightgown and slippers.
lmao Jac that was me it looked like a hacking I know. But im so serious I got a check in the mail from an old insurance policy my great grandma hand on me, apparently when i cashed out the account they forgot to send me the interest on it and since i moved they sent the check to the government.
I just got it back yesterday 1,500 from like 8 years ago, i thought it was a scam but its not.
“that’s the age I’m talking about – the age where it’s OK to go outside in ure nightgown and slippers.
”
Heck yeah and die your hair purple or midnight blue if ya wanna…
@Jac
“was that slapping you with your own shit?”
not quite. he coulda responded with u do all that but where’s ya man at?
@Cuzzo
“I said so and I guess you just told me to STFU, huh?”
LOL. No I didn’t. I like talking shyt. Especially with someone good at it. So keep going.
“that’s the age I’m talking about – the age where it’s OK to go outside in ure nightgown and slippers.”
Are you going to yell at kids telling them to get off your lawn?
Cuzzo-You been hittin that sauce already?
“Heck yeah and die your hair purple or midnight blue if ya wanna…”
LOL.. Kid you not. My Spanish “substitute” (end up being permanant) teacher had to be at least 72, she had thinning white hair and wore ORANGE lip liner around her lips.. it used to eck me out.
Yep, I’m in moderation. What I do??? LOL
@Jac you mean the mumbo sauce?
Mik, what the hell is that pic? LOL
Mikki-No, not that. Cuzzo’s not in DC
Humble-hehe…sounds like my grandma
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Nicki thats my sexy look what do you think?
Hoooottt Like white fiyah!
my sentiments exactly!
Morning(afternoon) everyone.
Jumped on the changing avator bandwagon.
Hey QB
Hey QB!!
Ok … so I was gonna comment early this morning and go to the mattresses about the topic … but …
Hasani just talked about “the ratio out there is too good for all that” … and it just … clicked.
The only thing I would say is can you discern us good ones (Humble, Why So, No More, myself) from the … others … lol.
K … back to work … I know I prolly interrupted whatever the current topic was … my bad.
Hey Q
Tree housers can everyone say hi to Ejam he is my music librarian from the Netherlands and has hip’d me to tons of international stuff.
he also rolls with the LALAH.
please extend a warm welcome to E.
Hey E!!!!!
Everybody has a nickname round here. Too lazy to type.
SBM just confused me…. were you answering my question about what you’d like us to shout to all the women or what?
heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy Ejam!
HI E!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“The only thing I would say is can you discern us good ones (Humble, Why So, No More, myself) from the … others … lol.”
Most days i don’t think YOU belong in that catagory..but whatever..i guess we all need to dream. **im sorry i gotta be real about it**
i would be even realer..but i think it would be a little too much. im about to smooth out my day with a little jazz.
Hello Ejam! Welcome to the treehouse…
And I am so glad that I am not the only female left that wants her husband to be the head of the household… I dont know that i agree that the traditional roles of who earns the (most)money really matter but when I do get ready to settle down and get married I want to marry a man who wants to take care of his household and has the same thought-frame as myself with regards to (gender)roles in the home.
@Comeback: Uh … thanks? Love you too …
@Nicki: What question?
Hola E. Bienvenidos.
hey Q.
@SBM: Earlier… I was talking about the girls on here were what I think it was No More or Whyso was talking about…
And Jac said something about was it something that men on here would want us to shout out to the women in the world….
And I asked what say you to the men…
But no one answered
And now that I have confused you.
yeah… i can definitely feel this…
i think the worst is when ur in your marriage and he can’t take the lead…ugh
What up Ejam.
Hi Ladebelle..
“when ur in your marriage and he can’t take the lead”
i agree. For some men its just NOT in them. HNIC summed it best. He had a reversed domestic situation. And women need to know that fully going in. Don’t pretend to be Paul Bunion and your @zz is just Famous Amos and you just wanna bake cookies all day. Know your role and know your partner.
Hi Ejam….
Nicki, what?
Huh… I called you Jac… I was trying to recap the conversation earlier
SCREW IT. LOL.
Most days i don’t think YOU belong in that catagory..but whatever..i guess we all need to dream. **im sorry i gotta be real about it**
i would be even realer..but i think it would be a little too much. im about to smooth out my day with a little jazz.
hehehe hahahah hehehe made my day.. (Skips away)
Oh yes, the men would want us to shout out how to act right. Like they do.
Okkkkaaayyyyy everyone… lunch is over… back to work…
(..self censored.) and deleted the rest.
comeback…uncensor and write it back
Maybe I’ll “write it out” nicely in a post tomorrow.
“What Makes A Good Man Good.”
Praise God, I’ve been waiting on this one for a straight up a minute, can we get a he said/she said…what makes a good woman good?
Just curious?
““What Makes A Good Man Good.”
GREAT POST IDEA
“can we get a he said/she said…what makes a good woman good? ”
She’s strong… she is respectful, she doesn’t need you.
But she does not make you feel like she does not need you (in a bad way.)
Good one, Starsign. She’s Miss Independent…
*blank stare* works cite…aww fuk it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrMVTqGiVRQ
I’m back from lunch…I really don’t feel like working today.
@Humble
“So keep going.”
you didn’t give me anything to go off of…
and yes…I will yell at kids – tell them to turn down their music, pull their pants up, stop cussing, act like young ladies and gentlemen and what not. not gonna dye my hair blue – I’m still gonna be fab at 60+ i just adore those grannies that look like they still got it
*being moderated*
Cuzzo-Welcome back from lunch…now I’ll have someone to stick a foot in my ass.
@jac
Why you need a foot up there? what did u do now?
I ain’t do nothing. That’s the problem I have not done a damned thing. Argh I hate myself and my lazy ass.
Jac I WILL break your neck. GET UP.. have you been working out?
Ed Hartwell is fine as all hell.
Thank you.
Nicki-I been going up and down the stairs @ work and starving myself.
Fantastic Jac… well not the starving yourself part
Ciao guys.. gotta run for the boss
CUZZO your not in moderation.
not anymore…
@Jac
who’s Ed Hartwell?
Lisa Hartwell from ATL Housewives-the one in the Speedo
Cuzzo have you not been watching Real Housewives of Atlanta?
He is one of the wives husband and an NFL player.
oh yea…I didn’t know his name.
and mmmmhmmmm. the face is ok, not like drop dead gorgeous but it’s the total package that he presents. i’d sop that up with a biscuit.
it’s not ya booty it’s ya beauty
@Comeback
“I honestly feel as though it goes back to women not knowing their worth. ”
This is why I am so stupid and this is why I love your knowledge
(see comment on SSSO)
*this was a real moment brought to you by cuzzo*
I know Im late but I’m just now getting back from class and finally made it to work.
@ Comeback:@ 80s and Ms. Dev..why do you need to be BEST friends with an ex. I mean i dont mind getting calls or whatever, merry christmas, how’s your mom stuff like that ..but BEST FRIENDS??
We have been friends since I was 13yrs. Although I relationship ended our friendship is still solid. We didn’t talk for almost a year after we broke up. But we were able to regain our friendship after we got over those emotions. Most guys don’t really know this fact about me. I don’t usually tell them. The guy I really liked I told him about it. I’m sure he feels some type of way about it. But if we get in a serious relationship then I will deal with it then. Other than that me and my ex are still good friends.
““What Makes A Good Man Good.”
Instructions:
1) Be born on November 4, 19xx
2) Be an optimistic/silly/strong {insert qualities here}
3) Be why so serious
***end thread***
sorry. I’m had to take an opportunity to be silly.
What Makes A Good Man Good…this is relative. I think there are a millions answers to this because its a personal preference.
“What Makes A Good Man Good…this is relative. I think there are a millions answers to this because its a personal preference”
on a basic level…i honestly hope not. although why is being funny on item 1..2 and 3 should be somewhere in there. I would hope most women would want an optimistic man. That delves into a million other attributes. I honestly think there should be a little uniformity to most people’s list. Esp. if you are attracting a GOD fearing one.
@Comeback: on a basic level…i honestly hope not..explain why you say this.
I was editing my resp. i think most of the previous explains. above your’s. i hate to get a religious up and through but even the bible talks about being positive. The use of language. I’ve seen people’s lives become better or worse based on thought, perception and action based on the previous. A “practical” and negative man can leave a family drowning down a river in a sea of dismay.
I hope not either Comeback. I really feel that there are some good basic intrinsic characteristics that are deciding factors on whether a man is good or not.
Why so…you were born on Election Day! For 08 at least! Man, when are you gonna get that blog? I always wanna pick your brain and I can’t. Yep-you and Comeback…always droppin mad knowledge on our @zzes.
“I think there are a millions answers to this because its a personal preference”
“on a basic level…i honestly hope not”
I am mikki aka anitraclark and every other person that humble thinks I am and I approve this message.
Ms Dev, I think the basics of what a good man is, should be universal and NOT different for every person.
I think woman as a whole want the same things, the DIFFERENCE is what we want and what we actually accept.
One of my friends thinks its ok to shack up and not be married, and I don’t. Does she WANT to be married?? She used to want to until someone told her it wasn’t a big deal
and now she walks around saying whats the big deal…….
If you compromised something you wanted in order to make something work, thats ok just be real about it, dont try to justify it.
I agree Jac and Mik..
@ Mik..what happened to the cute harriett tubman goes to washington with glasses on pic. that was so cute and retro.
I’m up for the Male and Female two sides of the coin type of post. What makes a good woman good and what makes a good man good.
And I’ll promise I’ll leave deep throating off the list.
A good man is truly hard to find and I think it is even back to Genesis we women are looking for the few the proud and the brave.
@ Comeback: That’s fair, I get your point. I agree there are just some basic general attributes that most people want.
I think we saw the uniformity you speak of in the post you did about” Santa is going to bring me a man”
Once everyone complete their list, it covered pretty much what we all wanted in a mate. I guess the questions are very similar.
I wonder why everyone is so focus on a man/woman. I would like to pose this question… If the man/woman you wanted came into your life today, are you ready for a committed relationship? Have you handle your baggage and issues to be able to have a healthy relationship?
Please do not let sbm contribute to any type of list
I beg of you
@ Ms. Dev
I don’t think you come all the way ready. I think you get close to it. I also don’t think i would want to completely settle down tomorrow. Another lie men try to tell women in their early to mid 30s is that they are running out of time. I never felt like this. Certainly i dont have 20 years. but i refuse to let my biological clock dictate shyt to me. REFUSE.
so i wait and get my shyt straight. And yeah lists are lists. Mine was very detailed because i get into details as a writer. But generally i was asking for the universals: Good positive thought, clean plate, healthy ties to family, his own man, a leader…
most if not all this things are biblical.
@Jac: A good man is truly hard to find…I really don’t believe this statement. I think there are PLENTY of good men out there.
You aren’t suppose to look for the good man, he is suppose to find you.
“I’m up for the Male and Female two sides of the coin type of post. What makes a good woman good and what makes a good man good.
And I’ll promise I’ll leave deep throating off the list
”
well for starters lets just link into one another tomorrow. I’m a little leary about your dam#n list.
“You aren’t suppose to look for the good man, he is suppose to find you.
”
i agree with this. Actually i believe there should be some hand of God in it. Divinely ordained. The Jewish people call it Bashert. Foreordained by God.
@ Comeback: Another lie men try to tell women in their early to mid 30s is that they are running out of time… You say men tell women this and men tell women that. I guess I don’t believe a lot of shit people say so it doesn’t affect me.
Well if you want the general things, then I agree it would be pretty universal. Especially from what I saw from the Santa post you did. Why does this need to be revisited again then?
I’m not concerned about a good man coming into my life. I have trusted God through the hell and the good times of my life. He knows my heart and what his will is for me. So until he brings the man to me I just keep it moving. I really get tired of women talking about men this and men that. Get yourself together, trust the Lord to provide your needs, know what you will and will not tolerate, and keep it moving. It’s really that simple.
@Mikki: You know I don’t do lists … more like an essay describing high level guidelines …
“Why does this need to be revisited again then?”
prolly cause its my dam#n blog LOL and it does tie in to a portion of this post. As well as bring up interesting arguments about what attributes in a man are universal. all of that will be explored.
ms. devereaux
So it happens from the inside out? Hmmm. Welp. Everything I thought was right has been flipped upside down lol. Can I borrow like 9 or 10 years from your life?
I wouldn’t be ready if mrs. perfect came in my life. Then again, are we ever fully ready for anything? (i wonder how our next president, Mr. Barack Obama feels right now) I think more important than the actual ability is the foresight to recognize the potential of the situation and step into the challenge. There comes a time where we have to step up, and man/woman up.
which means i really gotta get crackin on my blog….lol
***gets crackin***
“Get yourself together, trust the Lord to provide your needs”
yeah but faith without ACTIVE works is dead. you cant wait on the Lord for a man and you co-sign and participate in the very behavior that would drive a good one away. Im not trying to be overly personal and come at you…but having an ex as a BEST FRIEND is a problem (past issues or not).
Sometimes men can smell stuff like this a mile away, sending the man that God sent to exit stage left. God is great..but he also gives us choices.
Comeback to some degree I don’t think a good man is supposed to be searched out he is supposed to find you, but seriously how can he find out when you’re somewhere tripping out and doing all kinds of ish…
Beyond that I think a lot of women are out there searching for a good man, but they don’t ever realize that they need to fix things within their own selves and hearts for this man to uncover you as his diamond.
and i think i type really slow cause comeback already said, more concisely, what i just said lololol
d’oh
“If the man/woman you wanted came into your life today, are you ready for a committed relationship? Have you handle your baggage and issues to be able to have a healthy relationship?”
Ms. Devereaux, good questions. The answer to both is yes; however I’m sure we’ve all come across good men, but for whatever reason he wasn’t the right one for us or vice versa.
@ comeback
“yeah but faith without ACTIVE works is dead. you cant wait on the Lord for a man and you co-sign and participate in the very behavior that would drive a good one away.”
I agree with you completely….
Preach on, I had a conversation last night with a very intelligent man who told me that the best relationship he’d had was when he was 19 and he’s taken 10 years to realize she was the one and he just wasn’t ready yet…
I feel the same way about one I had my senior year as well…and hell, I’m looking for him with a flashlight now.
Recently my bestfriend (who is a guy) has been telling to let go of my pseudo-ex because this new guy (who I think is a good man) I like can sense that I got other ish going on… His prediction is if I let go of teh pseudo then things can possibly fall like they are suppose to with the newbie…
@ Comeback:but having an ex as a BEST FRIEND is a problem (past issues or not)…I was waiting for you to bring that up again.
Men can smell certain things out. This is true. The men I have dealt with sense my ex haven’t been anyone I would date. I really like the guy back home, which is why I was honest with about it and prepared for how he might have felt towards it. Now could this slow up his pursuit towards me, well yes it can. But there is also some history there between us. Other than him no other guy has known about it. I don’t speak about it, because I didn’t care how they felt, because it wasn’t that serious to me.
God definitely gives us choices, and I am very clear on the choices I make. What would make a man think I am still talking to my ex if I never mention him? God hasn’t sent the right man yet.
What is your issue with me talking to my ex?
Honestly I feel like too much thought is put into things on this blog at times. I don’t think I’ve every put THIS much thought into any given relationship.
Some would say that’s the problem and it’s why I’m single…of course I would disagree. I don’t know, it just shouldn’t this hard or deep. It is what it is…you should be going with the flow anyways, free-falling and letting your guard down, and throwing away all these damn lists and expectations is the only way to really have a healthy relationships.
Just go with it.
@ Why so: I think more important than the actual ability is the foresight to recognize the potential of the situation and step into the challenge. There comes a time where we have to step up, and man/woman up… I completely agree.
I aint lookin’. I am proactively making myself more viable and I know that he will eventually find me when I am ready
FIN
@ Why so: think more important than the actual ability is the foresight to recognize the potential of the situation and step into the challenge. There comes a time where we have to step up, and man/woman up… I completely agree!
How about we all just live life…I mean really live…travel, see the world, learn a new language and just not worry about “him” anymore.
It’s amazing the energy you draw towards yourself when you’re really happy with life and not concerned about the things you have very little control over.
I’m starting my journey first thing in the morning.
off the subject, but what does it mean to be moderated?
“What is your issue with me talking to my ex?
”
LOL..Ms Dev, im sitting over here just off of a call..hadnt had lunch..hungry as hell. The only issue i have right now is eating ….
anyway though for me. And this is just my pesonal opinion. Take or leave it. this the ex thing is a problem. I think its fine to nice to him. Even take his calls every now and again. but BEST FRIENDS. He’s probably sharing things with you that he should be sharing with his GF/wife. Maybe i could kinda see the connection if you didn’t share a romantic past. Maybe if he was your next door neighbor since like birth. You were practically raised together etc. etc.
but i personally feel like to many lines are being crossed. Just think if you were the GF. Wouldn’t you be pissed? how do you step in and love somebody and be a girlfriend with someone whose shared a past. Ms. Dev you can share a past with your man..it just takes time…karmically i would feel a certain way about it. He’s plate aint clean. You running around still with feelings for him. And the GF perceives the door being cracked with your foot in it.
shoe on the other foot. I wouldn’t want that.
i guess since he really needs to be your best friend. I would be really trying to make the GF feel good about the relationship. I would include her in everything. Call her maybe to just speak to her. Invite them over (but YOU need a man for this to really work)…the later part of this still doesn’t feel right to me. but if you insist..she needs to feel comfortable because YOUR own future karmic stuff is tied to some of this.
my opinion. im hungry and im out. lol
@ Teacia “ok, so am i moderated…sometimes my comments show up and other times they don’t.
”
yeah moderation got a 3rd eye and its catchin things that aren’t healthy for this site, ie “Tiara” created just to start problems on other sites..and then comeback here and dump. Smart aint it.
@ Holly: Im not moderating others on purpose. When it occurs its because of some default link rule etc or it goes to spam for whatever reason. And I “un-mod or unspam the comment”. people are free to say and think what they want. Tell me to go to hell whatever.
My thing is that you don’t have to be “Tiara” to do this. coupled with the high highs and the low lows…it just isn’t what i want this place to be. So until this person can steady her mindframe…HER COMMENTS (only) will get mod’ed when i deem some of the above occurs.
@ Comeback: Thanks, but I will leave it. I have to remember you don’t know any details about this situation and you are stating your opinion on the general things I have said.
Why did Teacia last comment just get deleted?
***From CBG..please read my comments to Holly. Three of Teacia’s comments are in moderation***
Ok, so I know I zone a lot BUT I don’t understand comments are going into moderation.
@ Jac please read my reply to Holly. Im not doing last friday over again. NO ONE but the person in question is in moderation. There are times when people’s comments go to spam and i immediately remove.
her’s will stay when i feel as if she is coming off of an assumed name on another site and only here to reck shop.
I don’t fully understand…I don’t really think anybody wants to wreck shop over here…I simply think some people disagree with some general premises. It happens, but again this is just my interpretation of the situation….
Where’s whyso with the W on his chest when you really need him?
“Where’s whyso with the W on his chest when you really need him?
”
If he can shine some “w” light on the situation..I’ll gladly hear it. I dont appreciate what happened over at SBM’s house and then here last Friday. She can certainly say whatever she wants…but all disagreement does not come from a healthy place. And she is not banned. Some of what i think is not healthy is being “cooled off”.
@ comeback: I saw a lot of people asking about the moderator so I was confused. A month or two new to the blog world!!!
Let me be sure that I can completely understanding by revisiting (again) SBM.net and simply re-evaluating here…
Man, it’s so weird how one can be present yet not present all at once…
*blank twilight zone stare*
Wow … comments getting moderated.
Wasn’t I blasted for the same actions and in using the exact same justifications?
Hmmmmmm
well yours SBM was laced with boundary issues…**your problems** ie said person, left and came here.
And it was MIRED in muck…ALL THE TIME. Everytime you and girlfriend had a fight..your readers got the brunt of it FROM YOU AND HER. I dont want that here. No one should be subject to random personal projection type issues… I don;t think readers deserve that.
I am at work right nah someone sing me a song or sumthan
hey Mikki! me too!
what’s up?
Mikki – check out the new video from Seal:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGjdyZUJ7Ds
Jac!!!!
girl nothing, my boss is here cuz his kid (the one who works here is sick) so im stuck here til 10:30 but he is leaving at 8 something so that should be cool. He don’t bother me or nothin im just mad im stuck here all night
Hey Shelia, i cant watch vids at this computrey its doesn’t have sound.
what you doin jac
Well Mik, I’m sitting over here @ my job looking for another job.
I am also pissed because I have to be sitting here, plus I need a drink and a massage on GP
Hey kids just checkin in… just took my Chem test… not a good look.
I’m stressed beyond belief but still trying to keep sh** sunny… sunny’s having a rainpour..
Now I have to go into Chem Lab and this stuff on paper is looking like greek..
Looks like I’ll be going home, hitting the bottle… er, BIBLE. Tonight.
Bye yaw
lol Jac don’t we all need a massage on GP
Mik-Possibly, I have a new prospect tho, I’m hoping this ish works. I need a stable man.
aww bye Nicki
lol Jac I am crossing my fingers for ya doll!
Bye Nicki, yes Mik…pray that up for me…
IS anyone catching the 30 min Obama commercial?
@Comeback: This is interesting. I felt the same way, that my private stuff being put on blast and affecting everyone else, but when I moderated or blovked individuals, but I remember you being up in arms about it and calling me a blog Nazi.
I even remember you asking for your “nemesis” being blocked, then you asking me to unblock him, then you asking for him to be blocked again.
It just strikes me as odd that your doing the same things you “chastized” me for. Aint there a word for that, rhymes with diporitical …
***FROM THE COMEBACK GIRL..SBM, your girl is NOT blocked. Her comments are in moderation. And Hasani was not first blocked at my request. And the difference… he and I have NEVER been romatically linked. When he got out of hand it had nothing to do with anything stupid, romantic and personal. I asked him unblocked ONCE because he had come on under 5 different names. Might as well let him say his peace. But again your ex is in moderation big difference. I don’t want Friday to happen again. Again its not fair to anyone to have to filter through that bullshyt. Seriously one or both of you need to talk to someone professionally. ***
lol SBM relax n have a coookie
ixnayontheargumentayattheblogitayok
how do ya like my sexy new picture over there aye?
Mikki, sorry you don’t have sound. If you got access and you’re bored…I have 3 contests going on over on my blog…the deadline is tomorrow night to enter.
Is anyone else here to discuss the Obama special?
diporitical?
Checking dictionary.com….me no find..
@ Q Im watchin it.
@ Mik what happened to your cute harriett tubman goes to washington pic
@ Shelia, I’ll check your contests out.
I changed it cuz i didnt think it was showing up
well what the he!ll is this..it looks scary.
I changed my pic today and it’s not showing
“I changed my pic today and it’s not showing
”
mine changed too on Friday for some reason. I didn’t even touch it.
lol comeback
I was wondering too, but if Mik likes it hey
Grrrr how do i make my new picture show up? I give up. oh well.
Yay see as soon as I give up it works.
i see it
i really want it to be November 5th and to wake up and be able to put on my red white and blue.
QB you ain’t nevah evah lied I can’t wait
ya’ll better know if Obama doesnt win *shudders* i am mourning for the rest of the year and may attempt a serious move to Canadia…
ya’ll better know if Obama doesnt win *shudders* i am mourning for the rest of the year and may attempt a serious move to Canadia…
has anyone seen the LL Cool J “Swagger” old spice commericals? that man is yummy i dont care how old he is.
test
test again
Humble… is that… you?
@Comeback: No need to mangle my comments. I’ve always felt that a persons words are kind of special. you can always just write another comment. Don’t worry … I’ll read it.
You and Hasani had some behind the scenes conversations that ended up splilling over into fights on my site. He was always bad, but if you wanna talk about projection he definitely channeled his anger for you towards some of the innocent women at my spot, but its water under the bridge.
I guess its just funny that all of the things I did to try and “keep the peace”, and you were oh so critical on me for … your doing now yourself.
And putting all of someones comments in moderation is blocking someone. And its not who you blocked, its the fact that your blocking people.
Diporitical …
<strong>**FROM THE COMEBACK GIRL** This is my last comment to you. I gave Hasani my number after he worried me about it on your blog and myspace. When we talked I was floored at how non-confrontational he was, after addressing me VERY disrespectfully on your blog.
The back and forth had nothing to do with that conversation that he has had with almost EVERY WOMAN on your blog. And even though Hasani worries the be-jesus out of me at times, i don;t project. And I would prefer it not happen here. If somebody has a problem with my opinioin seperate that from the disdain that you have about your own life or even the partial one you have for me on Mondays, Weds, and Fri’s…given whatever personality you might have.
@Jac: I said rhymes with.
@Comeback: So is she my girl, or my ex?
***CBG..i really don’t give a dam!n lol..***
lets all join hands and sing a happy song – this is suppose to be the tree house where we come for safety.
@QB kumbayah my lord kumbayahhhhhhh
*holding QB’s hand*
@ Q LOL…i know I have the buddah up to bless this blog. Im cool. I find it funny at someone going on and on about his ex being moderated. All i know is the post for tommorow is not going to have this confusion so id suggest he get it out now..i don’t think we need 2 who flew over the cookoo’s nest.
@Comeback: Why do you keep responding in my comments? Feel like flexing your administrative power?
Man … I need to read over my comments now. I hope you didn’t change any of my words … lol
I would hope you don’t care … but why keep calling her one and then the other in the same comment?
@QB & Mikki: Can I get in the circle too … I’m all for ulcer free peace.
No SBM you can’t. You kicked us off your blog and let some hater @ss-b!tch take over and now you come here and want to pick fights… No… not okay with me.
there I said it. I have been wanting to say it all night…
sorry comeback I know it’s not my blog but I had to get that out.
Lol … please don’t make this about the person who is currently blocked at my site also.
I don’t have time to comment like I used to so I lurk on my site and others. A few people complained about being moderated, and then you came out and said you were doing it.
I just find it … interesting … that’s all. Am I not allowed to disagree and point some things out … my bad. Only happy things from now on.
SBM please get your piss!in and moanin out..you’re sounding like a little girl. I will reach out to Teacia tomorrow. And express my expectations. Are you happy now!!
go sit down some where.
@Comeback: Gonna talk about my momma next?
@Comeback: I’M NOT HERE FOR TEACIA! WE BROKE UP BADLY AND PUBLICALLY WEEKS AGO.
Really now …
@ Q…I totally understand. I also am VERY clear on what SBM’s beef is and it has nothing to do with my “hyprocracy”, blockin his ex, etc…etc…
the tides turn..and remember when i told him to be careful of the language “too many commments” etc…you know what happens to words?
will somebody entertain SBM, while i finish this post. Mik? Q? Hummy? Somebody?
sorry i cant
babysitentertain i am going to go have some al-chy-hol for a change. i need to relax after the two days i have had…@Comeback: That’s what you think? Wow …
@QB: I kicked two people off … they are banned and know why. A lot went down, but overall I’m happy. Nicki and Jac finally start a blog which I am a big fan of. The creation of the “treehouse” has Comeback bloggin daily again and is 10 times better than any forum I could have made, and I personally am still waiting for Why So’s blog.
If you don’t comment on my site … really … I’m fine (you don’t shut down your comments section for a day thinking its not gonna have this affect) … but please don’t think I kicked you off.
okay i am seriously off to the bar. Lets hope I drink enough water tonight that I dont have to re-learn what a hangover is tomorrow.
Yay for bosses that dont think you are reliable
Yay for finding out someone has been telling lie after lie after lie for 6 years and really doesnt give two sh!ts about you
and Yay for blog drama… damn.
Love you Comeback.
The one day I decide to run some errands after work yall want to talk all day. Every other day the comments end before 5:00… I see I missed a lot….
” If he’s not cut out to be the head of the household, a woman should think twice before saying “I do.”
Whats the overwhelming quality that would stand out on several dates that would say this man is “HOH material”?
Also, ladies shacking up aint working for yall . Every guy I know that doest it, its her place-so he plays her while living in her place. Whats the fascination with shacking up?
I’m alone now and I love it glad I told shorty at 26 “no” , I work in film my hours are wild and I work around tons of models,video girl, actresses and the lots of the “bosses” in film are women. I cant have some 27 yr old with a degree gettin jealous. She need to shut up.
To get my film degree I worked for ten yrs in the lousiest jobs with no bennies, that means I paid out ofmy pocekt for my glasses, HIV test-teet pulled. So if she thought the way I acted in school (couldnt go out much read as: easy to control or satisfiy) was me she’s wrong. When in school I adjusted, I was working barely 40hrs on $8.50 an hours, so my life reflected that, now out I am chasing my dream. And I was treated by the ladies as some sort of charity case..course now I am a “catch”.
You think I am buggin
Check:
Some chick up here choose a Dude whose attributes were an “f-the world tat and grills” another shorty said she moved in with her BF “no pots and pans” and his bathroom was sans shower curtain.
Now I wouldnt expect the ho’est of ho’s to drop draws if that was my pad. BUT SHE MOVED IN WITH HIM…what gives ladies can a Black Man get some truth here?
Welcome Temps…i appreciate the question and maybe one of the other readers can weigh in today. but i don’t think on the weekends. More importantly the weekend starts for me on a Friday at 4:55pm EDT. And some of the hardest dam@n questions are starting to come in between that time and right into Sunday night.
let me ponder this on Monday. k? can you comeback then? ***smootches and kiss kiss***
I read this i think late Saturday night and have been contemplating…
my required HOH trait that i have really been going back to over and over since starting to contemplate is a requirement for good decision making abilities.
I dont want a man that every time i ask him something he says “whatever you want.” yeah whatever I want is great but when we are making family/house hold decisions he needs to be able to make a decision on what he thinks will be best for himself and for our household.
That’s what I have come up with so far for you Temps.. i will keep thinkin.
@ Temps
“Whats the overwhelming quality that would stand out on several dates that would say this man is “HOH material”?”
***i’m bout to tackle this..stand back***
For me its his ability to take charge, NOT BOSS ME AROUND. If on the second or third date..i come out with a list of crazy things for us to do that day…he should be able to synergize..make suggestions and logistically make it do what it do. Sometimes I get wrapped up TOO much in detail…a HOH type man (hey this sounds like a post-maybe I’ll hit this on Wednesday) should be able to navigate this and make it HAPPEN with ease.
Also again, Im looking for good vision and life goal talk too. Ive been on dates where they are SOOOO defeated by everything. This is not a good look in HOH territory.
your testimonal examples are just wack women…who are blinded by a little di!ck..in my opinion you can’t husband (ie shack up with) riff raff.
“your testimonal examples are just wack women…who are blinded by a little di!ck..in my opinion you can’t husband (ie shack up with) riff raff.”
thank you Comeback Girl!!!!
And there must be tons of women in this boat…they are the ones claiming their man said he he was going to “do this and that”… NO HE DIDNT.
She fell in love with his sex and then maybe brought him a shirt (Pygmalion effect here) and boom she thought she was in she wasnt even close….
And I will say theres a lot of this going on.
My boy stay baggin women-good looking professional degreed up ladies with boyfrineds.
They got a man yet why are they lettin son get the math and is some cases the a$$?
For me I tend to bag the shorty that just got out of something-I mean I cant say for sure they are single but these chicks my dude bags are openly stating they are in relationships. But heres my opinion on the matter.
I am not shocked. Women ARE doing what some men have done and still do. So I dont want to hear cheating or shacking up or any other dumb stuff that happens as if its exclusive to male behavior. These women are NOT the project ho’s or ditzty chicks with one too many tattoos, some go to church almost all of em got degree and the majority dont have kids…see a pattern?
With no anchor or assumed roles some women do dumb ish and stay doing sumb ish becuase they are I dont know HUMAN. So I am tired of the non sense that some of you womenly openly contribute to. Damn, like my moms said if you love him tonight -have sex then go back to your crib…it aint that serious.