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Comeback Kids I had to reach in the youtube crates for this classic. “Love Like This” with Grover Washington (RIP) and Lalah Hathaway. The lyrics are beautiful. And no one loved Lalah more than Arsenio. She appeared at least 3 times.
“… Love has never felt so warm and complete. To feel the touch… of your lips on my skin. I feel your sweet desire take me in. Baby love like this will set the night on fire. Underneath the moon we’ll make some magic. Land of dreams and she will spread her wings. Fly our hearts into the arms of passion…Love Like This.”
I’ll take one of those “set the night on fire” thingys. I had a conversation last night with some sister friends. We were making some plans for Chicago Taste and it always comes back to love. Why are we single? As we all went around declaring why, the REAL truth seemed so simple and clear. None of us knew (well maybe one kinda did) what we REALLY wanted that is. Some of us were still dating men we knew we weren’t going to get serious with, they were just in the meantime guys. The law of attraction, Comeback Kids is ALWAYS in effect, You Get What You Ask For. So I have declared I’m going to ask the universe for what I want in a man. Maybe less of what he looks like. More of what he is, what he believes in, dreams about, says and does.
(Lalah Day 6/3/08 is going to be a REAL success. I hope everyone has or is preording).
“So I have declared I’m going to ask the universe for what I want in a man. Maybe less of what he looks like. More of what he is, what he believes in, dreams about, says and does.”
Keep in mind, we are not being superficial. We still need to be physically attracted to that man in some sort of way: his swagga, disposition, smile…something. His other characteristics – what he believes, dreams, etc – will make him that more radiant when time and age takes it toll.
I need to stop dating the “in the meantime” guys and get serious.
I think dating is fun. A little meaningful and meaningless conversation; a physical & emotional illustration of what we want and don’t want in a man. It’s when we mix in a little intimacy that it get’s complicated.
Yea I need something physical!!! eye candy somethin!!
lol
so far guys, the guy from blackplanet, is a winner 1st time out!!! I think I may be on to the 4 man plan, ok stats
I think he is 28 (dont qoute me)
single, no kids, he actually lives in a nearby sub of detroit which when i sent my mass mailing it was totally random, i didnt even pay attention to locations but that one worked out.
so he just graduated from u of m with a degree in something i never heard of with a minor in political science, he says he wants to go back for a masters. anyways ladies give me tips and advice on how to proceed, i started out with a slurpee date for a first date didn’t tell him we would go out, I around about suggested and he hasnt actually asked me out yet so we shall see.
28, single, no kids, degreed! Before I say congrats…you know I have to ask: “What’s wrong with him?” Not in the words of a “hater” but a concerned sista.
You made the initial contact, which is an indifferent topic of discussion. Just enjoy the internet conversation, with the optimism that it’s truthful and maybe he will get around to asking you out for a slurpee – yall DO have 7-11s in Detroit! I’m so excited about my next visit there.
Ok I love this Love Like This….
Mikkay!!! mass mailing? WTH is going on. No more mass mailings…hopefully he has asked for your number…proceed to take this offline, in public and OUT OF 7-11. Let him puruse you, but this may be somewhat difficult cause you already chased him down with a cyber flier. Cool your jets.
lol @ neonnea girl I dunno whats wrong with him yet we shall see.
as far as the initial contact your right its a challenging discussion, I told my best friend about it and she feels like comeback about its crossing the line. I feel conflicted a little bit, but I took into account what ms dev said about just being chillin and not going into it for the purpose of dating or being in a relationship, which I believe changes the approach all together. Its going to be interesting to say the least, I feel like I test dummy lol
correction he is not 28 he is 24
You’ve taken all the fun out Mik. Even if you just want somebody to go with you to the grocery store and the movies…MEN like to pursue. I think when you do this they get so lazy its hard to tell what they WANT to do and what they feel obliged to do. It could work. But I would totally stop any intiating. You’ve done enough work. Now let him do some.
Comeback calm down it wasn’t that MASS it was like 5 dudes!!! I emailed them all something different just as ms dev suggested just to strike a conversation so shoot me ok!! You and my best are just like!!!
I said slurpee cuz i cant say coffee shop its hot outside dang!! anyways I haven’t done anything further, we chatted for a while via email and I don’t HONESTLY think I have crossed the line yet, but according to some thats not true lol. I understand the whole chase idea but like ms dev said, fall back for once and forget about trying to get got!! I can have a 4 man plan with no men in it lol!!!
CAN’T
“I can have a 4 man plan with no men in it lol!!!”
ok I’m calm…but you can go to Starbucks. They have atmosphere, music, comfy sofas, and COLD drinks (tea, coffee, lemonaide) pastries…you catch my drift..I think there is an art to this dating thing. I think men need to feel empowered. Like they FOUND you. Now women do the choosing as well but I think it should be a little more passive aggressive.
Since you have to stay out of 7-11, go to starbucks for a cold coffee.
If he hasn’t asked for your number yet, go to that bar we were talking about earlier…order that cranberry and just start having random conversation; his initiation of course.
Somewhere in the Bible it states he who chooses a good woman chooses a good thing…didn’t want to quote that. I’ve been aggressive in the past and it hasn’t been cute. I’ve given a guy a compliment in the past as well, but my intent wasn’t to get his attention to pursue me. The compliment was genuine.
I guess even though Mik sent some PASSIVE (aggressive) notes to the fellas on BP, this new guy from the sub has the option to pursue/chase or drop the ball…
I think the notes are TOO aggressive.
Honestly the notes was totally random, I mean hell it was 12 at night and I was like ginuwine sooooooooooo anxious lol sike nawl I mean I just threw it out there to see what would happen I didn’t expect ANY of them to respond, and actually the sub is the only one who has,the rest kept it moving, I think the fact that HE continued the conversation allowed him to have the ball back so to speak.
here is what the note said
“just wanted to say you are rockin the hell outta that green button up”
Smiles
if that aint freakin suttle what is?? I didn’t say call me boo holla back non of that!!!
comeback you really can’t be so hard on a sista,
ps I forgot about going out!! ok yea im still gonna go I have to find something to wear.
oh to add this is online mind you so dude can’t see me winking and smiling making eye contact lol. So I ask the question when you are doing ONLINE DATING how can someone approach you if they don’t know you exist. I know bp has the hit list so you can see who visits your spot and correct me if I am wrong but figure since I didn’t get hits from peoples pages (I) visited I would assume they thought I wasn’t interested. (which in the subs case) I came across his page not the other way around.
after reading the email from shelia I am going to fall back and do the eye wink comeback approach, I vow to not strike up convo’s, just gonna go feminine 100% and see what it does.
whew i cant take this experimenting ish!
i gotta get you some books. Its Bootcamp time.
lmao comeback im not doing an sbm/hasani deprogramming lol ill be back, im dressed to go finally so wish me friggin luck cuz its 5 bucks to get in this damn club!! now i gotta drank wata!
I’m lost is this a date? WHATS GOING ON…Well be safe. You tell the Dave Matthews Band, I mean Dave Ramsey that getting out of debt SHOULD not be painful or require you to go to a hole in the wall.
lmao comeback, I hope your driving to the chi when we go cuz I will be go busy laughing! hole in the wall?? well it aint my fault lol, totally I had a good time but 21 in up just isnt popping anymore. The bar tender was nice, he gave me a free cosmo and one for really cheap, and I didn’t pay to get in so im not totally mad. No 4 man plan in this club, but yes no more holes/21 in the wall clubs!!
Mad I can type this after 25 dollars worth of drinks
thanx for this video
havent seen this in a longtime
hugsss
Wow, is all this consultation needed for the random dude on black planet.
I can’t speak for getting at guys (being non-gay & whatnot), but just be cool. The exact message u sent was too forward and made u seem like a future jumpoff (sorry …), but there is nothing wrong with sending the first message.
BTW … Its obvious what’s wrong with dude. I’m sure ya’ll already know, just in denial.
No sbm feel free to enlighten me
seeming and being is two different thinks damn, you acting like I did the shit already can I please go on a date first and draw my own conclusion??
Yes I’d like to know too….